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Hi Karen,
Maybe he was nervous. Being at the office with others around is a lot different than one on one. It's possible but how do you feel about seeing him again?
Maybe he was nervous. Being at the office with others around is a lot different than one on one. It's possible but how do you feel about seeing him again?
He's a nice guy and maybe he was just tired. I would see him again, hopefully it would be different.
Bring a sharp stick next time and if he doesn't liven up a little, poke him! Works every time.
Now that wouldn't be very nice - would it! What's nice got to do with it? This dating thing is serious business. 
That's a simple one............He was testing you 
I do this a lot and it really does work.
When you go on a date, you try not to speak too much in order to see if the woman is interested in you. Ask you questions about yourself, show interest in your opinions. If a woman is struggling to come up with topics then I know she's not really interested in getting to know me. She could be interested in my looks, or job or possessions but why would i want a superficial person like that. Works every time.
I do this a lot and it really does work.
When you go on a date, you try not to speak too much in order to see if the woman is interested in you. Ask you questions about yourself, show interest in your opinions. If a woman is struggling to come up with topics then I know she's not really interested in getting to know me. She could be interested in my looks, or job or possessions but why would i want a superficial person like that. Works every time.
Hey Taz 
Could be he was out of his comfort zone, know a few of them
Especially business men, out of the zone lost for words unless talking about business
But if interest was there for a dinner date, why not get together once more
And beleive it or not, once I went on a dinner date, and myself not lost for words, that evening I was in la la land but after a hectic day at the office that same day I was wiped out
Could be he was out of his comfort zone, know a few of them
Especially business men, out of the zone lost for words unless talking about business
But if interest was there for a dinner date, why not get together once more
And beleive it or not, once I went on a dinner date, and myself not lost for words, that evening I was in la la land but after a hectic day at the office that same day I was wiped out
Had that happen with a guy online lol.He could find endless subject to talk about online but once we got on the phone.......................................
silence
Give him another chance and se how it goes.....hope you have a ball.
silence
Give him another chance and se how it goes.....hope you have a ball.
I just found it very strange. As for pentiums explenation of testing me - I guess I would have passed, I asked enough questions about him.
Why do we need to test people - can't you just get to know someone for who they are
Why do we need to test people - can't you just get to know someone for who they are
I would give him another chance. I personally haven't came across this problem yet. There is this guy I talk to online that mostly we don't talk as he never says much of anything, just can't keep a conversation, yet when we met he talked quite a bit. That was kind of nice. Yet, back to online and he still says not a lot lol.
The reason most people can't just get to know people is because of all the fakers, con-artists, and players on these sites. It's not just restricted to men either. There are a lot of women who like the attention and will go out with 100's of guys but still come online and complain that their dating lives are dead.
I've meet a few of them on Plenty of Fish. They had the unfortunate experience of finding out that men do talk to each other about the women on these sites. I won't go into the juicy details about how they got burned, and it was by women too, but it was bad.
Then there's the whole attraction issue. People don't look exactly the way they do in the pictures, no one does. So that's why i test women i meet. If they think i look as good or better than what my pictures show they'll show interest. If not they'll be hard pressed to come up with any questions, which at that point i tell them the date is over, which has happened a few times.
Thanks to these sites there's so many fishies to choose from there's no point wasting your time on someone who isn't honest about their feelings for you.
I've meet a few of them on Plenty of Fish. They had the unfortunate experience of finding out that men do talk to each other about the women on these sites. I won't go into the juicy details about how they got burned, and it was by women too, but it was bad.
Then there's the whole attraction issue. People don't look exactly the way they do in the pictures, no one does. So that's why i test women i meet. If they think i look as good or better than what my pictures show they'll show interest. If not they'll be hard pressed to come up with any questions, which at that point i tell them the date is over, which has happened a few times.
Thanks to these sites there's so many fishies to choose from there's no point wasting your time on someone who isn't honest about their feelings for you.
I would give him another chance, he could had been shy as to what to say to you in person when you are alone. Think of questions where he has to give long answers to.
Well Taz I think another chance is fair if you feel in your heart that it is worth finding out. Only you can answer that.
Maybe he was a bit awestruck...you are a pretty lady with a good head on her shoulders....we just don't meet that many like you!!
Maybe he was a bit awestruck...you are a pretty lady with a good head on her shoulders....we just don't meet that many like you!!
and if all else fails, do what kidatheart suggested, poke him with a sharp stick..if nothing else, atleast you'd get to see if he's still breathing..
Nothing ventured,...nothing gained. Could have been a lot of reasons for the dreaded silences,....nerves, a hectic day, rigor mortis. Who knows? Maybe he's been banging his head against the wall replaying the evening, kicking himself for all the things he wanted to have done better but didn't. If it wasn't totally unbearable, a second chance might be in order.
Another possibility, because you are a very attractive and intelligent lady, is that he would want not to do anything offensive. Possibly he as waiting to find out what you found interesting before he launched on a line in which you had no interest or which offended you.
It has been said that you only get one chance to make a good impression. Unfortunately, in trying not to make a bad impression, many people - because I assume this happens with the ladies, too - will withhold a lot of themselves.
Maybe he was admiring you from aclose (if you are wondering, I just made that word up - opposite of afar).
It has been said that you only get one chance to make a good impression. Unfortunately, in trying not to make a bad impression, many people - because I assume this happens with the ladies, too - will withhold a lot of themselves.
Maybe he was admiring you from aclose (if you are wondering, I just made that word up - opposite of afar).
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This client comes in to work earlier in the week...blah blah asks me if I would like to go for dinner sometime. While in the office one of the other ladies was handling his business he was a very talkative guy-outgoing-friendly. We spoke a bit in office - talkative again. We talked on the phone - again talkative. To night - not talkative....I was scrambling to come up with topics of conversation. Yet he still asked about getting together again.
I don't get it.