confusion ( Archived) (12)

Confusion. Confusion.

I've never been one to play the "dating games" and I would like to think that I am honest about my feelings. But I always seem to confuse the men that I date and confuse myself also. Maybe I need to figure out what I want in a relationship??? I think that I am just the type that wants a committed relationship BUT also needs a lot of personal space.

Is it possible to have both?

go make up your mind before you get hurt

I kinda want what my friend,who's been happily married for over 40 years has.

Everynight,after supper,they close the T.V,take the phone off the hook and JUST talk to each other.

For the first 15 minutes,she talks about how her day and what's on her mind and he's not allowed to interupt her while she's talking....just LISTEN.

The next 15 minutes,he tells her about his day and what's on his mind and she's not allowed to interupt him....just LISTEN.

Quality time together.

If you're with someone you truly love why would you want your own space?

Yes it's possible to have both.
It has nothing to do with making up your mind, you already know what you want.
You're a free spirited person & in need of a special kind of partner, that's all.
You don't need to be smothered, babied or neglected. You need a balance of respect & acceptance.
The idea of being free spirited is always getting bashed by people who are not of the like mindset... partially because they do not relate to the way it feels. They are looking for something different. That's okay too. But don't let anyone criticize you & make you doubt what you feel. It's your wants & needs, not theirs.
If you find you are with the wrong kind of person, just slow down & examine how you got into that situation. Did you rush into a relationship? Often, that is the biggest killer of a new relationship. Once the thrilling part dies off a bit, the attraction has be based on something more... but often isn't.

Being honest about your nature & what you need is the only way to find an exciting partner who will know how to give you room to breath, but still pin you up against the wall for that hair raising kiss.


... to each their own...

Best advice I have seen.......Just be sure you be completely honest with the guy.
and do not expect more from him then he does from you...

meaning.. if you want so much self time.. you can't be expecting him to sit home next to the phone waiting for the call to come over. and such.

when you do find the right one.. things will change and you wont want or need to be apart so much.

seriously.....what do you think about getting married later on.. going to live in separate houses?

bump

yes you can have both, not doubt abuot it

but, are you willing to travel the rout that leads to it?

have you find what is that route?