cristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands17,243 posts
darlynda: IT DOES FEEL RIGHT AND I GUESS THATS WHAT SCARES ME, but i guess we can both keep our homes for a while and see if its going to work i need a group hug cause i think i am going to jump in and do this
vonney: Have to agree with tufty. Great that you are getting on well but in my mind is way to soon. I married my ex after just 9 months and we really didnt know each other at all, we were both still at the keeping our best sides out stage.
or maybe i am not, oh god i am soooooooooo confused
darlynda: IT DOES FEEL RIGHT AND I GUESS THATS WHAT SCARES ME, but i guess we can both keep our homes for a while and see if its going to work i need a group hug cause i think i am going to jump in and do this
maybe you could rent out your place at the start , not that you'll need it good luck
darlynda: or maybe i am not, oh god i am soooooooooo confused
id talk to my closest friend about it
someone aware of my patterns and intimate enuf to be comfortable and care enuf to share objective opinion based on something-like being in your life.
i have in the past been known to ask certain advice from certain people cuz i knew they would say what i wanted to hear.
none of us are perfect people.
i believe in 'a lid for every pot' theory but i have more than once victimized myself by going toward the white hot spark that of course burned out just as fast-thats physics
youll learn about yourself whatever choice you make so its a bonus either way- opportunities arent always for saying yes i think sometimes they are for saying no, maybe, wait, i dunno-and letting the dust settle.
do you pray? i do and usually feel a certain peace-or not- i think if i have asked sincerely to 'see' i always get clear direction-confirmation of which way to go...
well, you know me...I'm not for people living together!! But that is just me. Most don't agree with that. But for those interested in a live-in relationship...no time is right. Whatever you feel is right is all that matters. Best of luck to you both
darlynda: ok heres the question. my guy and i have been dating for a little over 2 months now and we are talking about moving in together. how long would each of you give it before you take that next step? i keep thinking i aint getting any younger and we do seen to get along really well. so please give me some really good advise , i know you can. THANKS
Give it a go....what have you got to lose? You both own your own homes so it is not like if it does not work out that you will be out on your ear...
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