An Old Man and a young woman...... How do you judge???? ( Archived) (29)

A Young woman meets a very much older man, through her hobby.. she is charmed by him; and he flirts with her and gives chase for a time....

He is always lingering around making her laugh, and THINK about things, and he is flirting; giving all the signals he wants her to be his....

Finally she gives in, and falls for him.

BANG ~~!~!~!!! He tells her that he has a girlfriend, but they do not live with each other and have not for many years, and they have no physical relationship, but rather only a business relationship that is in the public eye.
Her (his girlfriend) only remaining family is near death and he is attening the famliy things as her partner to save face. She goes back into her little living hut, and he stays alone still deticating his extra time to his young love.


She knows his time is limited, but she loves him and does not care to be centre stage of the public eye where he is concerned, but rather as his caring partner... caring for him all throuh the year without others knowing...

From time to time they go out into the world and smile with each other around others... the gaze is bad for some know him and she is no one, they look and wonder??????? But none know that he is dying, they only see a much older man with a much younger woman.

Is it is better to have loved one last time, than to have not fallen in love again?
Is it selfish to put this young woman through watching him die?
Is it selfish that they choose to live like this in the shadows for fear of insult?

How would you see these two in a public way....without knowing the story behind?
WHAT WOULD YOU TELL THE YOUNG WOMAN TO DO?

If I saw them in public, I probably wouldn't figure them for a romantic couple. I'd probably think it was a man out with his daughter or something.

If she can verrify the story about the other GF I dont see anything wrong with it. If this is what they have chosen then so be it. I know what it is like to be on the other end of the stick where people do not understand why she is with me. U have to follow Ur heart and if taking care of him is where U want to be then be there. And as far as those who would insult, remember it is only because they are jealous of the bond betweent he two of U if it is U or whoever. My vote is make the last of his time here the best of his time here.

I wouldn't tell her to do anything, it's her choice, not my place to judge anyone.

Before he passed away, my dad & i used to go out to a movie or dinner or whatever. People used to stare at us with nasty looks on their faces & you just knew what they were thinking. This bothered my dad but not me, dad would want me to call him "dad" loud enough for others to hear. Sometimes i did & sometimes I didn't. Then my dad started dating a woman only 1 yr older than me, & i thought good for him!!!! His lady friend was a very nice person & made my dad happy & that's all i cared about.

So when i see an older person with someone much, much younger, i really do not think anything, mainly becuz it's NONE of my business.

she's a gold digger and he is a dirty old man!!

I totally agree.
What two people do is noones business as long as it is what they both want and hurt noone.
Happiness is hard to find and precious,take it where you can.

I dont' think I understand the story.

He already has a girlfriend but starts a romantic involvement with another lady because she's younger?

The words cheating and mistress come to mind...
among other words.