True love or not? ( Archived) (10)

Changed the title, see what responses come now.

Person is married, not been happy for a long time and from afar loved another. Conveyed that love to this guy, eventually and both fell in love. Both feel as soulmates. Carrying on a secret relatiohship for almost 3 years. The woman, having this love very deep love for this guy...feels for whatever reason she can't leave her husband until kids are older (one is 18 the other is 16). Like a further duty must be fullfilled. Seems there is some family in play, fear is that she would get isolated and/or he might get stupid in some fashion.

Thoughts?

Is this a relationship online or do the parties actually spend time together? Are they intimate?

I don't care what the title is. She's married. End story.
She won't leave, not can't. there's a difference.

Personally...I would have left if things were that bad that she had to find love elsewhere and if they are she isnt doing her children any favors by staying!!!!

In these kinds of situations nobody wins...It could very well be love...BUT if she isnt willing to follow through all the way I would say it's not!!!!!

Classic recipe for disaster -Lacking commitement, integrity & honesty.
Live, learn & move on

Appreciate the inputs!

It doesn't work....

Part of the "excitement" of this relationship is the fact that it is "forbidden fruit"...
Soulmate?? in someone else's spouse?...well that's a new one for me...does the wife know that her "soulmate" does double duty on the "soulmate committee"??

Does a relationship started and based on lies and deceipt ever really stand a chance?...Will this man not wonder what will this "soulmate" do IF he doesn't measure up to her expectations down the road somewhere...perhaps if another "soulmate" makes an appearance...because obviously from what you say here "soulmates" are whoever takes your fancy at the moment...

I am always amused at the reasons people will come up with to justify CHEATING...because that's really all this is...wrap it up however you want..its still CHEATING at the end of the day...

I guess some people are content to be other peoples "dirty little secret" as long as they are "soulmates"...

it's hard to to leave behind even harder to loose the admiration and respect of your own child, and whether or not they 18 or 21 that ostacle will still there...when the secret is revealed its 3 years of lies that will be seen.

you cannot unjump from off a cliff... and for her this will be that cliff. patience and plenty of space fo rher to make this decision if you truly love her. it'a a lotta life to let go of. the future grandchildren the weddings of her children.. these are lifes moments that parents live for.


do you love her enough to remain the other man???

Taboo and Wicked are right ... who burns bridges unless they absolutely have to ... male or female ... and there is smoe truth to Nayive Grl "forbidden fruit theory too. Ha ve fun if you must but don't expect this stock to gain in the long run and take are of the children. Her's not yours.