Is Love ever a mistake? ( Archived) (84)

I have heard quite a few people ask, What is real love? Or "Does real love exist?"

My theory is that love is perfect in it's pure and natural state... people are not perfect but that doesn't keep them from falling in love.

We make mistakes and if we are wise we learn from them. And I believe that Love helps us learn in our relationships because it is accepting and it is truth.
I know humans make mistakes but we are not our mistakes and love is our natural condition which we were born with, fear is what we learn. I have heard that love can conquer all but I believe that we must first conquer our own fears. we cannot conquer someone else's. And maybe to conquer sometimes means to let go. You show someone you love them sometimes by letting go because Freedom is the truth of Love...and we are not all at the same place at the same time. These strong feelings that we call love can be hard to let go of, something started this reaction. I always seek to understand, I hurt like hell if the love is not returned and I learn to let go. This is my favorite quote...

In the end what matter most is...

How well did you live?
How well did you love?
How well did you learn to let go?

So what do you think...Is Love ever a mistake? Or do you see it as a learning experience? Or just a little bit of heaven sent down to worry the hell out of us?... That was the flip side but also the way people feel sometimes. I also think of no pain, no gain. Because I do believe it takes a strong emotional impact to change us sometimes and to move us.

So what ya think about love?

I don't think that love is ever a mistake, as long as it is a learning experience. I do think that we can mistakenly love the wrong person, for the wrong reasons, but I don't think love itself is wrong...especially if it is unconditional, pure, & true.


Love is a wonderful thing that can hurt like hell sometimes, unfortunately. It's up to us as to how we utilize all of those feelings...good, or bad. And it can be tricky, no doubt.


Good, thought provoking question!


I could probably go on all day pondering this, and coming up with all sorts of thoughts & opinions on this matter...

No, it's never a mistake to love...
It's a gift to all who are loved and give love.

There is "should" "shouldn't" and love...when love works I don't think it will feel like you are being run over by a truck but both people do have to want it and both need to work on nurturing a loving relationship...communication and expressing feelings is always a good way but for various reasons this can be difficult for people to do.

Thank you, I really enjoyed your share.

I really enjoyed reading your thoughts on love. Who doesn't want to love and be loved. But with that comes vulnerability and responsibility for how one's actions impacts our loved one. Still, without love I feel incomplete.

What do you mean when you say you keep falling for the wrong types again and again?