On the rebound... ( Archived) (37)

Okay, well, here's my serious take on it--from experience. I meet some guy, he seems nice, I like him, we get along. He is divorced or has ended a serious relationship within the past few months. At first, he does not say things that would suggest much bitterness or anger. People put on their best side when you are first getting to know them. So, I let myself be won over....then it turns out they are still totally messed up and it was way too soon for him to be letting someone get close, but he wanted a woman in his life and was willing to fool himself and me that he was ready. So, now I have drawn what is, I suppose, an artificial line: it has to be at least one full year after a marriage or serious relationship has ended--and I mean ended...final divorce, etc.