The Chemistry/Compatability Ballance. (7)
This is way tough of a thread for me, because i know in a relationship you gotta have both. As for one over the other i guess...i will say definetly compatability, because chemistry i think you can acheive toghether....but if your not compatable...then you couldn't achieve one or the other....see im confusing myself...
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IMO Compatibility can be worked on by flexibility however chemistry is either there or its not 
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I suppose there are different kinds of chemistry between people; I like total chemistry, and that includes the way we get along, the affinity and sensibility. Chemistry is a powerful force that I would never deny, just because I can be compatinble with many who don't attract me in the least, if that makes sense.
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Don't be confused,Stew ( because if you are confused then i'm confused too 
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Seriously.... those are exactly my thoughts too
No matter how much we are in luff (chemistry is a one form of Lust ... i think so)
it will pass eventually if there is no compatabilitiy
) Seriously.... those are exactly my thoughts too
No matter how much we are in luff (chemistry is a one form of Lust ... i think so)
it will pass eventually if there is no compatabilitiy
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True enough...compatablility should be the basis for a relationship, with chemistry complementing the bond of compatability.
And yes Constanza, compatability within chemistry is vital also!
And yes Constanza, compatability within chemistry is vital also!
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well what I have to say is basically what almost everyone else said.
I think you need both, but compatibility is more important, because if you are not compatible, eventually the problems caused by that, will begin to eat away at the chemistry or totally kill it.
I think you need both, but compatibility is more important, because if you are not compatible, eventually the problems caused by that, will begin to eat away at the chemistry or totally kill it.
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"Your post really hit a nerve with me.
I am now with a lovely man that I met on here actually. He is kind, caring, genuine and very gorgeous too! However..... A couple of years back I met someone that I had incredible chemistry with. I really thought it would go somewhere, but due to his unreliability I decided to back away from him as I knew from experience it would end in tears and i wouldnt be able to convince him to be more reliable.
Anyway, despite how strong and serious my feelings are for the new guy, the ex is always on my shoulder. I made the sensible choice, but I dont seem to be able to get the ex out of my head and heart. If I gave into him I know i would not have a good life. I can have a great life with the new guy. Sometimes we just have to choose whats best for us....... u will always have feelings for your first love. The next one wont necessarily be the same, but that doesnt mean you wont eventually fall in love with him. Sometimes its not instantaneous.... Might be worth the wait tho."
I can't fault her reasoning one bit. Having said that, I'd still o for a relationship full of chemistry over one built on chemistry every time...I'd just love the excitement...within reason.
But is focussing on compatability over chemistry the correct way forward to acheive true and lasting happiness?
Of course we all differ in terms of our personalities...so what do you think?