Would you date a man on steroids? ( Archived) (63)

To answer your question honestly,.....NO.

I want to be the best that I CAN BE NATURAL.

Right. 44 is my honorary age. With a little sleuthing, you probably can figure out why I adopted it... (that's a clue).

I would qualify that claim by saying that, yes, if you got within a few inches, you certainly could distinguish 20 year old legs from fifty year old legs...there would be slight differences in the skin at the very least. But from a normal viewing range of a few feet back, from a photo, I believe you would fail. Ah...I would so like to put this to the test!

Good for you, Wall. But when I think of what "natural" means...does it mean not taking vitamin or other kinds of non-steroidal supplements, for instance? Even weight-lifting isn't natural. People can't build weight-lifting muscles from normal activities (in the overall sense, I mean). Performing 1000+ lbs. squats certain isn't natural!

What a refreshing change to see a lady here enthusiastically embrace self-improvement. Whenever I've broached the subject of eating healthier, abandoning destructive habits like smoking or drinking, and exercising in order to improve one's health and appearance, I've gotten mostly: "Ah, but I'm happy with me just the way I am and if someone doesn't like it they can damn well lump it!" It's as though the very concept of changing some aspects of one's body and/or life is tantamount to self-betrayal.

I think this kind of attitude is both defeatist and unrealistic. First, one's appeal does depend to no small extent on being healthy and in decent shape. That says a lot about oneself. Also, despite all the gloom and doom about aging - I recall one post awhile back where a lady proudly proclaimed how out of shape she was, and that was fine because she was a mother and middle-aged!? - it's simply a fact that most people can, with a modicum of work and dedication, reinvent themselves both physically and psychologically. These people who say things like "I'm gonna age anyway, so why bother?" remind me of determinists who say whatever they do is "determined" or "fated" so why bother to try doing anything? It's totally self-defeating.

Yes, of course, we're going to age (barring medical breakthroughs, which probably will occur at some future point), but that's hardly an excuse for not attempting to be in shape and healthy.

Anyhow, kudos to you, D, for your positive and insightful attitudes. I'm sure you will reap the benefits of them.

Aging is a state of mind, and self-improvement in all aspects is something we all should strive for our entire lives. I am studying to be a Doctor of Naturopathy, and with those studies, learning how to improve my own life further first so that I can then teach others how to do so. If I can't do it, or feel it unnecessary, how can I strive to teach others to do so? And one of the best ways to not age more than necessary is to learn to take better care of oneself. I'm not doing this to have more appeal for any man, but to live better for me. Yes, an attitude of "why bother, I'm going to age anyway" is very self-defeating...and I let nothing defeat me, including myself. I don't consider that it's ever too late to do things to make one's life better.

Thank you, Ambrose. Wise words. And thank you for your compliment.

I've read one book about naturopathy years ago, and some of its teachings still resonate in me today. One good tip, I thought, was about the effects of combining certain kinds of foods (sugars and carbs, for instance), which I immediately put into practice to good results. That helped a lot in my weight loss and improving digestion. I think that's a very worthy undertaking - studying to become a naturopath - we need more alternative medical practitioners. In some states they can't practice (not in CA last time I checked), but I think they're officially recognized here in South Dakota...?

Hey, Jan!

I believe I would live in the “certain quarters” to which Ambrose is referring.

I can vouch for him and his legs as I have seen them in person – both from a distance and very close up. Science Jeff is correct; there is no way you would be able to differentiate between his legs and the legs of a much younger man. His legs are more toned and muscular than most men's – younger or the same age. I see no difference in his skin tone either.

I’d rather he not have to prove it as I’d like to keep those revealing photos for my own selfish purposes . . .