Is it possible to try too hard to get a Date/Relationship? (116)
I don't think it's possible to try too hard, but don't bend over backwards at her every little whim. Just be yourself and tell her flat out that you like her. But of course, that's my view and maybe she might not like that approach. I am unlike other girls. 
Sorry, I haven't helped.
Sorry, I haven't helped.
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lanabyte: I don't think it's possible to try too hard, but don't bend over backwards at her every little whim. Just be yourself and tell her flat out that you like her. But of course, that's my view and maybe she might not like that approach. I am unlike other girls.
Sorry, I haven't helped.
Sorry, I haven't helped.
Erm......
thanks........ 
Tell her I like her!!!!!Thanks Sweety
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stooie1971: Just wondering if it is, or maybe not trying hard enough?
I was wondering if there is anything that women are looking for in a potential suitor online...
I was wondering if there is anything that women are looking for in a potential suitor online...
Try Hard is one of the most common mistakes/turn offs.
Many times men are unaware that their behavior is "try hard".
JMPimpO
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stooie1971: Just wondering if it is, or maybe not trying hard enough?
I was wondering if there is anything that women are looking for in a potential suitor online...
I was wondering if there is anything that women are looking for in a potential suitor online...
Yes..take a hint from the people who have been here a week and whine they haven't found anyone yet...I say just live your life....be yourself and when it's the right time...she will appear....seems to always happen when you aren't looking for anyone....
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diogenes: Try Hard is one of the most common mistakes/turn offs.
Many times men are unaware that their behavior is "try hard".
JMPimpO
Many times men are unaware that their behavior is "try hard".
JMPimpO
That's a good point Dio, but I feel I'm pretty laid back and not pushy at all.... I tend to have more of a laugh on here than looking for Miss Right!!
I do think at times that I may have missed some lovely women by not trying or showing more than a passing interest in them.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Yes..take a hint from the people who have been here a week and whine they haven't found anyone yet...I say just live your life....be yourself and when it's the right time...she will appear....seems to always happen when you aren't looking for anyone....
I have certainly been posting for a while, but I tend to have a laugh, the people on here are brilliant and funny... yes I have fallen out with some, but that is life.
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diogenes: Try Hard is one of the most common mistakes/turn offs.
Many times men are unaware that their behavior is "try hard".
JMPimpO
Many times men are unaware that their behavior is "try hard".
JMPimpO
Absolutely, but not trying hard enough is a real turn off also... again it goes to deciding whether a person is sincere and really likes you or not... a guy who falls at the first hurdle really isn't regarded as being worth the hassle.... actually its not easy is it??
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Aries01: actually its not easy is it?? ... yer kinda damned if you do and damned if you don't...
Precisely..... where do you get the balance?
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Aries01: Absolutely, but not trying hard enough is a real turn off also... again it goes to deciding whether a person is sincere and really likes you or not... a guy who falls at the first hurdle really isn't regarded as being worth the hassle.... actually its not easy is it?? ... yer kinda damned if you do and damned if you don't...
Well that's the difference..like you said...coming off as desperate is one thing....as in "I will take anybody"...sincerely trying with someone you are genuinely interested in is another thing....So I guess a good question to ask ourselves is..."Do I want someone (anyone) or do I want the one????"
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stooie1971: That's a good point Dio, but I feel I'm pretty laid back and not pushy at all.... I tend to have more of a laugh on here than looking for Miss Right!!
I do think at times that I may have missed some lovely women by not trying or showing more than a passing interest in them.
I do think at times that I may have missed some lovely women by not trying or showing more than a passing interest in them.
There's no need to feel like you've missed out. You don't want to end up with a needy attention starved woman. A passing interest, it seems to me anyway, is enough. Relationships should develop slowly, and naturally, save the grand gestures for when you know without a doubt that a woman is "the one."
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diogenes: There's no need to feel like you've missed out. You don't want to end up with a needy attention starved woman. A passing interest, it seems to me anyway, is enough. Relationships should develop slowly, and naturally, save the grand gestures for when you know without a doubt that a woman is "the one."
Thank Buddy..... i can safely say that one has passed me by... it was coming along nice and slowly too. shame... we were getting on brilliantly...
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I think the secret lies in what your intentions are towards that person.... if your intentions are true, then you will be less likely to come across as a creep...
In my experience the things that I have regarded too much are
incessant texts.. no matter how much you potentially like someone.. its a pain to have to keep answering texts about silly things... the same goes for tons of pointless phone calls...
Texts ARE good though and phonecalls, cause its nice when you think of us
Agreeing with you all the time.... dunno it kinda creeps me out if someone doesn't appear to have a point of view of there own..
We do like it though when you have a similar outlook to us, as long as that outlook is actually yours
Over the top romance... dunno it just doesn't seem genuine..
We DO like romance though.. especially the little thoughful things.. like offering to take you out or cooking for you when he knows you have had a hard day... or running a bath for you (just you) that kinda stuff..
Really its not that hard to please us once you are genuine and sincere, but not a walkover or a wuss...
In my experience the things that I have regarded too much are
incessant texts.. no matter how much you potentially like someone.. its a pain to have to keep answering texts about silly things... the same goes for tons of pointless phone calls...
Texts ARE good though and phonecalls, cause its nice when you think of us
Agreeing with you all the time.... dunno it kinda creeps me out if someone doesn't appear to have a point of view of there own..
We do like it though when you have a similar outlook to us, as long as that outlook is actually yours
Over the top romance... dunno it just doesn't seem genuine..
We DO like romance though.. especially the little thoughful things.. like offering to take you out or cooking for you when he knows you have had a hard day... or running a bath for you (just you) that kinda stuff..
Really its not that hard to please us once you are genuine and sincere, but not a walkover or a wuss...
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Thank Buddy..... i can safely say that one has passed me by... it was coming along nice and slowly too. shame... we were getting on brilliantly...[/quote
Hey Stooie! Don't let it upset you bud. Multitude of reasons for contact to be broken. Just hang in there!!
Hey Stooie!
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stooie1971: I do think at times that I may have missed some lovely women by not trying or showing more than a passing interest in them.
What's meant to be will always find a way.
Don't be someone you're not. Be yourself and the right person will come along. If you missed someone, it probably wasn't right. And it goes both ways. If she didn't show any interest in you, then being more attentive towads her wouldn't change her mind.
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stooie1971: Just wondering if it is, or maybe not trying hard enough?
I was wondering if there is anything that women are looking for in a potential suitor online...
what do you want? (in a woman)? What is your criteria?I was wondering if there is anything that women are looking for in a potential suitor online...
to answer about trying too hard:
sure, you can try too hard, but if you are standing in a dark closet you might want to come out or at least turn a light on in case someone else is in the next room.
On your profile you are leaving it all up to the other person to pursue you it would appear. You might put some things there about what you might enjoy in the other person. Be realistic share a little more about yourself. You say you have a sense of humour, Do you like to go to the "Bullfights"? favorite foods? what will that person find in common with you?
good luck.
;-}
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I think the secret lies in what your intentions are towards that person.... if your intentions are true, then you will be less likely to come across as a creep...
In my experience the things that I have regarded too much are
incessant texts.. no matter how much you potentially like someone.. its a pain to have to keep answering texts about silly things... the same goes for tons of pointless phone calls...
Texts ARE good though and phonecalls, cause its nice when you think of us
Agreeing with you all the time.... dunno it kinda creeps me out if someone doesn't appear to have a point of view of there own..
We do like it though when you have a similar outlook to us, as long as that outlook is actually yours
Over the top romance... dunno it just doesn't seem genuine..
We DO like romance though.. especially the little thoughful things.. like offering to take you out or cooking for you when he knows you have had a hard day... or running a bath for you (just you) that kinda stuff..
Really its not that hard to please us once you are genuine and sincere, but not a walkover or a wuss...[/quote
In my experience the things that I have regarded too much are
incessant texts.. no matter how much you potentially like someone.. its a pain to have to keep answering texts about silly things... the same goes for tons of pointless phone calls...
Texts ARE good though and phonecalls, cause its nice when you think of us
Agreeing with you all the time.... dunno it kinda creeps me out if someone doesn't appear to have a point of view of there own..
We do like it though when you have a similar outlook to us, as long as that outlook is actually yours
Over the top romance... dunno it just doesn't seem genuine..
We DO like romance though.. especially the little thoughful things.. like offering to take you out or cooking for you when he knows you have had a hard day... or running a bath for you (just you) that kinda stuff..
Really its not that hard to please us once you are genuine and sincere, but not a walkover or a wuss...[/quote
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keytone: what do you want? (in a woman)? What is your criteria?
to answer about trying too hard:
sure, you can try too hard, but if you are standing in a dark closet you might want to come out or at least turn a light on in case someone else is in the next room.
On your profile you are leaving it all up to the other person to pursue you it would appear. You might put some things there about what you might enjoy in the other person. Be realistic share a little more about yourself. You say you have a sense of humour, Do you like to go to the "Bullfights"? favorite foods? what will that person find in common with you?
good luck.
;-}
to answer about trying too hard:
sure, you can try too hard, but if you are standing in a dark closet you might want to come out or at least turn a light on in case someone else is in the next room.
On your profile you are leaving it all up to the other person to pursue you it would appear. You might put some things there about what you might enjoy in the other person. Be realistic share a little more about yourself. You say you have a sense of humour, Do you like to go to the "Bullfights"? favorite foods? what will that person find in common with you?
good luck.
;-}
You know something... I haven't looked at my profile for ages.....will do as you suggest, thanks
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Aries01: I think the secret lies in what your intentions are towards that person.... if your intentions are true, then you will be less likely to come across as a creep...
In my experience the things that I have regarded too much are
incessant texts.. no matter how much you potentially like someone.. its a pain to have to keep answering texts about silly things... the same goes for tons of pointless phone calls...
Texts ARE good though and phonecalls, cause its nice when you think of us
Agreeing with you all the time.... dunno it kinda creeps me out if someone doesn't appear to have a point of view of there own..
We do like it though when you have a similar outlook to us, as long as that outlook is actually yours
Over the top romance... dunno it just doesn't seem genuine..
We DO like romance though.. especially the little thoughful things.. like offering to take you out or cooking for you when he knows you have had a hard day... or running a bath for you (just you) that kinda stuff..
Really its not that hard to please us once you are genuine and sincere, but not a walkover or a wuss...
In my experience the things that I have regarded too much are
incessant texts.. no matter how much you potentially like someone.. its a pain to have to keep answering texts about silly things... the same goes for tons of pointless phone calls...
Texts ARE good though and phonecalls, cause its nice when you think of us
Agreeing with you all the time.... dunno it kinda creeps me out if someone doesn't appear to have a point of view of there own..
We do like it though when you have a similar outlook to us, as long as that outlook is actually yours
Over the top romance... dunno it just doesn't seem genuine..
We DO like romance though.. especially the little thoughful things.. like offering to take you out or cooking for you when he knows you have had a hard day... or running a bath for you (just you) that kinda stuff..
Really its not that hard to please us once you are genuine and sincere, but not a walkover or a wuss...
Bingo!
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stooie1971: That a good point too... however you maybe able to answer this.... do you find the guy's on here that you like... difficult to approach?
and again from a woman's point of view, do you wait for the guy to make the first move/contact etc
and again from a woman's point of view, do you wait for the guy to make the first move/contact etc
Im a difficult example, cuz I would never approach a guy to date, and I am not much of a flirt either... Relationships normally start as a friendship with me... and a person wouldn't want to lack patience either, cause I hate rushing things... I just like the au naturel approach, which is probably why I am still single..
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