Just spoke with my sister regarding a few incidences of “courtesy in traffic” that had me a little rattled. Twice recently, while allowing a vehicle to enter the road ( because it was just going to be impossible for her/him otherwise), I was honked at, flipped off, at least one car raced around me, shouting obscenities, etc...Well, my very wise sibling directed me to the Oregon manual. Sure enough, in general traffic flow (non-emergency or school/city bus) the driver being courteous is at fault for IMPEDING TRAFFIC. Likewise, the manual states that it is illegal to give hand signals, I.e. “wave” a vehicle in, over, etc...Gee, no good deed goes unpunished, huh? I’d like to know what other regions have in place. Footnote—a Portland cyclist is suing and most assuredly will win because she followed the wave of a driver only to be struck by another. By the way, no more mr. nice guy from me—I’m not getting in trouble for being courteous. Not happening.
It seems ungracious BUT ... if a person 'gives a wave' (or a flash) or pauses to let someone in and the other driver acts on that it does create a problem.
There's lots on YouTube ... driver pauses, waves a driver who is waiting to turn across the front into a side street and the turning vehicle takes out a motor cyclist or cyclist who was approaching down the inside of the lane.
Or similar - pausing / waving a driver who wants to join the flow, or to cross the flow to turn left or right and then gets struck by a vehicle traveling down the 'far lane'
( L & R have different relevancies if you have LH or RH steering )
Sure, I'm polite in traffic and have no hesitation 'helping a fellow driver' by letting them in to a SINGLE lane but I'm REAL cautious about doing so in 'patchy traffic' or where there's cycle lanes and Ped Xings !
rohaan: Just spoke with my sister regarding a few incidences of “courtesy in traffic” that had me a little rattled. Twice recently, while allowing a vehicle to enter the road ( because it was just going to be impossible for her/him otherwise), I was honked at, flipped off, at least one car raced around me, shouting obscenities, etc...Well, my very wise sibling directed me to the Oregon manual. Sure enough, in general traffic flow (non-emergency or school/city bus) the driver being courteous is at fault for IMPEDING TRAFFIC. Likewise, the manual states that it is illegal to give hand signals, I.e. “wave” a vehicle in, over, etc...Gee, no good deed goes unpunished, huh? I’d like to know what other regions have in place. Footnote—a Portland cyclist is suing and most assuredly will win because she followed the wave of a driver only to be struck by another. By the way, no more mr. nice guy from me—I’m not getting in trouble for being courteous. Not happening.
One time this lady had a complete and total meltdown because I wouldn't leave enough room for her to make a left turn in front of me. She was flipping me off, yelling out the window, beeping her horn, etc.
The reason I wouldn't let her in to make the turn was because I could plainly see, by looking in my rearview mirror, a looooong line of cars approaching - thus - safety was my concern, for HER!
RedHeadedTaurus: One time this lady had a complete and total meltdown because I wouldn't leave enough room for her to make a left turn in front of me. She was flipping me off, yelling out the window, beeping her horn, etc.
The reason I wouldn't let her in to make the turn was because I could plainly see, by looking in my rearview sideview mirror, a looooong line of cars approaching - thus - safety was my concern, for HER!
RedHeadedTaurus: One time this lady had a complete and total meltdown because I wouldn't leave enough room for her to make a left turn in front of me. She was flipping me off, yelling out the window, beeping her horn, etc.
The reason I wouldn't let her in to make the turn was because I could plainly see, by looking in my rearview mirror, a looooong line of cars approaching - thus - safety was my concern, for HER!
I just smiled and waved.
BOO! Yeah, no good deed goes unpunished. Still, it’s better to do the right thing. But I’m treading lightly...it would just fry my nerves (and they’re already on a hot griddle, anyway.. ) to get in trouble for being a nice guy.
RedHeadedTaurus: One time this lady had a complete and total meltdown because I wouldn't leave enough room for her to make a left turn in front of me. She was flipping me off, yelling out the window, beeping her horn, etc.
The reason I wouldn't let her in to make the turn was because I could plainly see, by looking in my rearview mirror, a looooong line of cars approaching - thus - safety was my concern, for HER!
I just smiled and waved.
Nowadays people are extremely frustrated and aggressive. BE CAREFUL OUT THERE FOLKS.
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