Narcissism (47)
Portiea: Does contemporary society encourage narcissism—self love to the point of self-centeredness--?
It seems like, if we compare ourselves to earlier societies, people did not expect so much personal ‘fulfilment’ and easy gratification of all our desires and expectations.
I’ve only been looking at single sites for a few months, but I’m feeling like, wow, there are so many lonely, single people out there. Why are so many of us on our own? Is it because of high expectations and low output? That is, we expect so much from others but are not willing to give that much in compromising, cooperation, adjustment, and so on?
Is this a trend of contemporary society and will it continue so that in a few decades, partnering, marriage, and families will become almost obsolete? I think statistically there are far more single people than there used to be….it’s kinda scary.
It seems like, if we compare ourselves to earlier societies, people did not expect so much personal ‘fulfilment’ and easy gratification of all our desires and expectations.
I’ve only been looking at single sites for a few months, but I’m feeling like, wow, there are so many lonely, single people out there. Why are so many of us on our own? Is it because of high expectations and low output? That is, we expect so much from others but are not willing to give that much in compromising, cooperation, adjustment, and so on?
Is this a trend of contemporary society and will it continue so that in a few decades, partnering, marriage, and families will become almost obsolete? I think statistically there are far more single people than there used to be….it’s kinda scary.
I believe the divorce rate is NOW 51 %.Concerned with the eventual demise of humanity Portia?
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Portiea: Does contemporary society encourage narcissism—self love to the point of self-centeredness--?
It seems like, if we compare ourselves to earlier societies, people did not expect so much personal ‘fulfilment’ and easy gratification of all our desires and expectations.
It seems like, if we compare ourselves to earlier societies, people did not expect so much personal ‘fulfilment’ and easy gratification of all our desires and expectations.
Yes, it is at an all time high....unprecedented.
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friendsfirst: I believe the divorce rate is NOW 51 %.Concerned with the eventual demise of humanity Portia?
Well not the demise. There are too many people already, I think, overpopulation. So if people have less children, that's okay with me. But, it is sad that so many people are alone. I'm not crazy about it myself, though it will do for now. But, looking toward the future...well, I hope it isn't going to be permanent.
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Portiea: Does contemporary society encourage narcissism—self love to the point of self-centeredness--?
It seems like, if we compare ourselves to earlier societies, people did not expect so much personal ‘fulfilment’ and easy gratification of all our desires and expectations.
I’ve only been looking at single sites for a few months, but I’m feeling like, wow, there are so many lonely, single people out there. Why are so many of us on our own? Is it because of high expectations and low output? That is, we expect so much from others but are not willing to give that much in compromising, cooperation, adjustment, and so on?
Is this a trend of contemporary society and will it continue so that in a few decades, partnering, marriage, and families will become almost obsolete? I think statistically there are far more single people than there used to be….it’s kinda scary.
It seems like, if we compare ourselves to earlier societies, people did not expect so much personal ‘fulfilment’ and easy gratification of all our desires and expectations.
I’ve only been looking at single sites for a few months, but I’m feeling like, wow, there are so many lonely, single people out there. Why are so many of us on our own? Is it because of high expectations and low output? That is, we expect so much from others but are not willing to give that much in compromising, cooperation, adjustment, and so on?
Is this a trend of contemporary society and will it continue so that in a few decades, partnering, marriage, and families will become almost obsolete? I think statistically there are far more single people than there used to be….it’s kinda scary.
great post.Add campaigns along the lines of "because your worth it" help to promote all the self abbsorbtion
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friendsfirst: I believe the divorce rate is NOW 51 %.Concerned with the eventual demise of humanity Portia?
ah-hmm....PORTIEA
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***Does contemporary society encourage narcissism—self love to the point of self-centeredness--?
In a word....yes
Now to expound. How many times have I read in a woman's profile(I don't read mens)...I know what I want and I won't settle!! Fine! Don't settle...but there might be someone out there that is just a little out of your scope. They just might be someone that will make you happy. But since it is all about you and what you want, don't give it a try!!
In a word....yes
Now to expound. How many times have I read in a woman's profile(I don't read mens)...I know what I want and I won't settle!! Fine! Don't settle...but there might be someone out there that is just a little out of your scope. They just might be someone that will make you happy. But since it is all about you and what you want, don't give it a try!!
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shipoker55: ***Does contemporary society encourage narcissism—self love to the point of self-centeredness--?
In a word....yesNow to expound. How many times have I read in a woman's profile(I don't read mens)...I know what I want and I won't settle!! Fine! Don't settle...but there might be someone out there that is just a little out of your scope. They just might be someone that will make you happy. But since it is all about you and what you want, don't give it a try!!
In a word....yesNow to expound. How many times have I read in a woman's profile(I don't read mens)...I know what I want and I won't settle!! Fine! Don't settle...but there might be someone out there that is just a little out of your scope. They just might be someone that will make you happy. But since it is all about you and what you want, don't give it a try!!
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shipoker55: ***Does contemporary society encourage narcissism—self love to the point of self-centeredness--?
In a word....yesNow to expound. How many times have I read in a woman's profile(I don't read mens)...I know what I want and I won't settle!! Fine! Don't settle...but there might be someone out there that is just a little out of your scope. They just might be someone that will make you happy. But since it is all about you and what you want, don't give it a try!!
In a word....yesNow to expound. How many times have I read in a woman's profile(I don't read mens)...I know what I want and I won't settle!! Fine! Don't settle...but there might be someone out there that is just a little out of your scope. They just might be someone that will make you happy. But since it is all about you and what you want, don't give it a try!!
Yep. Men's profiles tend to be very specific as to what is wanted...very unrealistic at times, as, I'm sure, are women's. I'm upfront about it in mine: I know my 'ideal' doesn't exist, and I'm willing to give anyone who seems compatible on some level a chance.
Some or all of us think we have a type--a physical type we like, or a personality type we like. But, we could be wrong about that. Also, we want everything...like complete happiness and fulfillment is really possible. I think our contemporary society teaches us to believe total happiness is not only possible, but required in all things, and you don't have to make it happen, it just is given to you, by and individual or by society.
Good post.
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society tells us we need A,B,C to be happy!!! been there done that, don't expect another person to make me happy, if I am not happy with myself, but that does not mean I will/not compromise if I thought he was right for me.
As for society, they keep telling us we should be part of a couple! to make us whole! the lucky few get it right the first time the rest of us have to go on single sites just to see what is out there
As for society, they keep telling us we should be part of a couple! to make us whole! the lucky few get it right the first time
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Portiea: Well not the demise. There are too many people already, I think, overpopulation. So if people have less children, that's okay with me. But, it is sad that so many people are alone. I'm not crazy about it myself, though it will do for now. But, looking toward the future...well, I hope it isn't going to be permanent.
I believe that more people stay single in todays world because it is more of a self-defense mechanism for protecting one's emotions from people who may harm their feelings.
JMO
However, I too look toward the future in hopes that it isn't going to be a permanent thing.
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I need some coffe than I will add my thoughts. I am really spent and I am not doing much to contribute to the forums or Portiea's threads. I did a lot of work on this subject. I will just say for now that Narcissism really started to explode in the 70's...after it's birth in the 60's. The transition of our society from the pretentious 50's has not been a smooth one for individuals and couples. The divorce rate here in Sweden is over 60 percent. The numbers of depressed people on medication is at an all time high. There are many factors...even at an unconscious level....if you examine our quick fix/fast food/selfish mentality that our society has promoted in this digital and service minded society. Too many people chasing false desires...too many people not fighting for what is real. Too many people give up to soon on being happy, so they find false things to make them happy. Oh, I'll come back to this and try and clarify it in a tidy nutshell....I really need coffee.....
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ANurse4U: I believe that more people stay single in todays world because it is more of a self-defense mechanism for protecting one's emotions from people who may harm their feelings.
JMO
However, I too look toward the future in hopes that it isn't going to be a permanent thing.
JMO
However, I too look toward the future in hopes that it isn't going to be a permanent thing.
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Portiea: ah-hmm....PORTIEA
Sorry honey.
Now i must write Portiea 1000 times.
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StressFree: I need some coffe than I will add my thoughts. I am really spent and I am not doing much to contribute to the forums or Portiea's threads. I did a lot of work on this subject. I will just say for now that Narcissism really started to explode in the 70's...after it's birth in the 60's. The transition of our society from the pretentious 50's has not been a smooth one for individuals and couples. The divorce rate here in Sweden is over 60 percent. The numbers of depressed people on medication is at an all time high. There are many factors...even at an unconscious level....if you examine our quick fix/fast food/selfish mentality that our society has promoted in this digital and service minded society. Too many people chasing false desires...too many people not fighting for what is real. Too many people give up to soon on being happy, so they find false things to make them happy. Oh, I'll come back to this and try and clarify it in a tidy nutshell....I really need coffee.....
Not bad for somebody who 'really spent'
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Claayer: I agree with that Nurse :: nods head ::
This is very likely.I have to agree to this as well.
Hi Claayer.
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friendsfirst: Sorry honey.
Now i must write Portiea 1000 times.
Now i must write Portiea 1000 times.
I can't help it--my narcissistic personality demands that people spell my fantasy name correctly!
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ANurse4U: I believe that more people stay single in todays world because it is more of a self-defense mechanism for protecting one's emotions from people who may harm their feelings.
JMO
However, I too look toward the future in hopes that it isn't going to be a permanent thing.
JMO
However, I too look toward the future in hopes that it isn't going to be a permanent thing.
Ah! This is interesting. I hadn't thought of that.
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friendsfirst: This is very likely.I have to agree to this as well.
Hi Claayer.
Hi Claayer.
Well it made sense to me because that surely applies to me
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This is a good thread.I like it here.
Body Language
Lets talk little bit of body language, and how it is connected to your attitude and confidence. We all know, that people communicate with each other on multiple levels. Words (what we say), is just 7% of our communication when we communicate, the majority of communication is done with body language, vocal tones, vocal pitch, movement, and gestures. When I say body language, I mean: pitch of voice, tonality, speed, how you walk, the way you carry yourself through the world, having eye contact, how fast you move (hands… etc), shoulders, chest... You may ask why body language is so important. First, because it is how we sub- communicate with others.
I want you to go outside and try this.Go out and make eye contact with someone.MAINTAIN eye contact until they look away.Then smile and wave.
Tell them .Have a nice day.Try this.Practice it.
I am willing to BET all that is valuable to me,you will notice significant changes.You might even have a conversation with a complete stranger,or two.
Have a wonderful day folks.
Body Language
Lets talk little bit of body language, and how it is connected to your attitude and confidence. We all know, that people communicate with each other on multiple levels. Words (what we say), is just 7% of our communication when we communicate, the majority of communication is done with body language, vocal tones, vocal pitch, movement, and gestures. When I say body language, I mean: pitch of voice, tonality, speed, how you walk, the way you carry yourself through the world, having eye contact, how fast you move (hands… etc), shoulders, chest... You may ask why body language is so important. First, because it is how we sub- communicate with others.
I want you to go outside and try this.Go out and make eye contact with someone.MAINTAIN eye contact until they look away.Then smile and wave.
Tell them .Have a nice day.Try this.Practice it.
I am willing to BET all that is valuable to me,you will notice significant changes.You might even have a conversation with a complete stranger,or two.
Have a wonderful day folks.
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It seems like, if we compare ourselves to earlier societies, people did not expect so much personal ‘fulfilment’ and easy gratification of all our desires and expectations.
I’ve only been looking at single sites for a few months, but I’m feeling like, wow, there are so many lonely, single people out there. Why are so many of us on our own? Is it because of high expectations and low output? That is, we expect so much from others but are not willing to give that much in compromising, cooperation, adjustment, and so on?
Is this a trend of contemporary society and will it continue so that in a few decades, partnering, marriage, and families will become almost obsolete? I think statistically there are far more single people than there used to be….it’s kinda scary.