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Sommerauer71: Even though I do not believe that hearts break, from emotions...
We all hurt, when a relationship breaks down, but when do you know you are through the pain?
I ask you sage people there, because after a long 18 months, of solitude aside from my children and my friends and work ,I have finally come through the pain of a broken relationship and realise that whilst I loved him very much, it was never right and could never have been .I sit back often, reflect and learn from the pain and where it all went so badly wrong, and then I can sit and smile at the love we did share and when we laughed, when we made love and know that I can do that all over again.
I think that is when you know you are repaired...
Any thoughts, wise ones?
Can we look at our past relationships and learn from them and seek a new path and be a better partner, or do we sit in a pit of self misery and balme the other person for all they did to us? ANd never look at our part that we played in the breakdown?
A nice gentle Saturday night thread...
Go.
We all hurt, when a relationship breaks down, but when do you know you are through the pain?
I ask you sage people there, because after a long 18 months, of solitude aside from my children and my friends and work ,I have finally come through the pain of a broken relationship and realise that whilst I loved him very much, it was never right and could never have been .I sit back often, reflect and learn from the pain and where it all went so badly wrong, and then I can sit and smile at the love we did share and when we laughed, when we made love and know that I can do that all over again.
I think that is when you know you are repaired...
Any thoughts, wise ones?
Can we look at our past relationships and learn from them and seek a new path and be a better partner, or do we sit in a pit of self misery and balme the other person for all they did to us? ANd never look at our part that we played in the breakdown?
A nice gentle Saturday night thread...
Go.
Both serve a purpose.
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Indyfella: Both serve a purpose.
One does, the other, well, it serves nothing for me Indy.
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Sommerauer71: Even though I do not believe that hearts break, from emotions...
We all hurt, when a relationship breaks down, but when do you know you are through the pain?
I ask you sage people there, because after a long 18 months, of solitude aside from my children and my friends and work ,I have finally come through the pain of a broken relationship and realise that whilst I loved him very much, it was never right and could never have been .I sit back often, reflect and learn from the pain and where it all went so badly wrong, and then I can sit and smile at the love we did share and when we laughed, when we made love and know that I can do that all over again.
I think that is when you know you are repaired...
Any thoughts, wise ones?
Can we look at our past relationships and learn from them and seek a new path and be a better partner, or do we sit in a pit of self misery and balme the other person for all they did to us? ANd never look at our part that we played in the breakdown?
A nice gentle Saturday night thread...
Go.
We all hurt, when a relationship breaks down, but when do you know you are through the pain?
I ask you sage people there, because after a long 18 months, of solitude aside from my children and my friends and work ,I have finally come through the pain of a broken relationship and realise that whilst I loved him very much, it was never right and could never have been .I sit back often, reflect and learn from the pain and where it all went so badly wrong, and then I can sit and smile at the love we did share and when we laughed, when we made love and know that I can do that all over again.
I think that is when you know you are repaired...
Any thoughts, wise ones?
Can we look at our past relationships and learn from them and seek a new path and be a better partner, or do we sit in a pit of self misery and balme the other person for all they did to us? ANd never look at our part that we played in the breakdown?
A nice gentle Saturday night thread...
Go.
I think we can sometimes learn from our past realtionships and seek new paths and hope we can hopefully learn from our flaws and weaknesses and try to do a better job next time.
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Sommerauer71: One does, the other, well, it serves nothing for me Indy.
Life is a process my dear. Virtually everything we do serves a purpose. :philosopher emoticon:
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Indyfella: Life is a process my dear. Virtually everything we do serves a purpose. :philosopher emoticon:
I agree, life is a process...
But how easy is it to love a person who is swaddled in bitterness?
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Whilst I can't claim to be sagacious by any means....
I am an idealist and a romantic at heart so I yearn to believe in true love conquering all. Of course, the realist in me tells me different.
Gone are the days when life was so much simpler.....
Sadly, there are too many influencing factors that impact upon a relationship these days. Some of them can probably be attributed to not trying hard enough but trying is not always enough.
I have reflected on my past marriage with a sigh, hoping that things could've been different, of course, for all the obvious reasons.... not WONDERING... because I know it couldn't have worked long term, but it doesn't stop one from HOPING.
If you can smile and reflect on the good times and not just the bad, you are making headway to getting over it, I believe.
I do feel you have so much going for you, Sommerauer, that..... the future is definitely bright!!
I am an idealist and a romantic at heart so I yearn to believe in true love conquering all. Of course, the realist in me tells me different.
Gone are the days when life was so much simpler.....
Sadly, there are too many influencing factors that impact upon a relationship these days. Some of them can probably be attributed to not trying hard enough but trying is not always enough.
I have reflected on my past marriage with a sigh, hoping that things could've been different, of course, for all the obvious reasons.... not WONDERING... because I know it couldn't have worked long term, but it doesn't stop one from HOPING.
If you can smile and reflect on the good times and not just the bad, you are making headway to getting over it, I believe.
I do feel you have so much going for you, Sommerauer, that..... the future is definitely bright!!
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Temporally premature in my part of the world for the evening thread but for you dear lady I will draw the blinds to share in a special moment.
I believe that all things that have gone will hold us prisoner until we accept the lesson hidden within their essence. There is grace and loveliness in heaps to reflect on and it is in these things that we discover who we truly are. Hold tight to the charity your own spirit endows upon us as such reflection is often overlooked and soon forgotten.
We do not head back into the stream of life to seek that which we have already experienced as it is as impossible as stooping down to take the same handful of water from a river. Each handful represents something different and no one of them has the same lesson.
The difficulty lies in trying to keep ourselves true to who we were when in actuality we have changed and must need address this change to subtly prod it in a direction that stands the test of the inner mirror.
In the peace and pain there are equal portions of either. They are not separate in any way. The peace brings us pain as we see what we believe we have lost and in the pain we see the most profound moments of our joy which stand as contrast to this.
Of course he was right for you, there would never be anything in your life that was wrong, it just wasn't meant to be there forever. The lesson learned and the next class lies ahead. Graduation comes from just accepting and forgiving yourself for refusing to let the natural rhythm lead you on the journey that is yours and yours alone.
Once we become our true selves we will find the significant other who is likewise complete and then the road carries no more obtrusive branches just wealths of experience to share in until our twilight years finally draw down the shades.
I believe that all things that have gone will hold us prisoner until we accept the lesson hidden within their essence. There is grace and loveliness in heaps to reflect on and it is in these things that we discover who we truly are. Hold tight to the charity your own spirit endows upon us as such reflection is often overlooked and soon forgotten.
We do not head back into the stream of life to seek that which we have already experienced as it is as impossible as stooping down to take the same handful of water from a river. Each handful represents something different and no one of them has the same lesson.
The difficulty lies in trying to keep ourselves true to who we were when in actuality we have changed and must need address this change to subtly prod it in a direction that stands the test of the inner mirror.
In the peace and pain there are equal portions of either. They are not separate in any way. The peace brings us pain as we see what we believe we have lost and in the pain we see the most profound moments of our joy which stand as contrast to this.
Of course he was right for you, there would never be anything in your life that was wrong, it just wasn't meant to be there forever. The lesson learned and the next class lies ahead. Graduation comes from just accepting and forgiving yourself for refusing to let the natural rhythm lead you on the journey that is yours and yours alone.
Once we become our true selves we will find the significant other who is likewise complete and then the road carries no more obtrusive branches just wealths of experience to share in until our twilight years finally draw down the shades.
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It is only Saturday afternoon here. Tonight brings the final race of or regular season & I assure you, I will NOT be nice when someone screws up!!
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Sommerauer71: Even though I do not believe that hearts break, from emotions...
We all hurt, when a relationship breaks down, but when do you know you are through the pain?
I ask you sage people there, because after a long 18 months, of solitude aside from my children and my friends and work ,I have finally come through the pain of a broken relationship and realise that whilst I loved him very much, it was never right and could never have been .I sit back often, reflect and learn from the pain and where it all went so badly wrong, and then I can sit and smile at the love we did share and when we laughed, when we made love and know that I can do that all over again.
I think that is when you know you are repaired...
Any thoughts, wise ones?
Can we look at our past relationships and learn from them and seek a new path and be a better partner, or do we sit in a pit of self misery and balme the other person for all they did to us? ANd never look at our part that we played in the breakdown?
A nice gentle Saturday night thread...
Go.
We all hurt, when a relationship breaks down, but when do you know you are through the pain?
I ask you sage people there, because after a long 18 months, of solitude aside from my children and my friends and work ,I have finally come through the pain of a broken relationship and realise that whilst I loved him very much, it was never right and could never have been .I sit back often, reflect and learn from the pain and where it all went so badly wrong, and then I can sit and smile at the love we did share and when we laughed, when we made love and know that I can do that all over again.
I think that is when you know you are repaired...
Any thoughts, wise ones?
Can we look at our past relationships and learn from them and seek a new path and be a better partner, or do we sit in a pit of self misery and balme the other person for all they did to us? ANd never look at our part that we played in the breakdown?
A nice gentle Saturday night thread...
Go.
Part of that "becoming repaired" is looking and understanding our part in the breakdown. and coming to terms with the fact that its happened, its gone and its not coming back, and that if it did come back it would not be the same Once we are past that then yes we learn and seek the new path, knowing that we have learnt and will be a better partner in the future.
There are no guaranties in this life, but though life's experiences we strive to become better and better at dealing with the crap that gets thrown at us from time to time
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roseofsharon: Whilst I can't claim to be sagacious by any means....
I am an idealist and a romantic at heart so I yearn to believe in true love conquering all. Of course, the realist in me tells me different.
Gone are the days when life was so much simpler.....
Sadly, there are too many influencing factors that impact upon a relationship these days. Some of them can probably be attributed to not trying hard enough but trying is not always enough.
I have reflected on my past marriage with a sigh, hoping that things could've been different, of course, for all the obvious reasons.... not WONDERING... because I know it couldn't have worked long term, but it doesn't stop one from HOPING.
If you can smile and reflect on the good times and not just the bad, you are making headway to getting over it, I believe.
I do feel you have so much going for you, Sommerauer, that..... the future is definitely bright!!
I am an idealist and a romantic at heart so I yearn to believe in true love conquering all. Of course, the realist in me tells me different.
Gone are the days when life was so much simpler.....
Sadly, there are too many influencing factors that impact upon a relationship these days. Some of them can probably be attributed to not trying hard enough but trying is not always enough.
I have reflected on my past marriage with a sigh, hoping that things could've been different, of course, for all the obvious reasons.... not WONDERING... because I know it couldn't have worked long term, but it doesn't stop one from HOPING.
If you can smile and reflect on the good times and not just the bad, you are making headway to getting over it, I believe.
I do feel you have so much going for you, Sommerauer, that..... the future is definitely bright!!
Sorry, love.... that last bit sounded a little condescending, didn't it? It wasn't my intention....
You know what I meant, yeah?
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roseofsharon: Sorry, love.... that last bit sounded a little condescending, didn't it? It wasn't my intention....
You know what I meant, yeah?
You know what I meant, yeah?
I knew exactly what you meant, and it was not condescending at all.
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As yet another addendum to my previous post I meant to add that we are not what drifts in the lazy current of the river of life, we are in truth the river, ever changing yet always the same following the course that draws us forth into the great beyond always at odds with the banks that hold us in their gentle yet firm grasp.
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HJFinAZ: It is only Saturday afternoon here. Tonight brings the final race of or regular season & I assure you, I will NOT be nice when someone screws up!!
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There is a brilliant yet simple game for the PS2 console called Katamari Damacy. I always loved to watch my son play that game. It involves you as a tiny little ball that rolls about gathering objects to increase in size and allow you to gather larger and larger objects until the size requirement is attained for the next level. Life is so much like that in my eyes. We have to roll about selectively gathering the bits and pieces that entitle us to move onto the next phase of life. We have to be selective of course as some lessons are too great to take and comprehend their value until we have completed the phases before. Life's journey is all about acceptance and learning. There is no part of the good that you experience that is lost it just takes a more passive stance in your character as it becomes part of the foundation of whom you are becoming.
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BarrenPneuma: There is a brilliant yet simple game for the PS2 console called Katamari Damacy. I always loved to watch my son play that game. It involves you as a tiny little ball that rolls about gathering objects to increase in size and allow you to gather larger and larger objects until the size requirement is attained for the next level. Life is so much like that in my eyes. We have to roll about selectively gathering the bits and pieces that entitle us to move onto the next phase of life. We have to be selective of course as some lessons are too great to take and comprehend their value until we have completed the phases before. Life's journey is all about acceptance and learning. There is no part of the good that you experience that is lost it just takes a more passive stance in your character as it becomes part of the foundation of whom you are becoming.
Ok, you get it now...
For a long time and you know this Mark, I felt like a leaf, blowing around on a blustery night...I have never the words that you do, I can only write what I am and how I feel...
At the beginning, I felt that I could not be a person, I was just this body roaming through life, in a foreign country, where the language was hard and I could not speak. I became a child, supported by namesake, I was a little person, totally lost.
But each month passed and I grew up, I faced each day with a different stance...
I went to school the other day and was with one of my students, he said to me, 'YOu havea different face on today, Miss,'
I looked down at this child, I said no, I have the same face that I had on yesterday, he said 'No, Miss, you have a different face on'
How from the mouths of babes who speak as they find, I learn every day...
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The sad thing in my life is I left 3 wonderful men for incredibly stupid reasons... the first because he didn´t fit into my family or societies norms... but was perfect for me. The second because I was so into him I was afraid of losing myself, and the third because of my commitment issues and not wanting to put my daughter in a situation that might not work...
So I don´t have any of those deteriorating relationship issues or where did it go wrong issues because the only thing that went wrong were my choices.
With the exception of my ex husband who I never did love and never should have married... that was wrong from the start.... I have no one but myself to blame for the end of all my relationships.
So I don´t have any of those deteriorating relationship issues or where did it go wrong issues because the only thing that went wrong were my choices.
With the exception of my ex husband who I never did love and never should have married... that was wrong from the start.... I have no one but myself to blame for the end of all my relationships.
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Sommerauer71: I knew exactly what you meant, and it was not condescending at all.
I thought you would.... most refreshing, but what I have come to expect from the post I have observed from you thus far. There are a few whom I hold in high regard and they know who they are, I'm sure....
Makes a lovely change from those who, sadly, are unable to fall back on wit, personality, charm, intellect and, as a result, rely on other less savoury means of getting their point across, i.e. manipulation, malevolence, contention..... etc?
I'm now wittering, of course, but.... gonna miss ya, Sommer!!
Keep the Faith on the Forums, yeah?!!
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Sommerauer71: I agree, life is a process...
But how easy is it to love a person who is swaddled in bitterness?
But how easy is it to love a person who is swaddled in bitterness?
Life is a process...but I don't think I'd love someone who "swaddled" for very long. As...Life is short too.
JMO
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Sommerauer71: Ok, you get it now...
For a long time and you know this Mark, I felt like a leaf, blowing around on a blustery night...I have never the words that you do, I can only write what I am and how I feel...
At the beginning, I felt that I could not be a person, I was just this body roaming through life, in a foreign country, where the language was hard and I could not speak. I became a child, supported by namesake, I was a little person, totally lost.
But each month passed and I grew up, I faced each day with a different stance...
I went to school the other day and was with one of my students, he said to me, 'YOu havea different face on today, Miss,'
I looked down at this child, I said no, I have the same face that I had on yesterday, he said 'No, Miss, you have a different face on'
How from the mouths of babes who speak as they find, I learn every day...
For a long time and you know this Mark, I felt like a leaf, blowing around on a blustery night...I have never the words that you do, I can only write what I am and how I feel...
At the beginning, I felt that I could not be a person, I was just this body roaming through life, in a foreign country, where the language was hard and I could not speak. I became a child, supported by namesake, I was a little person, totally lost.
But each month passed and I grew up, I faced each day with a different stance...
I went to school the other day and was with one of my students, he said to me, 'YOu havea different face on today, Miss,'
I looked down at this child, I said no, I have the same face that I had on yesterday, he said 'No, Miss, you have a different face on'
How from the mouths of babes who speak as they find, I learn every day...
They are merely words and you know in your heart I would nor could never refuse to give them to you at any time. As for your face lovely lady I Love the one you wear on your sleeve, it is the truest representation of you bar none.
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We all hurt, when a relationship breaks down, but when do you know you are through the pain?
I ask you sage people there, because after a long 18 months, of solitude aside from my children and my friends and work ,I have finally come through the pain of a broken relationship and realise that whilst I loved him very much, it was never right and could never have been .
I sit back often, reflect and learn from the pain and where it all went so badly wrong, and then I can sit and smile at the love we did share and when we laughed, when we made love and know that I can do that all over again.
I think that is when you know you are repaired...
Any thoughts, wise ones?
Can we look at our past relationships and learn from them and seek a new path and be a better partner, or do we sit in a pit of self misery and balme the other person for all they did to us? ANd never look at our part that we played in the breakdown?
A nice gentle Saturday night thread...
Go.