Men and women. ........ Parenting styles..... ( Archived) (15)

Of course there are differences. And these often are a cause of considerable family stress. Often the main thing needing changes from a therapy standpoint. And sadly, the reason for many divorces and screwed up kids. But ya got to see 'em to treat 'em. Men refuse help more than the ladies, but are more workable, with someone who can relate and stand up to the BS.

Yes, S. Especially if done with poorly qualified so called therapists. No shortage of these, and sadly, of folks who have tried a few, without help. Many actually cause more damage. I should know. Thanks.

Men teach you boundaries and tolerances.. Dad's let you make your own mistakes, even with the lawnmower. And to obey an order doesn't mean you have to like the order, you tolerate the rules and commands. Fathers give direction, perspective and proportion.

Women teach you more self-belief and confidence. You can be anything you want to be all you have to do is believe. But to obey an order you must also like the order, the authority must be personally liked. You must believe as well as obey. It's not enough to go and see your grandma because it's your duty as a grandchild, you must want to see your grandma and you're a bad person if you don't. Woman is totalitarian in this regard where man is authoritarian. There's no tolerance and no boundary, the feeling and passions overwhelm all other considerations. Mothers are the fuel, the energy and the emotion.

Well, M. Believe me, they often make many of our skin crawl. Worst when some of us see traces of the BS in our own selves, no?

Yep, S. A Major reason many do. As with lots of professions and jobs. Lots enter for personal reasons, and they don't always belong there. But some do.

Good points, CC.