WHAT DOES IT MEAN?..................................................... ( Archived) (39)

I feel like the guy in the wizard of oz saying "dont pat attention to the man behind the curtain".....

Spur of the moment stuff is terrific, just not when someone is telling you what they would like to do to you in explicit detail and you've never seen them in your life.

I think you are forgetting 2 things. One---the women of CS are very gorgeous....

and Two----there are a lot of creepy people out there just looking to ermmmm......


well let's just say, they don't handle themselves correctly....

I dont mean anything like that.... I am saying... a hello, how are you, sort of thing.... not anything unlike you would say face to face to someone..........

Maybe doesn't understand English?

Thats offensive unless the other person is handicapped and was not able to reply....then they might find this thread offensive?

I take precautions!



When I am writing, and I ask someone to write back, I always use hand signals.... I hold my left hand up when I am writing to assure they know I am asking them to write back ...... there could be no confusion......

Keep in mind, if a person has their IM on, it doesn't always mean they get the IM.
If they've already closed their profile, the system may take up to 45 mins to recognize their absence, all the while the IM may pop open on your end but not theirs.

If they have stepped away from their computers, obviously any IMs will not be received.

The IMs here are not easy to use. Sending a msg often freezes the ability for the other person to continue typing theirs. These system errors are a regular event & make use of this IM something most are confused by. They may close it, thinking it is broken or not working properly.

They may be in another conversation and your IM is an intrusion, therefore they ignore it. Unfortunately, once the IM setting allows for them, an incoming message can not be prevented. They can be closed but not avoided. (in this case, persistence can be highly annoying... aka, more than two comments)

For some of us, an uninvited IM is rude. It's a bit like walking up to a stranger's house and yelling into their window to try to strike up a conversation, regardless of what they may be doing.
You may find it is better to save that option for once you've already contacted someone.



Try a different system of communication if your IM approach doesn't work.
You have others to choose from for a reason.

Son, wait till you're my age , then you'll wonder if your "extras" will work at the right time ...........

Ok.... I get the point.... but isnt it tempting to say hello to someone, or having someone say hello completely off the cuff..... or does it always have to be formalized........????

There isn't any confusion, I believe.... because the window opens... it states the window is open.....
So you type away and never get a response...... I do agree with you... however, i am not talking about rejection of an IM, I am talking about an IM connection being verified, with no response..... nothing....
The window opens, you type away, and absolutely no response..........Whats up with that?....

If I remember right, when an IM request comes through it doesn't say who it's from, so we have no idea who it is unless we actually accept it. So like caller id....if we don't recognize who the caller is, we don't answer the phone.

It would be nicer if they put the user name of the sender on the request with a link to their profile so it could be checked out before accepting or declining.