Broken Hearted {{{again}}} ( Archived) (14)

Hello. The day has come once again when I am feeling that devistated empty feeling that comes with a break up, even though it is mutual. No one is at fault really, the reasons are too complex.

During this time, I am trying to count the blessing I do have and be very thankful for the love that did exist with us for the past two and a half years. A love that was much stronger that I realized at the time, a rare and cherished love.

Any comforting words?

Hi, Susie all I can say is, that for what your saying, it was an experience well worthed and I'm glad you have the chance to experience love.
I am new on a relationship after almost 8 years, we don't know what is going to happen but I would not regreat, not even for a minute what we have. Every break up is this difficult and painful, all I can say is stay around here and love might surprise you once more and this time might be for the rest of your life!
When one door close, many more are waiting to be open!

Take care,

Yami.

I agree, some people can't stand heartache and go into a shell after losing someone they love. I've had my share of disappointments but it hasn't stopped me from looking. Keep looking.

Hang in there, Susie. Yes, that empty feeling can get to ya. Friendships are sure a lot easier on the heart and you can still be friends where a relationship kind odf just ends right there. Good way to look at it regarding that breakup. I know it must hurt from the way you described the cherished love. You seem like an understanding person since you can see both sides and I think that says a lot right there. With an attitude like that I think you have a very good chance of finding love again. That much stronger feeling I can identify with since sometimes it takes a breakup to really know what kind of a relationship that you had. I like the way you are trying to comfort yourself and at the same time seek comfort from others. To me that shows maturity and a person that can share with another while at the same time stand on her own two feet. The way you say again shows me that you are not easy defeated and have a survival instinct to you. I am sorry it turned out the way it did for you and I hope you find a more simpler relationship that will be satisfactory for you and your partner.

If my comment starts a Holy war-go for it, but count me out. I'm not wasting time defending my words with anyone with a closed Spirit.

Girl you will be ok. I know because you seem like you are mature and healthy emotionally. Have you ever heard the saying when one door closes another one opens? I will say a prayer for you, that God will give you far more greater than you can even imagine. You never know what surprises tomorrow may bring! I have learned a lot after a break up. It is in that time that you can re evaluate what went wrong, and what you want in the next relationship. Even though it was mutual-something didn't work. Just don't go on the rebound. I'm sure your friends will be glad to hang a little closer to help get you through. And don't be afraid to ask them.

I know what you are feeling. The only thing I can say is to keep your chin up, feel good about who you are. It hurts like everything at the time, but as you know time takes care of the wound. Try not to let any man, or anyone make you feel a certain way. We are responsible for our own feelings. Even though it hurts, keep telling yourself you will be ok and there is someone else out there for you, and you will find them. Try also,if this person had any bad qualities to write them down. When the good memories start flooding in, read what you have written. Believe me it does help. You can find something bad if you try.

I know this ever so well. It's like 11:30 on new yrs eve, and I am at home alone. Friends are all over doing this and that, whether with their women or elsewhere. Right now is a very lonely time. I'm not going to go out alone, and definitly don't plan on driving (even if I'm not drinking, I don't want the hassle with the area law enforcement). I remember how great it was to have someone in my life to celebrate the new yr. I wish it was monday afternoon, so I could watch my Ohio State Buckeyes play in the Fiesta Bowl. I hope everyone is safe, and happy new yr

Thanks everyone, sorry to be a downer. The situation has not changed, but I have. Better frame of mind and the feeling of hope. Thanks again.

Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved.

It's beautiful when it's there, terrible when things break. If I had to do it all again I would, a hundred times over, because the rush of emotion is so fulfilling, that I am glad that I have given of my heart...