False Advertising... ( Archived) (69)

You may also add Barren that you are such an avid reader.
One book a day right? It must be speed reading right again?

And once the tangible reality is engaged? When is it too far along for there not be be hurts? Do people enter into the possibilities only to proceed far enough to warrant some approval or gain then abandon all when the cost becomes apparent?
The digital world does provide a playground of sorts for the heartstrings but does anyone weigh the consequences? Obviously some do as they have managed to eke out a life worthy of attainment for others and continue to provide examples of how it could work. But again far and few between.
I realize not all have the resources to engage in further than digital fantasies but in this case should they not be upfront about it? Or are they hoping to attract someone to save them from their 'fate'?
Everything that occurs in life changes us my friend, whether or not we want this to happen. The paths we take in life are not all physical but the change is quite real nonetheless.
I am just wearied in the endless myriad of people who are seeking something permanent in their lives, who find another who claims the same thing and then when the time comes to commit they find some piss poor way of walking away with little or no regard for the hurt they leave behind.
Again as in real life dating the inception is not a contract and there are multitudes of open ended clauses that allow either partner to leave to find what they truly want but how far into this arrangement is too far to turn back? When there is nothing ahead but the continuation of the promise they so boldly endorsed in the onset?
It is almost as if they have forfeited their reality to play some game that they never wish to see completed. Not that a relationship is completed in any way but there is some point where it becomes more than words in my mind's eye at least.

Yes Jenny I also read far too much for my own good. I am not intruth a speed reader though as I never pass through any portion of the writing to skim the meanings. I prefer to absorb each word in its entirety along with its context. I have been graced with a near photographic memory in the case of reading so it has always been a place where I can revel in the environment created by brilliant painters of words.

Maybe the object of intention is simply afraid to move further.

Then why the act of seeking? Why the carefully postured emails or profile creation? Why the contacts? Why Why Why...

To seek human interaction. Socialization.

and also some do it just for a game, to rise their own self-esteem by knowing they can get someone to like them....... it's sad but it happens all the time...

But does human interaction or socialization require the strip mining of hearts to gather some sort of gain to provide a memory of where they have been?
Human interaction can be attained with some sort of honesty I believe. My profile is one that I will use (and there are many others likewise clear about intention). I am here for the forums and friends only. In no way can anyone here claim otherwise as i am not only clear in my intention but firm in my belief and efforts. I have only had to clarify a few times on these issues and I would like to believe that I am at the least respected by those who know me. I have great interaction here from friends and am always open to making and experiencing more with no expectations or demands of some sort of gratification.
Are people so full of themselves (or so empty perhaps) that they cannot be fulfilled without seeming the focus of another's life or possibly all other's lives?
In this I am confused by the degrees of hurt. Many hurts are internal and were never real enough to merit the tears but others are devastatingly constructed to gain confidence and then wound as the barbs of intention are ripped free callously.
Personal gain?
Social sharing of one's own hurt to share the miseries of what has been done to oneself unjustly?
I am confused...

I agree with you here my friend. I live in a small town where there is an unbalance in drugs. At times it seems that our city is in truth run by these miscreants. They all have huge houses, new vehicles, all the 'cool' toys and 'perfect' lives. I on the other hand would never trade places with any of them as I can sleep in the comfort of knowing that what I have I have earned without it coming at the cost of the lives of others.
Their lives are secularly wonderful but empty of all else. They face no trials or tribulations of those who have any sort of spirtituality as there is no reason for their master to oppose them. He already owns them heart and soul. So why would he seek to wear them down? It is the others who strive to walk in the light that have to face the burgeoning assaults of the world endlessly in attempts to break their spirits and force them to relinquish their faith. The world is always harder on those who strive to walk the good path. It is the interaction between those who walk either side of this line that complicate life and perhaps the most dangerous ones are those who walk with their hand on the fence between both worlds.

Perhaps it is the inflated ego that refuse to accept that someone has walked away from it, that strives to appease its narccistic approach by engendering some false Love to requit itself of its loss? Another notch in the belt even if it is digital to soothe a loss of face?