i read some of whats posted in forums and so much of it is so ridiculous,childish and UNINVITING to new members... those who post the stuff like "come out and show your face" *whaaa??* man-what can one say about that?
good grief its a forum all we CAN do is share opinions! do people act like this in real life? like if someone doesnt agree w/ them they play victim or attack them or avoid them? no wonder so many people are online theyve run out of people in their neighborhood..?
to name call '***********s'? -any of the names supposed 'groups' are given...? arent these people in fact trying by that method to form a group to stand up to the '**********s'? ( 'group')
as in "us, them and the spectators" ? awful mentality at a dating site...honestly-so many members here, thousands- look at forums, look at our profile and our recent posts on it-to see maybe what we are like... and so many dont join forum because of this stuff.
its just a backhanded way to portray oneself as better than 'them' when in fact its pretty much exactly what youre complaining about. but its 'different' cuz youre doin it? or youre justified? maybe cus 'they started it' ? 2 wrongs dont make a right. and, yeah-its attracting singles in here in droves.
im stating my opinion sometimes ya know, if we become offended its a problem w/in our own ego.
personally i try not to let these idiots people/groups that are strangers actually offend me uhhhh
duh?
no offense to anyone-it just gets tiresome and drives potential members away- unless they are the type that loves chaos- then theyll run right in-like we need any more of thooose!!
OK MF, do you really think we care what your opinion is... You and all your little do gooder friends probably spent the last 3 hours emailing each other to come up with this post...
Good Post MF, I agree with everything you said!
The thing that people don't seem to understand is that if you post an opinion in a reasonable manner, most people will respond in the same manner, even if their opinion is different, but when you post a rant stating rumor as fact and your opinion as gospel... people are going to shred you.
The majority of people who participate in the forums are quite well read and intelligent and are going to respond in a negative manner when people post a load of rubbish in an abusive manner.
I've been a free member of this free site for almost two years. I might complain a little if it cost me money. But, since you brought it up....I am just now learning that people go around behind the scenes e-mailing each other, about different people. Sneaky, secret, gossip kind of stuff. Clicking on profiles, reading everything a person writes, searching for who knows what excuse to say, or write who knows what.
I was genuinely surprised. I mean it! When I learned that people actually behave that way, I was in denial. I was like, "No Way! Who would do that? Who has time to do that? Who is really that involved in the electronic lives of virtual strangers?" I still find it sort of unfathomable. I don't even put that much effort, into people that I've actually met or talked to on the phone. Perhaps I'm too carefree. Perhaps I don't take people seriously enough.
I vow to be more involved in everyone's cyber life. Psyche! No I don't.
mindfful: i read some of whats posted in forums and so much of it is so ridiculous,childish and UNINVITING to new members... those who post the stuff like "come out and show your face" *whaaa??* man-what can one say about that?
good grief its a forum all we CAN do is share opinions! do people act like this in real life? like if someone doesnt agree w/ them they play victim or attack them or avoid them? no wonder so many people are online theyve run out of people in their neighborhood..?
to name call '***********s'? -any of the names supposed 'groups' are given...? arent these people in fact trying by that method to form a group to stand up to the '**********s'? ( 'group')
as in "us, them and the spectators" ? awful mentality at a dating site...honestly-so many members here, thousands- look at forums, look at our profile and our recent posts on it-to see maybe what we are like... and so many dont join forum because of this stuff.
its just a backhanded way to portray oneself as better than 'them' when in fact its pretty much exactly what youre complaining about. but its 'different' cuz youre doin it? or youre justified? maybe cus 'they started it' ? 2 wrongs dont make a right. and, yeah-its attracting singles in here in droves.
im stating my opinion sometimes ya know, if we become offended its a problem w/in our own ego.
personally i try not to let these people/groups that are strangers actually offend me uhhhhduh?
no offense to anyone-it just gets tiresome and drives potential members away- unless they are the type that loves chaos- then theyll run right in-like we need any more of thooose!!
Then there are those that are so lost in misery,, that if you don't agree with their opinion, they will attempt lies or anything else it takes to destroy the other person. I will not apologize to someone hell bent on taking me down with them. Especially when someone tells me basically... Either you give me a public apology or I will take you down!
you guys havent been here all that long ive posted many a post that i was the one person in that thread w/ that particular opinion
guess what? i never made a shame on you thread have never said come out and show yourselves and eeeven i am still alive and still at CS
**Bajan are you telling me YOU caused this havoc? i tried to be supportive and inviting of you sharing more of yourself more widely i didnt tell you to go annoy people- (but forgot to tell you that is a general and lasting side effect-*giggle*-oops-sorry)
**Mr S-im not lookin for sympathy or empathy or even commiseration... that was the entire point of the post- i dont need it and it makes a yukky atmosphere for potential members--but thanks for the gesture
BEBhiiii glad to see you back-dont be sad-my clown pic is always there to cheer us up-or frighten and distract-whatever the case may be-
jbibiza: OK MF, do you really think we care what your opinion is... You and all your little do gooder friends probably spent the last 3 hours emailing each other to come up with this post...
Good Post MF, I agree with everything you said!
The thing that people don't seem to understand is that if you post an opinion in a reasonable manner, most people will respond in the same manner, even if their opinion is different, but when you post a rant stating rumor as fact and your opinion as gospel... people are going to shred you.
The majority of people who participate in the forums are quite well read and intelligent and are going to respond in a negative manner when people post a load of rubbish in an abusive manner.
Love the first part JB!!! Good girl!!
Okay, MF. What she said. Save me thinking that hard today and typing it.
uh ppl please!! i did not create a thread to exalt myself and you doing any sort of admiration only re-iterates to those that believe in it that this is a cult/clique/pack
so STOP IT and just say what you think
MF is quite convinced that she
anyway i just posted a thread- ive stated some personal opinion, concern and observation its not meant toward anyone in particular unless maybe they practice those behaviors-
if so then yes i think its counter-productive SO THERE
bajanblueSpeightstown, Saint Peter Barbados3,724 posts
mindfful: **Bajan are you telling me YOU caused this havoc? i tried to be supportive and inviting of you sharing more of yourself more widely i didnt tell you to go annoy people- (but forgot to tell you that is a general and lasting side effect-*giggle*-oops-sorry)
!!!
Moi? Cause havoc? Don't think so. I just had quite a bit to say on divinity but I was pretty much ignored except by my friends so I don't think I did anything bad.
bajanblue: Moi? Cause havoc? Don't think so. I just had quite a bit to say on divinity but I was pretty much ignored except by my friends so I don't think I did anything bad.
alabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA4,404 posts
The best way to improve things would be if everyone would ignore the idiots ... uh, I mean ... no idiots is the only thing I can come up with.
Some people don't deserve to even be replied to. They'll never get that others have a different opinion, and they don't listen anyway, so what's the point? Something about throwing pearls before swine, not a good idea.
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and so much of it is so ridiculous,childish
and UNINVITING to new members...
those who post the stuff like "come out and show your face"
*whaaa??* man-what can one say about that?
good grief its a forum all we CAN do is share opinions!
do people act like this in real life?
like if someone doesnt agree w/ them they play victim
or attack them or avoid them?
no wonder so many people are online
theyve run out of people in their neighborhood..?
to name call '***********s'? -any of the names supposed 'groups' are given...?
arent these people in fact trying by that method
to form a group to stand up to the '**********s'? ( 'group')
as in "us, them and the spectators" ? awful mentality
at a dating site...honestly-so many members here, thousands- look at forums, look at our profile and our recent posts on it-to see maybe what we are like... and so many dont join forum
because of this stuff.
its just a backhanded way to portray oneself as
better than 'them' when in fact its pretty much exactly
what youre complaining about.
but its 'different' cuz youre doin it? or youre justified?
maybe cus 'they started it' ? 2 wrongs dont make a right.
and, yeah-its attracting singles in here in droves.
im stating my opinion
sometimes ya know, if we become offended
its a problem w/in our own ego.
personally i try not to let these
idiotspeople/groupsthat are strangers
actually offend me
uhhhh
duh?
no offense to anyone-it just gets tiresome
and drives potential members away-
unless they are the type that loves chaos-
then theyll run right in-like we need any more of thooose!!