Are you willing to re-locate for a new partner? (20)
Hey Bobby...when i first joined dating sites two years ago I walked into it thinking first of all this is going to be easy...just key in all my "prerequisites" and voila...instant match and happily ever after...do i need to say that is NOT how it works??
I gave "long distance" relationships a shot...because remember we are ALL willing to do WHATEVER it takes to be with the one we "Love"....even if it means goint to the ends of the earth...do I need to say that is NOT how it always works out??
Unless both people are willing to put 150% effort into making that relationship a reality (and i say 150 because for sure it takes more of your time and effort than a local relationship)...one usually ends up just "dating their computer"...
..."Was it really worth the time to meet and feel the love that is there, and relize the distance was a big determining factor in just ending it"....
I don't know the answer to that...
I wish i did....
I gave "long distance" relationships a shot...because remember we are ALL willing to do WHATEVER it takes to be with the one we "Love"....even if it means goint to the ends of the earth...do I need to say that is NOT how it always works out??
Unless both people are willing to put 150% effort into making that relationship a reality (and i say 150 because for sure it takes more of your time and effort than a local relationship)...one usually ends up just "dating their computer"...
..."Was it really worth the time to meet and feel the love that is there, and relize the distance was a big determining factor in just ending it"....
I don't know the answer to that...
I wish i did....
Thanks wikkid for your insight, it is always nice to hear what you have to say...
If it wouldn't be that I had kids I would definatly relocate.
Latly I have been thinking about it alot. Sometimes I just am tempted to pack up the kids and leave. I have not been happy here and sometimes I just dream to start a whole brand new life somewhere else.
But I would never do that to the kids nor their dads since they are very close. My children and their happiness will always come first to me.
But I think if I ever find that special guy whom I am 110% sure he was the one then it would be something I would think about. I would never move out of my country but I would contemplate about moving outside my province.
Latly I have been thinking about it alot. Sometimes I just am tempted to pack up the kids and leave. I have not been happy here and sometimes I just dream to start a whole brand new life somewhere else.
But I would never do that to the kids nor their dads since they are very close. My children and their happiness will always come first to me.
But I think if I ever find that special guy whom I am 110% sure he was the one then it would be something I would think about. I would never move out of my country but I would contemplate about moving outside my province.
Yes, I hear you on that , children do govern how we behave. I have been sticking close by to my daughter, we are certainly close in spirit and in the same postal code. I have always felt that she will need me more at some time, and that she would be moving in with me, and under the circumstances that are occurring now, that may become a reality.
If things un-fold differently, and I am living alone still, I would re-locate for love. I just have to know that my daughter is in good hands, and that I would be returning to see her, or have her come along with me, to see the world as it really is...round and full of adventure, and scenery.
On another note...I have heard people say that ..."my children have their life to live..and I have mine..." I guess as we get closer to meeting our maker, we look for that soul-mate much more deeply.
If things un-fold differently, and I am living alone still, I would re-locate for love. I just have to know that my daughter is in good hands, and that I would be returning to see her, or have her come along with me, to see the world as it really is...round and full of adventure, and scenery.
On another note...I have heard people say that ..."my children have their life to live..and I have mine..." I guess as we get closer to meeting our maker, we look for that soul-mate much more deeply.
..." I guess as we get closer to meeting our maker, we look for that soul-mate much more deeply"...
I too have heard this Bobby...I guess that with maturity comes the realization of our own mortalities...and the need to have that love...
Perhaps that is when decisions and priorities start to change...and resolutions to those question are made...
I too have heard this Bobby...I guess that with maturity comes the realization of our own mortalities...and the need to have that love...
Perhaps that is when decisions and priorities start to change...and resolutions to those question are made...
a very hard thing to do........i love my job, and couldn't ask for a better one, if i were to leave here, i would need a good job to go to, so it would have to be the whole package, even if he said 'i would take care of you'....that would not go well with me, i gotta take care of me and cannot fatham another person supporting me in that manner......it's 50/50........if there was a great job there in my field, and we knew it was the right thing to do, then pack my bags baby, i ma outta here, lol 
if we r right for eachother i would relocate
no love is worth leaving my children. When they are older and can care for themselves and dont need dad sure i would in a heart beat but not any time soon.
I am single and have no children ... I could go anywhere...
hell no. its rediculous. it might work out with a few, but that is only a few out of millions of people looking for love. not worth the heart ache. start a life all over again for something that is not a gurantee is sill.
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meant to say silly at the end of my sentence. sorrrrry.
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l to have kids and we are very close, the oldest lives right above me in her own apt. l was dating a guy almost 4 hours from me, it was a good relationship and we had planned on marrying one day but he accepted a job in Guam and asked me to come...that was just a bit to far for me to relocate, so we stayed friends and chat through emails all the time. l would definitly move anywhere in Ontario though, my ex and l have a separation agreement that says l can move anywhere in ontario as long as l am willing to meet him half way for any visitations....
awww honeydipped, i guess that means we dont have a chance.
I would definately sell my house and move to be with the right man. There are no strings holding me here. L.
I think a long distance relationship could work if one has the time and one person I know said being away with work added to the spice of a relationship but I understand here that it is really relocating.
If I felt secure enough in the relationship I would have no problem relocating. And,
I have known one person that did so (got married) and asked for a job transfer to that city because the person they seeked had a special quality that was really hard to find.
But basically, if one is being realistic and has no time to travel, then of course, having one close by is preferably.
If I felt secure enough in the relationship I would have no problem relocating. And,
I have known one person that did so (got married) and asked for a job transfer to that city because the person they seeked had a special quality that was really hard to find.
But basically, if one is being realistic and has no time to travel, then of course, having one close by is preferably.
I have been in three long distance relationships since my introduction to the internet. I talked to each one for varying lengths of time, and each one I felt a strong connection with. It was when I met them that my feelings changed. I think that's a big part of why I'm wary of online relationships. I find it difficult to not become emotionally attached to someone that you talk to for hours a day, for months or sometimes years before meeting. Depending on the relationship, sometimes it's not feasible to meet right away -eg: if you live in different corners of the world- I learned with each relationship that they were not who I thought they were. It was easier for me to create my own vision of the person, to see them as I wished they were and not necessarily who they really were. I don't see any of the three experiences as being a waste of time .. I learned valuable lessons with each, lessons that I'll carry with me through my lifelong journey. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and although at times it's difficult for me to see that... I know that in the end, everything is as it should be.
As for whether I would relocate, there was recently a similar thread asking about relocation. What wouldn't I do for real love? I would relocate, I don't have children and at present I am in this area for the next two years. Once I earn my BScN, I intend to move..it's one of the reasons I chose nursing. The flexibility, and the opportunity available in all corners of our global village.
There are people that I've talked to online recently and have felt a connection with, but it can be difficult when there is a considerable distance.
As for long distance relationships not working .. I don't think that's necessarily true .. relationships as a whole don't always work..your partner could live next door and it might not work, whereas you could meet someone who lives in Australia and you live in Canada .. and it works. Depends on the people involved. Certainly there are different challenges associated with long distance relationships and a majority of them don't work .. but as I just said..a majority of relationships period don't work.
It's all about finding what makes you whole :)
As for whether I would relocate, there was recently a similar thread asking about relocation. What wouldn't I do for real love? I would relocate, I don't have children and at present I am in this area for the next two years. Once I earn my BScN, I intend to move..it's one of the reasons I chose nursing. The flexibility, and the opportunity available in all corners of our global village.
There are people that I've talked to online recently and have felt a connection with, but it can be difficult when there is a considerable distance.
As for long distance relationships not working .. I don't think that's necessarily true .. relationships as a whole don't always work..your partner could live next door and it might not work, whereas you could meet someone who lives in Australia and you live in Canada .. and it works. Depends on the people involved. Certainly there are different challenges associated with long distance relationships and a majority of them don't work .. but as I just said..a majority of relationships period don't work.
It's all about finding what makes you whole :)
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Since the introduction of the internet, I can imagine how many people have been "connected" from large distances, making a huge leap of faith into un-known regions to seek out a possible love match. If you experienced a love affair from afar, will you , or have you ventured into that relationship by moving in with your new mate? Are you willing to re-locate? And if not, what happens to the sparks that have been created...Do they dwindle into the past, and you learn that long distance relationships indeed do not work?
Was it really worth the time to meet and feel the love that is there, and relize the distance was a big determining factor in just ending it?