SETTING SOME RECORDS STRAIGHT... ( Archived) (55)

Continued…..

If you are having personal problems with another member, we don't want it in the forums. It’s gossip and creates an unfriendly environment of mistrust. We have said over and over again, report it to "Contact Us", or deal with it through private email. The forums are not the place to air dirty laundry or to get even with others who you feel have wronged you! This is a dating site, not a perfect world. All too often, some people feel that ‘all is fair in love and war’. Not true…games and deceit are unfortunate and wrong. But be aware, this happens in your online relationships as well as offline. It is foolish to believe that email-promises ensure a commitment or chain a soul. Your online lover is not under your control and does not become your personal property.

Some of these people who have been using the site long term seem to be bitter that the site is "making money from ads”, and have posted nasty things about this in the forums. Heaven forbid that this quality service would make any money! These ungrateful people have such a sense of entitlement and are so bitter and so angry; they can't even accept that a website has to support itself! Just because the site is free to use, does not mean it is free to run. This is a FREE site, we don't charge you anything, ever… but the site has bills just as you do. Running and maintaining this site is very costly. No one is making huge money here… trust us! If the complainers who spout this garbage had been paying even a penny a day for the endless hours they have spent here, we would be though!

So, anyway, many have gone, but the good news is that the best are left… and many new interesting singles are joining each day. For those remaining, we are glad you are here. We’re sorry that you are having to deal with these current problems, but hang in there… good things are planned and happening. We are busy working on improvements to the forums, adding a public/private chat system, and videos are in the future.

Those that tell you that you can’t say anything or speak your mind here are lying to you. Read the rules. We expect you to know them. Think before you post. Then enjoy the site and have fun making friends here.

If you miss your friends who are gone, and you are looking for someone to blame…blame the people who are responsible for this, who played you like pawns in their own control games, who were not here looking for dates but a flock to follow them. These people were here because they were bored and wanted to play games and think it’s fun to cause trouble.
Don’t blame us. We simply did what we had to do

Thanks Rebecca9. Jack, we hope you will feel comfortable now to join in and post more often. Jan, we always welcome constructive comments. I will try to address them.

The forums are a very minor part of the population here with forum usage being ever changing and somewhat cyclical. And, of course, dating is our main focus here.

If you are bored with the forum right now, it may be time to take some time away, or concentrate on making friendships in the dating area for awhile.

As I stated, all members are treated equally and reports can only generate staff attention to offending threads when they are actually sent to us.

The audience of the forums is widely varied and diverse. Unfortunately all the threads cannot satisfy all the people, all the time. As we have said before, ‘You (all of you) are the forums. The forums are you.’ The threads and posts reflect the forum membership. But an ‘attitude’ can be developed, or changed, by just a few angry or controlling posters. And when staff decisions are constantly fought by this verbal few followed by their flock, it is difficult to maintain a quality fun environment. We agree, it’s unfortunate in this case where many good posters did get swept away due to being misled and recruited by the small angry core group that caused this.

If you do not find threads of interest to you, you have the choice of not posting for a time or starting some threads on topics you DO enjoy discussing. We are, however, working on a way to separate the forum categories a little more, to allow everyone to have their own style without being annoyed by a different style of others.

We are very optimistic about the future here. Of course, whether or not you choose to help create the place you seek, is up to each one of you.

keep up the good work...I enjoy your site and ppl on it thanks