Have you met someone on site and.... ( Archived) (51)

Its not the outcome that matters always !! To find someone who has so much you look forward to is in itself wow !!

Hurt Schmurt lady!... life lessons..

I've always wondered about this...I've personally never chosen to meet aynone from this site...too far but I think the longer you speak with someone through here...you develop an "image" of sorts about them...whether they are real or not...this image can be disappointing in real life...it is easier to converse in your own comfort zone...behind a screen...so in real life...the interactive chemistry will obviosly change a bit... I would think that most people would portray themselves as true as possible...but...I just don't feel you TRULY know their personalities until you've had a face to face encounter...and if truly interested...this is best done as soon as you are both comfortable JMO

Exactly Riya

Never met anyone from CS.

My brother and sister-in-law don't count

Have met a bunch of people, and they were all even better in real life than on here!

A re-post from Paws' News.

Do on line relationships work ?

Usually not and for the following reasons; distance, too long a period of time texting and calling. The longer you wait before meeting, the more your imagination will fill in the blanks. Non verbal communication at times accounts for over 80% of how we feel and perceive another, some call it "chemistry". Besides distance, there are careers, real-estate and family etc., to consider. However some do succeed.

For the most part I don't think people deliberately misrepresent themselves online. I believe a lot of what happens during online communication is we subconsciously "fill in the blanks" about the other person.
When they "LOL", in our minds we imagine this nice laugh, but then in real life we make them laugh and they snort or something.
A nose-picker isn't going to sit and say "I'm picking my nose as I type this." so we don't know they are a nose picker until we meet in real life.
Or we might envision someone as highly attentive and making eye contact when we speak but in real life they roll their eyes when you talk or give that little "Who cares" huff.

It's not that these people were dishonest in how they portrayed themselves. They might sincerely be intelligent and well versed, but their body language turns them into instant snob, or instant gross, or instant weirdo.

That's why I think it's vital to meet people face-to-face immediately.

i agree with that Paws.. I think they CAN work.. but I do think its a pretty slender chance.

One said she wasn't looking for"serial daters", then left me an e-mail after a week and said she didn't want a LTR, yet.---interpretation..You are not what I am looking for!

One stayed looking at the karaoke book and didn't look at me the whole time we were out. She was obviously bored to death..I sure was. Interpretation...God, when will this night end. I left her there and went to another karaoke bar. When I got home, an e-mail said she had a great time!

Another I met at a site get together. She called me and asked for a date to hear me sing. I called her from the place to be sure she had the right directions...she never showed up!! I waited four hours. Interpretation...Haha..got you!!