none of this works for a person such as me.... ( Archived) (46)

been alone for four horribly long years....sent out about 25 messages first day on here....only two write back.
this is the sad state of things and i almost want to just go dig a hole and jump in...some of the people i know are guys who are asses and druggies and also worse looking than i am...dont want to start to hate the female gender but when you feel isolated and ignored what r u supposed to do?...the only crime ive ever really been guilty of is not kissing or sleeping with any girl whos with a guy at that time. my feeling being that if she wanted me, shed leave him first. -besides ive been on the recieving end of your mate cheating.-....any clues out there people any at all.................??????????tws

I know this is probably the last thing that you want to hear, but give things time here. Are you sure that all 25 of the women that you messaged have opened the message? Its possible that they havent. Keep reaching out and see what happens. Posting in the forums is a good way to let people get to know a little more about your personality so keep it up. Good luck to you and welcome to CS!

Sorry to say this but ---- you wont get many msgs if any of the women you emailed saw that you were moaning about your ex - if you want to start with a clean slate then dont drag your past into your future! Harsh words, meant kindly - not intended to offend! ;-)

Who exactly told you that 25 was the limit and what makes you so lucky that you expected to find someone perfect after only 25 attempts?

Hate to sound hateful, but it doesn't work that way.

And even more snide sounding...confidence is irrestible. Get some! Whining doesn't cut it. Squeaky wheel gets the oil, but it doesn't get the girl.

i am curious when meeting women in real environment what's your average?? how many times b4 you get a positive response? Although meetng in htis way gives more safty to both parties...it still is a hit and miss thing.

hang in there



the "woe is me" stuff never worked for me...
good luck with it.

I would send you to a prison ... virtual one.... do not worry ... lol

Paws and guard will take a nice care of your problems ...

you even may get a phone calls ...


ps. I hear you ...your standarts are high ...

not many redheaded women out there left...

but cute faces are all over....


I wish you continue your quest without sadness ...
:^)

Another harsh comment but true....you're twenty-eight.

If you want a women who is still wanting to play, you're fine.

But if you want a woman to stay and settled down, you have to look the part, talk the talk and appear to be twenty-eight and not still back in your teens.

Be careful when you post---I put one on Pain and some people thought it was recently wrote, it wasn't. I just thought it might help some people to read it and know that pain goes into the atmosphere after a period of time, like vapor. I am going through pain now, but not relationship wise, my step-father is out of remesion w/leukemia.

i'm not a big fan of dating sites....but it seems that its worse in a bar or club....so...i am here in this site...i just haven't had the nerve to really email anybody....how do you start up a conversation with a stranger? but I am trying to be hopeful and realize when the time is right for a mate for myself...then it will happen. I try to go with the flow of things and let it go from there.