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lookn2shareSunny, Florida USA21 Threads 2 Polls 419 Postsserena56: Correct, she is not a child, but she has very little experience when it comes to relationships (a plus in a way). Yes, we must let them figure it out on their own...but if they can't, we should at least try to help, even though they dismiss your wisdom on whatever the subject may be. Actually...some are too gullible to figure things out, sad but true.
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Rachie14: You are way off on the assumption of me wanting him gone. I want him to be a man and be responsible for what he had a hand in producing. The reality is... I have not met him!!! The reason I haven't is because I had a feeling this present situation would unfold just like it has. I also didn't say good things can't come from meeting someone online. Thank you pretty lady for sharing.
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lookn2share: Rachie14: You are way off on the assumption of me wanting him gone. I want him to be a man and be responsible for what he had a hand in producing. The reality is... I have not met him!!! The reason I haven't is because I had a feeling this present situation would unfold just like it has. I also didn't say good things can't come from meeting someone online. Thank you pretty lady for sharing.
Then please try and talk to him. It's worth a try for that grandchild of yours 
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Rachie14: I am going to go out on a limb and surmise...my daughter doesn't want me to talk to him. Again...from the beginning, I tried to explain to my daughter the reality of getting with a guy who has never had kids around, the shock and awe of two growing boys being a pain he has never had to deal with. I knew when that reality hit him, he would duck and run...just like he has. I've tried to steer my daughter in the right direction many times, only to be ignored. She is my daughter, and I will still keep trying to give her sound advice, even though she won't listen. Thank you again pretty lady!
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lookn2share: My 34 year old daughter (As sweet as they come!!) met a guy on-line about 18 months ago (Which I wasn't thrilled about). According to her and some others who met him, he was THE one. He could cook, was good to my gullible child, ! Well they wanted to get pregnant...and now that she is 24 weeks into her pregnancy, he all of a sudden decides... this isn't what I want! Now from a father's standpoint, having to see my daughter suffer through the ripping out of her heart, crying, etc...Father's might can imagine what I seriously want to do to this self-centered, heartless piece of slime. A hint...it rhymes with Pill! I am so sick inside for my girl. She already has Two boys. All I can do is try to make her believe she'll eventually get over it, which is something she can't perceive right now. Anyway...
It must be painful to be so powerless when it comes to situations with kids and them beig old enough to make their own decisions.All you can do is be supportive...if the opportunity arises and u get to mert this guy i would have a quiet word maybe...but there is little else you can do only be there for her.
I wish you and your daughter the best
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It takes two to tango you only know what you've been told by your loved one nobody know's what goes on behind closed doors and I will presume that maybe just maybe things weren't all good behind closed doors maybe just maybe she thought having a child would keep him by her side.
The above might come off as rude your daughter's an adult don't harp at her about him especially of her two sons are there to hear things that they shouldn't be hearing they could get back together so don't help to create a toxic environment you now have two boys and one on the way those children need a healthy environment regardless your disdain for him.
Online dating can't be blamed it's the choices we ourselves make.
The above might come off as rude your daughter's an adult don't harp at her about him especially of her two sons are there to hear things that they shouldn't be hearing they could get back together so don't help to create a toxic environment you now have two boys and one on the way those children need a healthy environment regardless your disdain for him.
Online dating can't be blamed it's the choices we ourselves make.
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Its human nature to protect your daughter during times like this, but let's have a reality check here.
She met a guy online 18 months ago & is already pregnant with his child!!
Surely there is no foundation in which to build a long lasting relationship, based on the little time they were together.
Without knowledge of either your daughter , nor the potential father in question, we cannot make a judgment based on the limited information we have available.
However, if my daughter was in that position, 2 children & a potential 3rd, I would think of myself as a failure, as far as fatherhood was concerned.
She met a guy online 18 months ago & is already pregnant with his child!!
Surely there is no foundation in which to build a long lasting relationship, based on the little time they were together.
Without knowledge of either your daughter , nor the potential father in question, we cannot make a judgment based on the limited information we have available.
However, if my daughter was in that position, 2 children & a potential 3rd, I would think of myself as a failure, as far as fatherhood was concerned.
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One2note: Its human nature to protect your daughter during times like this, but let's have a reality check here.
She met a guy online 18 months ago & is already pregnant with his child!!
Surely there is no foundation in which to build a long lasting relationship, based on the little time they were together.
Without knowledge of either your daughter , nor the potential father in question, we cannot make a judgment based on the limited information we have available.
However, if my daughter was in that position, 2 children & a potential 3rd, I would think of myself as a failure, as far as fatherhood was concerned.
Could you clarify, why you would consider yourself a failure.?She met a guy online 18 months ago & is already pregnant with his child!!
Surely there is no foundation in which to build a long lasting relationship, based on the little time they were together.
Without knowledge of either your daughter , nor the potential father in question, we cannot make a judgment based on the limited information we have available.
However, if my daughter was in that position, 2 children & a potential 3rd, I would think of myself as a failure, as far as fatherhood was concerned.
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Mercedes_00: It takes two to tango you only know what you've been told by your loved one nobody know's what goes on behind closed doors and I will presume that maybe just maybe things weren't all good behind closed doors maybe just maybe she thought having a child would keep him by her side.
The above might come off as rude your daughter's an adult don't harp at her about him especially of her two sons are there to hear things that they shouldn't be hearing they could get back together so don't help to create a toxic environment you now have two boys and one on the way those children need a healthy environment regardless your disdain for him.
Online dating can't be blamed it's the choices we ourselves make.
The above might come off as rude your daughter's an adult don't harp at her about him especially of her two sons are there to hear things that they shouldn't be hearing they could get back together so don't help to create a toxic environment you now have two boys and one on the way those children need a healthy environment regardless your disdain for him.
Online dating can't be blamed it's the choices we ourselves make.
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annaroach: Could you clarify, why you would consider yourself a failure.?
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Was that for me? I didn’t say nothing out way
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Packersbabe1: Was that for me? I didn’t say nothing out way
No , it wasn't for you !
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annaroach: Thank you much for stepping in, I am just seeing (Packersbabe1) her concern.
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Packersbabe1: No you didn't babe1...don't know what made you think it was. No worries young lady.
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Oh ok, you had posted under me so I was asking 
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lookn2share: Rachie14: I am going to go out on a limb and surmise...my daughter doesn't want me to talk to him. Again...from the beginning, I tried to explain to my daughter the reality of getting with a guy who has never had kids around, the shock and awe of two growing boys being a pain he has never had to deal with. I knew when that reality hit him, he would duck and run...just like he has. I've tried to steer my daughter in the right direction many times, only to be ignored. She is my daughter, and I will still keep trying to give her sound advice, even though she won't listen. Thank you again pretty lady!
Well if she isn't going to talk to him and you're not. The baby cannot speak for itself. I would understand if there were not children involved in this. But there are and it seems to me nobody is being mature about this. You are saying she is naive, but has 2 children. She doesn't have to be in a relationship with him. But the baby should have the option of having that relationship with their father. The baby comes before anyone elses feelings about the situation. They were mature enough to decide they wanted a baby. Now time for all of you to grow up.
Sorry to be harsh. But too many fathers in this world go without seeing their children. For various reasons. He has made one mistake... not several.
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serene56: Amen...I hold on to hope!
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Rachie14: She has told me since the initial conversation, he wants to be part of the child's life, we'll see. Too reiterate... I had a bad feeling from the day she told me about meeting him, and telling me she was moving in with him after only several months of knowing each other. I told her she was making a mistake... get to know one another for a while longer before moving 60 miles away, in the middle of nowhere. In the end, All I want is my daughter to be okay (happy?). It doesn't matter what we say or think...what will be will be! I do know, if she would have heeded my concerns over the years, she'd be in a better position, but I digress! Thank you again for your perspective pretty lady.
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