moving in together (114)
darlynda: ok heres the question. my guy and i have been dating for a little over 2 months now and we are talking about moving in together. how long would each of you give it before you take that next step? i keep thinking i aint getting any younger and we do seen to get along really well. so please give me some really good advise , i know you can. THANKS
Keep seperate places and stay together a few months to see how it works...
a good exit strategy is a beautifulll thing.
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rwantin: My ex practically lived at my place - particularly on the weekends. Had her own half the closet, drawers (cabinet, er, not the other drawers, though she had those too). It was nice. But the moving out part was very painful.
Robert...you are a great guy. If I were gay, I'd move in with you whether you like it or not!!
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Claayer: Robster.. you are a great 'catch' and a lovely man..
there are HEAPS of women out there who would love to cram their underwear in your drawers.
Its just a matter of right place right time.
(hahah! drawers is also slang for underpants here btw)
there are HEAPS of women out there who would love to cram their underwear in your drawers.
Its just a matter of right place right time.
(hahah! drawers is also slang for underpants here btw)
Oh shucks. Thank you.
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shipoker58: Robert...you are a great guy. If I were gay, I'd move in with you whether you like it or not!!
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shipoker58: Robert...you are a great guy. If I were gay, I'd move in with you whether you like it or not!!
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Ocee35: Keep seperate places and stay together a few months to see how it works...
a good exit strategy is a beautifulll thing.
thanksa good exit strategy is a beautifulll thing.
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darlynda: okay i have my home and he has his own home, HELP I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?
Two months is nowhere NEAR long enough
Two months? Really, think about it!
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"moving in together"
Sounds like movie of the week
**Moving in "to get her"**
seriously.. 2 months........ sounds like something we do in our 20's.
A better way to look at it might be..... at this age, is it really a smart thing to do to rush in again without getting to really know the other person well first?????
this would be even a bigger waste of precious time.
I mean getting so deeply involved so fast just to end up alone again because you just can't live together a year later.
I would think it much smarter to wait, don't rush, get to know them VERY well first, in 2 months you haven't even seen the real person yet! just the getting to know you-* put on front...* anyone can put on a false front for a short time...... but in the long run the front peels away.\
Then you will know who you are really dealing with.
Have we learned anything from our younger years??
Sounds like movie of the week
**Moving in "to get her"**
seriously.. 2 months........ sounds like something we do in our 20's.
A better way to look at it might be..... at this age, is it really a smart thing to do to rush in again without getting to really know the other person well first?????
this would be even a bigger waste of precious time.
I mean getting so deeply involved so fast just to end up alone again because you just can't live together a year later.
I would think it much smarter to wait, don't rush, get to know them VERY well first, in 2 months you haven't even seen the real person yet! just the getting to know you-* put on front...* anyone can put on a false front for a short time...... but in the long run the front peels away.\
Then you will know who you are really dealing with.
Have we learned anything from our younger years??
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Indyfella: I'd run a credit check and a police report.
the best advice I've seen to this point, though I must admit I have not read all the posts here. The internet is an awesome place to find information, and this is something you all need before you make a decision on anyone.
all the best to whatever your decision should be, but first a word from your sponsors. check out who you're sleeping with. Could be..................uuuuuuuummmmmmmmmmmmm.
this is a free website to find out about anyone. from traffic violations to actual criminal records. I believe every man, and woman should know what they get themselves into.
" and that's all I got to say about that"
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kissmedeeply: A day.. A Month..A Year.
Whos to say...
There is no limit on how long you should wait...
Do what you think is best...
No one really knows how long one must wait..
For me..when i feel its right..
Whos to say...
There is no limit on how long you should wait...
Do what you think is best...
No one really knows how long one must wait..
For me..when i feel its right..
i agree.
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Lot's of good advice here, most of it pretty sound.
2 months is nowhere near long enough - For some people. Then again, for some folks 2 years isn't long enough.
What applies to some does not necessarily apply to others.
Seems to me that if it's going to work then 2 months or even 2 weeks is plenty long enough - If it's not, then 2 decades wouldn't be long enough.
You are your own person and ultimately YOU and your guy are the ones who have to live with your decision(s). (And each other!)
If you think it'll work, (and it seems like you do!) then go for it! If it was meant to be, it will work and you'll cherish the extra time together. If not, then you'll discover it sooner rather than later and still have time to move on without the baggage that accrues with time.
Personally, I thank God each and every day that I made the "rash decision" to just up and leave everything I'd known and move 1,100 miles to the hills of East Tennessee. Oh sure, it was way too soon - I'd only known her for 2 1/2 months - But what's the time limit on playing the lottery before you hit the jackpot? I took a chance, spun the wheel and was rewarded with more love, happiness and peace of mind than I ever knew could exist!
Step up and spin the wheel, I say! True, you might go bust, but you might also hit the greatest jackpot life has to offer - Peace of mind, love, contentment... Happiness!
Luck to you and yours!
2 months is nowhere near long enough - For some people. Then again, for some folks 2 years isn't long enough.
What applies to some does not necessarily apply to others.
Seems to me that if it's going to work then 2 months or even 2 weeks is plenty long enough - If it's not, then 2 decades wouldn't be long enough.
You are your own person and ultimately YOU and your guy are the ones who have to live with your decision(s). (And each other!)
If you think it'll work, (and it seems like you do!) then go for it! If it was meant to be, it will work and you'll cherish the extra time together. If not, then you'll discover it sooner rather than later and still have time to move on without the baggage that accrues with time.
Personally, I thank God each and every day that I made the "rash decision" to just up and leave everything I'd known and move 1,100 miles to the hills of East Tennessee. Oh sure, it was way too soon - I'd only known her for 2 1/2 months - But what's the time limit on playing the lottery before you hit the jackpot? I took a chance, spun the wheel and was rewarded with more love, happiness and peace of mind than I ever knew could exist!
Step up and spin the wheel, I say! True, you might go bust, but you might also hit the greatest jackpot life has to offer - Peace of mind, love, contentment... Happiness!
Luck to you and yours!
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JOHNNYMAMBO: i agree.
Thank you...
I am just saying nice to have advice...
but we need to do what we feel is right...
No one really know anyone else but ourselves..
Advice is wonderful..but girl do what you feel is right for you..
If you feel its time..Good for you...
All the best...
Dont wait to long...
Take the Risk..its all about choices
.Even if it was the wrong move at least you took the chance..
And you wont look back and say WHAT IF
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darlynda I'd keep my own place then if things don't work out between the two of you you still have a place to go to.
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I married the guy I met at 14 and married 6 years later.
I still did not really know him!