Indifferent & Nonchalant Men.... ( Archived) (20)

I think this may be the answer...keeping things on his terms...

So are we still interested in him...or do we want it on OUR terms?

Then you have a power struggle. Both are supposed to want something, but then again, maybe you both ARE getting something out of it. A relationship has to go both ways though.

well i really do not pursue it win it appears that a guy is reseptive to me

(right mach) lol

most of the time i don't even pay attention but when they constantly beg for my attention it does get anoying

(especially mach he just won't stop)

wonder what his wife would think

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just joking mach seems ok

hey give us a break i admit i am 1 of the guys who when it comes to a woman i am slow.i always figure if someone has something to say,they should come out and say it,stop beating around the bush.

if you like someone just tell them straight out and tell him.be open and honest with him and tell him how you feel,don't play games with him or drop those hints hoping he will pick them up.

don't hope he will read between the lines.the only way you are going to know for sure,is to come out and tell him

hints you mean there are hints

no wonder i'm still unattached

hints huh

duh

i totally missed that concept

i guess i am just to dense

hhhhmmmmmmmmm

i guess this really applies now

but

what do i know

There's always the possibility that the man might be an Aspie (Aspergers syndrome).

Aspies don't pick up on normal communications and so what you think are obvious signals could be completely oblivious to him.

I've been out with friends to pubs and other social events. When we left the place my friends would say things to me like, "That woman was all over you like a new suit, why didn't you pick her up".

The problem is that I'm just not in tune with those signals. They just don't come through. I was totally unaware that the woman was all over me like a new suit. From the woman's point of view I must have seemed indifferent and nonchalant, but in truth I just wasn't picking up on her signals (that my friends were obviously picking up on clearly).

You have to hit an Aspie on the head with a brick if you want to get his attention. It doesn’t mean that he's not interested, it just means that he doesn't understand the communication. Aspies just aren't capable of picking up on those things. And Aspies are a lot more common than people realize.

Either that, or he's a normal guy and just not interested I guess.

If he is an Aspie, you really need to spell it out for him. It's just the only way to communicate with him until you get to know him better. And even then you may find that you need to actually spell things out a lot. It's kind of like dating Spock.

didn't i just say that kinda


lol

Sorry, I didn't see your post,...

Come to think of it, I don't want to see your post.


lol

i don't blame ya why should you be any differnt


lol

"What makes the desert beautiful is that somewhere it hides a well."
got that quote from looking up "Aspergers syndrome" and thank you Abra cause I like that quote.

I think many reasons can bring about the "indifferent/ nonchalant " appearance.. some good and some bad. Caution is one reason, perception of how you are acting could be different than yours. Reacting to quickly is also a possible reason.
Ladies this is 2006, this mating ritual or whatever "name" is most current, the rules and conditions have changed... Do I want to respond to every "pass" or innuendo or batting the eyelashes or flashing the pearly whites???? yeah right... just put the collar on my neck and feed me scraps rest of the nite.....NOT
that which is acquired easy is seldom rarely cherished or valved.... You are being hit on and acting indifferent...could it possibly mean you have someone else in mind and instead of being rude "ignore him...He'll go away" or her whichever the case may be.

just an opinion


Again Thanks Abra I like that quote and never heard it described that way.