DedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia5,492 posts
Selenite: Emotional intelligence is partly about not blaming others for those emotions tied to the irrational part of our being and partly how you handle those emotions sprung from the irrational part of our being without projecting the whole lot onto someone else ...
Happy New Year Bob!!
sure, why not, it can be observed as a intelligent way of handling a situation
tomcatty: "Anyone can become angry—that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way—that is not easy."
In this quote, the philosopher Aristotle perfectly sums up a concept that has become a hot topic in psychology, education, and business—emotional intelligence.
Emotionally intelligent people engage in a number of habits and behaviors that contribute to their ability to manage their own emotions and understand the feelings of others. Do you know anyone who is keenly attuned to his or her own feelings, capable of expressing emotions in an appropriate way, as well as empathetic and understanding of how others are feeling? That person is probably a very emotionally intelligent individual.
Do you think you are emotionally intelligent, or do you think emotional intelligence help to make a good stable relationship?
DedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia5,492 posts
Youcannow: Sounds very boring . If they are that self controlled, then I can imagine they will be likewise in the bedroom .
To be honest, i dont have much experience in the bedroom ,but crying in bed with a Woman was less effective than tying her to the bedframe and riding her like a untamed mustang my point her is - the ability to adapt to the given situation - is that emotional intelligence?- cunningness? -ability to read the little signs? ... I dont really know
DedovixBig Place, Central Serbia Serbia5,492 posts
Selenite: Exactly!! All the while being self-aware without repressing the emotions
Im not sure what you said here or perhaps its cause i have a different view -in order to handle a situation wisely - intelligent, sometimes we have to repress or suppress our emotions -
its a learnt false feeling learnt in childhood IMO
No emotion is wrong, it just is.
If I see someone beating a child with a belt and feel anger, it's not wrong, or false that I feel that way. It's just the emotion I experience.
If I had been beaten with a belt as a child and became an angry adult who took that anger out on my own children, then I would be misunderstanding my anger: I'd be blaming the child for being naughty, rather than seeing my anger was with the person who beat me.
The feelng isn't false, but understanding the feeling can be.
Dedovix: Im not sure what you said here or perhaps its cause i have a different view -in order to handle a situation wisely - intelligent, sometimes we have to repress or suppress our emotions -
I don't know ... repress or supress for me means pretend those emotions don't exist which is really unhealthy... There's another way which is to be aware of them and realise they sprung up from inside us and not blame the other person for them ... it may require time to go do some navel gazing ... them go back to continue conversation with the person ...
Dedovix: To be honest, i dont have much experience in the bedroom ,but crying in bed with a Woman was less effective than tying her to the bedframe and riding her like a untamed mustang my point her is - the ability to adapt to the given situation - is that emotional intelligence?- cunningness? -ability to read the little signs? ... I dont really know
People , particularly women like different things.
English men have a habit of controlling their emotions around women but turn into animals after a few pints in the pub . It’s the passive/ aggressive nature in their persona, whereas real men can control their emotions in all situations.
Dedovix: To be honest, i dont have much experience in the bedroom ,but crying in bed with a Woman was less effective than tying her to the bedframe and riding her like a untamed mustang my point her is - the ability to adapt to the given situation - is that emotional intelligence?- cunningness? -ability to read the little signs? ... I dont really know
Emotional intelligence does include being able to recoginse and adapt to facial expressions, tone of voice and other indicators of people's emotions.
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