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Jul 24, 2008 8:37 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
gentlepaws
gentlepawsgentlepawsAny town, Ontario Canada1,019 Threads 13 Polls 9,583 Posts
My daughter, just out of college and struggling, broke a tooth yesterday. It needs a crown, $1200.00. She can't afford it, nor can I. I feel so devastated and ashamed, that my life ended up at this situation, where I can't help out my daughter for such a basic need. The best I could do was call the University of Toronto, their dentistry students need people to practice on. They can do the job for half the price.

I'm sure that there are others on this site that share my frustration. I feel so bad.
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Jul 24, 2008 8:49 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
sxc666
sxc666sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia51 Threads 16,853 Posts
I think most of us have been where you are Pawsy. You have done your best and found it for half price, that's what its all about at the end of the day showing the love.hug
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Jul 24, 2008 8:51 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
gentlepaws
gentlepawsgentlepawsAny town, Ontario Canada1,019 Threads 13 Polls 9,583 Posts
I believe that the UK has free dentistry. Canada has universal health care (free) but a tooth filling here will cost you up to $200.00. Why ?
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Jul 24, 2008 8:52 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
KrazieStill
KrazieStillKrazieStillChardon, Ohio USA13 Threads 3,978 Posts
sxc666: I think most of us have been where you are Pawsy. You have done your best and found it for half price, that's what its all about at the end of the day showing the love.


Agree with Tina. Leo, we want to be able to do everything for our children, regardless of how old or young they are. We 'can't' do everything. We do the best we can.
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Jul 24, 2008 8:52 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
rwantin
rwantinrwantinRoyal Oak, Michigan USA17 Threads 8,924 Posts
Leo, you're as good a person as I know. And the measure of a man is not by his financial status. Okay, maybe around these parts, but in general.

You did good my friend.
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Jul 24, 2008 8:52 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
gentlepaws
gentlepawsgentlepawsAny town, Ontario Canada1,019 Threads 13 Polls 9,583 Posts
sxc666: I think most of us have been where you are Pawsy. You have done your best and found it for half price, that's what its all about at the end of the day showing the love.


Thank you for for that my dear. Pawsy
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Jul 24, 2008 8:54 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
sxc666
sxc666sxc666unknown, Queensland Australia51 Threads 16,853 Posts
gentlepaws: I believe that the UK has free dentistry. Canada has universal health care (free) but a tooth filling here will cost you up to $200.00. Why ?
Same in AU I had a tooth filled a couple of months ago and it cost me $209.roll eyes
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Jul 24, 2008 8:55 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
gentlepaws
gentlepawsgentlepawsAny town, Ontario Canada1,019 Threads 13 Polls 9,583 Posts
rwantin: Leo, you're as good a person as I know. And the measure of a man is not by his financial status. Okay, maybe around these parts, but in general.

You did good my friend.


rwantin wrote, "You did good my friend". I thank you, yet not good enough.
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Jul 24, 2008 8:55 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
zdeadmanwalking
zdeadmanwalkingzdeadmanwalkingbowling green, Kentucky USA235 Threads 3,011 Posts
hug comfort hug
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Jul 24, 2008 8:59 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
gentlepaws
gentlepawsgentlepawsAny town, Ontario Canada1,019 Threads 13 Polls 9,583 Posts
I've always had a problem with; the folks who have the means can chew their food, the poor have to gum it.
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Jul 24, 2008 9:01 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
Indyfella
IndyfellaIndyfellaindianapolis, Indiana USA152 Threads 8 Polls 18,150 Posts
gentlepaws: I believe that the UK has free dentistry. Canada has universal health care (free) but a tooth filling here will cost you up to $200.00. Why ?



I don't think it would cost much more than that in the US, w/o insurance? confused
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Jul 24, 2008 9:02 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
mylifewithu
mylifewithumylifewithuSpringfield, Missouri USA174 Threads 23,670 Posts
gentlepaws: I've always had a problem with; the folks who have the means can chew their food, the poor have to gum it.
Hello Pawswave My girlfriend and I talked about this recently if we had money she could get her teeth fixed.
I could get my daughter and one of my son's teeth fixed, I could use new dentures myself, but its all super costly and painful especially to think about not being able to help any of them.hug comfort
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Jul 24, 2008 9:04 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
crotalus_p
crotalus_pcrotalus_pRush, Dublin Ireland43 Threads 6 Polls 2,789 Posts
It's the same story in ireland unless you Qualify for a medical card (they are given to disabled people , the elderly and any one on welfare) a crown is not covered by it so if you don’t have the cash you have to get it pulled Some people are taking holidays to places like Thailand to get a load of dental work done for a fraction of the price roll eyes
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Jul 24, 2008 9:05 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
gentlepaws
gentlepawsgentlepawsAny town, Ontario Canada1,019 Threads 13 Polls 9,583 Posts
Funny how life goes. There was a time when my daughter and I travelled throughout Mexico and Costa Rica for 6 months. Money was not an object, then life suddenly took a left turn, the wrong way on a one way street.
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Jul 24, 2008 9:08 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
gentlepaws
gentlepawsgentlepawsAny town, Ontario Canada1,019 Threads 13 Polls 9,583 Posts
mylifewithu: Hello Paws My girlfriend and I talked about this recently if we had money she could get her teeth fixed.
I could get my daughter and one of my son's teeth fixed, I could use new dentures myself, but its all super costly and painful especially to think about not being able to help any of them.


Thanks. I knew I wasen't alone in this.
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Jul 24, 2008 9:16 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
DaisyChick
DaisyChickDaisyChickPortland, Oregon USA27 Threads 1,348 Posts
You've got some pretty good advice from these lovely people Paws...
All I wanted to say is I'm sure that your daughter is thankful that you are just there showing her love and caring enough about her needs to do everything you can to make the situation better. Sometimes what we do as parents doesn't always feel good enough... But just having love can mean more than anything. I didn't really have parents growing up as I am sure many others here didn't. I remind myself that everytime there is something I can't give my son... My love speaks volumes. He knows and I know that above anything else is what he remembers at the end of the day.
Okay enough blubbering.
I'm sorry for your frustration comfort hug
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Jul 24, 2008 9:18 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
gentlepaws
gentlepawsgentlepawsAny town, Ontario Canada1,019 Threads 13 Polls 9,583 Posts
Life is so damn tentative; an acquaintance of mine was diagnosed with cancer 16 weeks ago. He has about a week to live . He has 3 children, 8, 9, and 14 years old, and here I am moaning about my daughter's tooth.
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Jul 24, 2008 9:22 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
gentlepaws
gentlepawsgentlepawsAny town, Ontario Canada1,019 Threads 13 Polls 9,583 Posts
DaisyChick: You've got some pretty good advice from these lovely people Paws...
All I wanted to say is I'm sure that your daughter is thankful that you are just there showing her love and caring enough about her needs to do everything you can to make the situation better. Sometimes what we do as parents doesn't always feel good enough... But just having love can mean more than anything. I didn't really have parents growing up as I am sure many others here didn't. I remind myself that everytime there is something I can't give my son... My love speaks volumes. He knows and I know that above anything else is what he remembers at the end of the day.
Okay enough blubbering.
I'm sorry for your frustration


Thank you for your words of basic wisdom. Paws
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Jul 24, 2008 9:27 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
mylifewithu
mylifewithumylifewithuSpringfield, Missouri USA174 Threads 23,670 Posts
gentlepaws: Thanks. I knew I wasen't alone in this.
You are welcome!! The main thing that comes to my mind a lot is darn if I could win the lottery I could get the dental and health things all took care of for my family and friends. Then of course buying all a house including myself.
Your friend dying is very sad and yes you can't help having your minor problems popping in to thought even with what he is going thru . Especially caring about what his family are going thru. hug So sorry you are going thru all of this too. comfort
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Jul 24, 2008 9:28 PM CST The worst feeling one can have.
candio
candiocandioYoungstown, Ohio USA20 Threads 568 Posts
I know how you feel dear. I have no health care for myself and my boys. I checked it out. The cheapest I can find is $1800 a month. If I could pay that I could cover the doc bills.

My son broke his foot jumping long jump. It cost $65 just to walk into the doc's office. I owe this lady over $1000 still, and I have been making payments weekly since June.

To make matters worse. My son lost his full ride scholarship to USC because of the break.

So needless to say I know exactly how helpless you feel. I wish you and your daughter all the best. I am sure they will do a good job at the university.
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