Prerequisites....Good or Bad?? ( Archived) (31)

When you read someone's profile, and they are very specific in what they are looking for...do you find that a good thing or bad thing??

Let me outline a situation...

I had read someone's profile, he specifically said that he preferred slim/slender women...no problem but i would not be considered that by no stretch of the imagination...nor do i want to be....however I liked the rest of his profile and still contacted him...we became friends (which I said up front was all i wanted to be) we went out for drinks, and we've had a great time, he is as great a conversationalist as i thought he would be, he is a very attractive man and it was great to be in his company....here's the thing though...he would now like to have a relationship...and my answer has been...

He has changed his mind about the "body type"...I on the other hand am not willing to let him forget that by stating his preference so boldly on his profile he may have forfeited the company of many wonderful women....as well, I refuse to put myself in a position where I would be constantly questioning my "body"...even if it is only in my mind...

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a preference, but i'm not sure that such things as height and body type, eye colour, hair colour...things of that nature, need to be specified....

Agree or Disagree...

ursula you still look good to day when you did awhile back many moons ago good luck

Guess I'm like "fine wine" then huh....I age well??...lol

Thank you! All my best for the new year!

I don't think preferences are set in stone. There all always exceptions. He obviously was more open-minded than he appeared to be by talking to you in the first place. A lot of us (no not all of us) have an image in our mind of how we would ideally like her to look. When asked on a site like this sometimes we are honest. Hey...we are here looking for the person of our dreams; we might as well be honest on who we imagine that person is. That doesn't mean we aren't open to other ideas.


On the other foot....although my profile MAY be set up this way right now because I haven't yet revised it, I don't like when a guy has ANY all te way down the board.....so any woman will do as long as she is breathing? NOT....we are each different and initially attracted to certain things...doesn't mean personality won't persuade us into something else.

oops I said "her" I meant.......oh forget it. I think I'm still stuck in the lesbian thread from last night.

happy new year to you ursula hope al your dreams come true for you in 2007

All I had to do was look at the new pic!!

I specify certain things, such as height. For instance, I'm not attracted to very tall men. Never have been, never will be. If I put in my profile that I'm not looking for a guy over 6'2 (and that's stretching it; no pun intended), men 6'4 and over STILL contact me. What about "I don't like guys taller than 6'2" do they not understand? Do they think that they're otherwise so wonderful that I'm just going to fall at their feet?

Same with age. I'm not interested in dating men over 50...certainly no more than 55. It's just a preference. I've almost always dated men slightly younger than me. The fact I mention that in my profile doesn't do much good, however. I get contacted by men in their 70s, even!

So is it "wrong" to list specific preferences? I don't think so. He just better not be disappointed when I tell you that I'm not interested, and why, is all I can say.