In love with best friend NEED HELP!!! ( Archived) (28)

I need some impartial advice. I love my best friend. And YES she's a girl. We spend lots of time together and are like peas and carrots. I've somehow managed to keep myself from going head over heels for her because......she's married. He works a strange job where she may not see him for a month at the time. She rarely mentions him, but when she does it's a complaint.
There's never been any form of inappropriate dialogue or action between us. We're just real good friends. Basically I'm asking, should I tell her how I feel or bite my tongue?

don't be a dawg jmo She needs to work on herself before making a triangle.................

She is married and as long as she is married, you should respect that. If she is interested in you romantically, she will let you know. But for now, you should bite your tongue and try to move on. It is a difficult thing for you to do, and the best of luck to you.

if there was a common interest along those lines you and her would have already detected it.

it's not nice jumping in to someone elses garden even if it is your neighbors who you see daily. in fact its wrong.. on so many levels.

she hardly memtions her relationships outside of the wrokplace to you... you may just be infatuated,

As for honesty... if you can continue being a co-worker after you reveal your hearts feelings, should be more concerned of losing good coworkers and good job. they are hard to come by.
from what little you have said...

CYA... if you tell her. and personnaly don't think you and her are even close to being on same page with the interest aspect.

You need to leave this one alone......

somebody is going to get hurt here.....that's almost a fact.


Give it time....if you are meant to be with her, you will be but forcing it will only bring severe problems.

I think that if it's your best friend, she already guessed your thoughts...or supposes them...
Honesty would be a good way, a best friend is able to hear and understand it.
Don't let this feeling takes a place more and more heavy between her and you.

Jumping in the middle of anyone's marriage is TROUBLE...Not only for you BUT for her!!!!!! If she is indeed in a bad marriage it is her that needs to do something about it...either end it or repair it!!!! The last thing she needs is a distraction from what it is she needs to deal with and that is her marriage!!!!!

I realize you are her best friend but don't give her anymore to be confused about and to have to deal with!!!!! Be there for her if she needs you as a friend and don't let her know how you feel unless/until she has dealt with the issues in her marriage and decides to leave!!!!!! By telling her how you feel, you just might lose your best friend if she doesnt feel the same and also if you get involved before her marriage is over and she decides to stay with her husband...........you will still lose her!!!!!!

Be her friend for now and if you can't JUST do that then you should distance yourself from the friendship until you can!!!!!!

well said.