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dad512: its hard to explain her situation but she has two kids w split custody but has the kids on his wk while he works {court ordered}so she only works part time to avoid day care costs and she is a great person but has a lot of other issues n her past but is very attracted to me n i'm the same w her n i have my own issues to but would hate to not give it a chance cause u never know but just wanted some other opinions
go for it you never know what happens in a relationship who doesn't have "issues" 
giving someone a chance is the best thing that you can give them.
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dad512: its hard to explain her situation but she has two kids w split custody but has the kids on his wk while he works {court ordered}so she only works part time to avoid day care costs and she is a great person but has a lot of other issues n her past but is very attracted to me n i'm the same w her n i have my own issues to but would hate to not give it a chance cause u never know but just wanted some other opinions
You go for it because if you don't then you will have
to live with the what if's.
But if my experience (several times) is anything to go by then
there is a very strong chance that you are wasting your time.
Sorry but my advice is that you had better have a "when to bail
out plan" as most likely you will be needing one.
Sorry I know that's probably not what you wanted to hear but
leopards don't usually change their spots. It is only us through
rose colored glasses who so often can't see reality.
Good luck and just make the decision that is right for you.
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HJFinAZ: I have heard that one before..
Thought it sounded familiar.
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gypsykisses: go for it you never know what happens in a relationship who doesn't have "issues" giving someone a chance is the best thing that you can give them.
They have to give themselves a Chance,before anything else.
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bob1959: I know this isn't what you want to here but past performance is the best predictor of future behavior. mho
But that means that Human Beings can't change for the Better?
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Conrad73: But that means that Human Beings can't change for the Better?
Minor improvements yes but a "change" usually no,
as it takes a lot more than most people are capable of.
Sorry sad fact of life. JMO
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go for it, hopefully he is not saying what you want to hear and he is changing for himself and not for you
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No one has a perfect past! and you will never have a perfect future. But if you care about someone shouldn't you want to be there for them? shouldn't you want to share the bad as well as the good?
Look at your self first can you handle what comes with her? If you can and you care about her then let her know! Everyone here is full of advice, most is good. But know one knows whats in your heart or how strong or weak a person you are. Only you know how you feel. If you love her and you think you can handle her situation, then just maybe when it is all said and done it might have been ment for you! The rewards could be more then what you could ever imagine.
Look at your self first can you handle what comes with her? If you can and you care about her then let her know! Everyone here is full of advice, most is good. But know one knows whats in your heart or how strong or weak a person you are. Only you know how you feel. If you love her and you think you can handle her situation, then just maybe when it is all said and done it might have been ment for you! The rewards could be more then what you could ever imagine.
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dad512: what do u do when u r in love with someone you know is trouble but says they want to change
People usually don't change..
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gangel: People usually don't change..
No they don't unless they see things in themselves they need to change....but that takes an aweful hard look and honestly!!!!!!!
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People only change for themselves. Good bad or ugly, the only real change comes from within, not to please someone else.
If someone changes just to suit you, watch out, there's going to be major resentment under the surface waiting to come out and bite you.
I say let her resolve whatever issues she has and make whatever changes she needs to in her life without any input or involvement from you. Then if you're both still interested it can develop from there. If you get involved in her life to try and rescue or fix her, you're setting yourself up for major failure. Just my opinion from past experience, from both sides of the issue.
If someone changes just to suit you, watch out, there's going to be major resentment under the surface waiting to come out and bite you.
I say let her resolve whatever issues she has and make whatever changes she needs to in her life without any input or involvement from you. Then if you're both still interested it can develop from there. If you get involved in her life to try and rescue or fix her, you're setting yourself up for major failure. Just my opinion from past experience, from both sides of the issue.
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mbcasey: Allow them to prove it to you....
Hi ken
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Well, I may find out tomorrow if someone has changed or not.
If not............... ciao!!
If I learn anything that will be of use to you, I will certainly let you know, my friend!!
If not............... ciao!!
If I learn anything that will be of use to you, I will certainly let you know, my friend!!
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hmm ... depends on what sort of trouble ..
If its something serious .. give them a little time and see ..
If its something serious .. give them a little time and see ..
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I see you are a nice caring guy my friend.
Just remember, If you decide to jump in:
- the other dad will always be there
- the kids will always be there
- You will be with her for the rest of your life [or something lie that]
Just remember, If you decide to jump in:
- the other dad will always be there
- the kids will always be there
- You will be with her for the rest of your life [or something lie that]
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dad512: what do u do when u r in love with someone you know is trouble but says they want to change
isnt there a saying a leopard never changes its spots - dont get me wrong yes people can change but the question is do u believe this person wants too?
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cmf333: isnt there a saying a leopard never changes its spots - dont get me wrong yes people can change but the question is do u believe this person wants too?
Its the chance you take.... or not maybe
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dad512: its hard to explain her situation but she has two kids w split custody but has the kids on his wk while he works {court ordered}so she only works part time to avoid day care costs and she is a great person but has a lot of other issues n her past but is very attracted to me n i'm the same w her n i have my own issues to but would hate to not give it a chance cause u never know but just wanted some other opinions
If you love her go for it...you may not be here tomorrow.
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I've never been in a relationship with who a woman is going to become.