Building Walls (33)
bob1959otisfield, Maine USA54 Threads 3 Polls 1,874 PostsI have read several posts by cs members suggesting that a person needs to tear down "walls" in order to find love, yet I have read time and time again about people being happy, secure, or comfortable being single and even one who couldn't be bothered with a relationship. It would seem these people are building walls? I only ask this because, although I haven't been offically single that long, already I have an almost indecernable yet undeniable feeling if "don't really give a s#$T" growing in my head and frankly find ther prospect terriffing. How does one know if your building walls or tearing them down?
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I wish I knew.
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bob1959: I have read several posts by cs members suggesting that a person needs to tear down "walls" in order to find love, yet I have read time and time again about people being happy, secure, or comfortable being single and even one who couldn't be bothered with a relationship. It would seem these people are building walls? I only ask this because, although I haven't been offically single that long, already I have an almost indecernable yet undeniable feeling if "don't really give a s#$T" growing in my head and frankly find ther prospect terriffing. How does one know if your building walls or tearing them down?
I don't thing we actually realize when the walls are built....we probably start seing them when they are way too high and obstruct all liught or when somebody's on the other side, banging to come in.....only tearing them down is an active, intentional process - well, most of the times anyways
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Either way the inspector will be around for their cut.
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Xtabentun: I don't thing we actually realize when the walls are built....we probably start seing them when they are way too high and obstruct all liught or when somebody's on the other side, banging to come in.....only tearing them down is an active, intentional process - well, most of the times anyways
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somechick: I wish I knew.
It takes character to say" I don't know?"------ This thread is Archived ------
mastic55: Either way the inspector will be around for their cut.
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The answer lies in mortar or a hammer... which are you holding in your heart?
Tearing down walls is not an acceptable behaviour as it is wasteful and poses the hazard of forgetting where we have been. Remodeling or restructuring the grounds is a much better consideration. That grey barricade would make a better deck with a hot-tub and such perched upon it.
If you are having fun in life others will see this and join in the games.
Sittling alone in your self-made prison allows you the occasional visitor but they tend to pat you on the back and get right back to the outside world real quick to enjoy the sun and fun that occurs outside each of us once we part the clouds of grey.
Tearing down walls is not an acceptable behaviour as it is wasteful and poses the hazard of forgetting where we have been. Remodeling or restructuring the grounds is a much better consideration. That grey barricade would make a better deck with a hot-tub and such perched upon it.
If you are having fun in life others will see this and join in the games.
Sittling alone in your self-made prison allows you the occasional visitor but they tend to pat you on the back and get right back to the outside world real quick to enjoy the sun and fun that occurs outside each of us once we part the clouds of grey.
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I think when we want change in our lives we know what to do.
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bob1959: I'm a carpenter. I hate those F@#$ckers
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I think over the last couple of months I've built my wall and right now I'm just standing behind it. 
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I've put up a wall because I don't want to get hurt anymore.I guess I've got to learn to trust again.
Whether it's someone you love, a friend or aquantance it's still painful when someone hurts you.
Whether it's someone you love, a friend or aquantance it's still painful when someone hurts you.
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Dknew: I think over the last couple of months I've built my wall and right now I'm just standing behind it.
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somechick: I've put up a wall because I don't want to get hurt anymore.I guess I've got to learn to trust again.
Whether it's someone you love, a friend or aquantance it's still painful when someone hurts you.
I haven't looked at your profile but EVERY women that I've met in my age group has trust issues. I guess when you get emotionally punched in the face enough times, you learn to duck.Whether it's someone you love, a friend or aquantance it's still painful when someone hurts you.
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bob1959: I just get the feeling it's going to be a real short one way trip to don't give a s@#t and I don't like it one damn bit.
Neither do I but when we hurt we tend to build a wall around our heart.
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bob1959: I haven't looked at your profile but EVERY women that I've met in my age group has trust issues. I guess when you get emotionally punched in the face enough times, you learn to duck.
It also hurts when someone doesn't trust you also.
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I'm not sure age has anything to do with it. We live in a throw away world. If something no longer makes us happy, we pitch it and get a new one. No one fixes anything or maintains anything...not even relationships.
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somechick: It also hurts when someone doesn't trust you also.
Near as this ole' bumkin carpenter can figure, it takes time and honesty. I wish there was a shortcut but..........------ This thread is Archived ------
bob1959: I have read several posts by cs members suggesting that a person needs to tear down "walls" in order to find love, yet I have read time and time again about people being happy, secure, or comfortable being single and even one who couldn't be bothered with a relationship. It would seem these people are building walls? I only ask this because, although I haven't been offically single that long, already I have an almost indecernable yet undeniable feeling if "don't really give a s#$T" growing in my head and frankly find ther prospect terriffing. How does one know if your building walls or tearing them down?
Hi Bob... I think that there is a difference between being single out of choice, because you are content and happy with your life.... and being single because you´re afraid to put yourself out there or because of trust issues etc.
When we´ve been hurt it´s really normal to put up a wall to protect ourselves, to give ourselves an opportunity to heal.... but if you are someone who is not happy and content as a single person then at some point those walls have to come down. It´s ok to retreat for a while and nurse your wounds...but if you keep walls up to long... it´s that much harder to bring them down.
At the same time if you don´t keep them up long enough to give yourself a chance to heal then you may not be strong enough to deal with the potential pitfalls the dating world seems to bring.
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