Why do men..... (22)
JaneBond30 Threads 1,058 Postsand women have such high expectations in the person they are hoping to find? Are we being unrealistic, thinking that one person exists, somewhere, and has everything we are looking for, all in that one person? 
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LOL of course we do! Its the goal of everyone to find the perfect mate.....which is why I am still alone and single......as I am pretty much the closest thing to perfection in this world (except for my son) so I am doomed to be alone.
But in all seriousness, love is the ability to accept someone for their faults and weaknesses, then love them even more!
But in all seriousness, love is the ability to accept someone for their faults and weaknesses, then love them even more!
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High expectations is a good thing ... it saves on attorney's fees later on.
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Search me? 
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We should only be allowed to marry for two terms, 4 years each. Paws
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Its too easy to get supplemental emotional and phyiscal fixes to get us through while waiting for the Mr./ Miss Right.
I am sometimes guilty of this.
he wise "Red Green" has this lil prayer it goes soemthing like this
"I am a man,
I can change.
if i have to,
I guess."
ain't those the purtiest sinceriest words ya ever read?????
I am sometimes guilty of this.
he wise "Red Green" has this lil prayer it goes soemthing like this
"I am a man,
I can change.
if i have to,
I guess."
ain't those the purtiest sinceriest words ya ever read?????
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You learn through your experiences to be more selective next time. There is nothing essentially wrong with having high expectations. It is a matter of choice. You either lower your standards and broaden your pool of potential significant others; Or, keep high standards, lower the probability of finding your match.
You'll probably find someone faster with the former option but may more likely end up getting disappointed.
Am I too philosophical??
You'll probably find someone faster with the former option but may more likely end up getting disappointed.
Am I too philosophical??
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Unrealistic, over-idealistic, and sometimes downright ridiculous in the expectations people have of there partners.
Acceptance of the differences gives the room for growth within yourself and your partner....seeking to find one person to 'complete' you means you were less than whole to start with.
There is no perfection in a partner...we are all imperfect.
Acceptance of the differences gives the room for growth within yourself and your partner....seeking to find one person to 'complete' you means you were less than whole to start with.
There is no perfection in a partner...we are all imperfect.
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I don't have high expectations about someone I want to meet. I would not meet them if they didn't have certain qualities in the 1st place. After that, I don't place any expectations on them, but want them to just be themselves. If it doesn't work out, or if I don't meet their expectations, it wasn't meant to be.
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I do agree that some expectations are necessary. And that we learn through our experiences. I am enjoying the journey. Atleast I am not unhappy even if I get disappointed and hurt at times. I am learning to allow people to be themselves because I can't change them or mold them. even if they can't give me what I want and need atleast they have helped me to learn more about what I want. This way I can let go without having to blame or be angry at them because they were important to me, it just wasn't meant to be.
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Whether it's an expectation or a desire depends on their level of maturity I would say.
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This is a very good question. I don't have 'high expectations' so much as standards that I see as being critical for any form of relationship to grow/thrive. One of those is intelligence. She could be a model, and if talking to her is like watching paint peel on a wall while she replies with 'yeah, uh huh, mhmm' or other... it would never ever be more than friends.
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aim for the moon hun if ya miss you mite get a star
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now that'a a good one. Miss and hit.......Kinda like that thought process.
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I think we are all trying to put someone in a mold that we can't. But its better to aim high with your standards. But what are standards anyway. I think we are all trying to find that one heart that connects with our, that words cant explain the feeling you get with them. Love is something we chase because we dont have that kinda love in our life. Being unrealistic, maybe..
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it does not hurt to dream: 
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the key you mention is unhappy. I guess if you remain unhappy from each negative experience all you're bringing forward is negativity. I agree with you when you say you can't change or mold an individual, nor they you. Maybe it's not only unrealistic as Jess says, not just in what we hope to find in another person but in ourselves also?
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OMFG 
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You may want to reread his post, I'd bet he was joking due to his next paragraph where he states, "But in all seriousness"
I don't see anything wrong in having high expectations. Keeps you from making the same mistakes over and over
I don't see anything wrong in having high expectations. Keeps you from making the same mistakes over and over
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