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Jan1305: Deinition - A sudden manifestation of the essence or meaning of something.
In simple terms, I don't think I can share my life with a significant other, or at least in the romantic and committed sense.
And I am perfectly happy with that at this moment in time.
I suspect there are a few more here who are like-minded.
In simple terms, I don't think I can share my life with a significant other, or at least in the romantic and committed sense.
And I am perfectly happy with that at this moment in time.
I suspect there are a few more here who are like-minded.
That is a good place to be Jan.
I know people who are in exactly the same place as you are and they are very happy.
Let's form the "Un-Club"....unloveable, unbonkable, unmanageable, and unemployable...
Lagoona22: Let's form the "Un-Club"....unloveable, unbonkable, unmanageable, and unemployable...
I thought you had a job of sorts........ but obviously, from what you've posted, can't cope with the commitment of having a dog or a cat or whatever.
Are we having another jealousy attack Robert??...
RobertC2: I thought you had a job of sorts........ but obviously, from what you've posted, can't cope with the commitment of having a dog or a cat or whatever.
Lagoona22: Are we having another jealousy attack Robert??...
Certainly not old chap. I have a pet cat and have fathered two fine sons.....something you have never done and are probably way too mean to ever do.
I have also experienced real love - which you probably only experience in the mirror.
Jealous? What of?
Lagoona22: Thanks for that Robert....I certainly will send you regualr posts from the Wonker Bonker Clinic, to let you know how I'm doing with my nurses laundry detail...and keep posting your tragic, broken-hearted pleas for attention...I'm sure some woman will finally feel sorry enough for you, and take you on.
Thank you for your concern.
I think your Wonker Bonker Clinic didn't get quite the knee trembling response from the ladies that you had hoped for but I am sure they'll soon appreciate your particular brand of humour soon enough!
I already have a girlfriend, for your information....... no need for her to take me on as I never really lost her in the first place; sorry to disappoint you!
Why do people always deny themselves the pleasure of love.
Why do you think sharin means diminishing your own personal space.
I never compromised so much in my life and its not easy.
But the returns are far greater then the investment.
Why do you think sharin means diminishing your own personal space.
I never compromised so much in my life and its not easy.
But the returns are far greater then the investment.
rodolpho: Why do people always deny themselves the pleasure of love.
Why do you think sharin means diminishing your own personal space.
I never compromised so much in my life and its not easy.
But the returns are far greater then the investment.
Why do you think sharin means diminishing your own personal space.
I never compromised so much in my life and its not easy.
But the returns are far greater then the investment.
Very good insightful post Rodolpho.Maybe its only denied when one doesn`t have it?
Having ones personal space diminished can only be possible if there is a domineering aspect to the relationship, which is not "love".
We compromise, yes. Others compromise too. We appreciate the compromises, and give more, and visa versa, I think?
We are not designed to be "islands" - if we were then the propogation of the species would not be so spectacular, would it?
......................
as an aside ...... SO nice to see Roberto and Lagoony are back to normal again!
Those two would make an excellent Duo on stage ... a Two Man Stand-Up Show - they`d have the audience rolling in the aisles! Tis not often a couple of guys make such a wonderful pair - the last ones were, I think, Laurel and Hardy?..................rodolpho: Why do people always deny themselves the pleasure of love.
Why do you think sharin means diminishing your own personal space.
I never compromised so much in my life and its not easy.
But the returns are far greater then the investment.
Why do you think sharin means diminishing your own personal space.
I never compromised so much in my life and its not easy.
But the returns are far greater then the investment.
Wise man
Jan1305: Deinition - A sudden manifestation of the essence or meaning of something.
In simple terms, I don't think I can share my life with a significant other, or at least in the romantic and committed sense.
And I am perfectly happy with that at this moment in time.
I suspect there are a few more here who are like-minded.
In simple terms, I don't think I can share my life with a significant other, or at least in the romantic and committed sense.
And I am perfectly happy with that at this moment in time.
I suspect there are a few more here who are like-minded.
I have made that choice too, a few times, and haven't found it a bad decision.
Hello Ginger!...
...yeah, the decision to be happy within yourself.....is a very good thing, and the start to any happiness in life...jmo.
...yeah, the decision to be happy within yourself.....is a very good thing, and the start to any happiness in life...jmo.
gingerb: I have made that choice too, a few times, and haven't found it a bad decision.
rodolpho: Why do people always deny themselves the pleasure of love.
Why do you think sharin means diminishing your own personal space.
I never compromised so much in my life and its not easy.
But the returns are far greater then the investment.
Why do you think sharin means diminishing your own personal space.
I never compromised so much in my life and its not easy.
But the returns are far greater then the investment.
I think you misunderstand me Rodolpho.
I don't believe I am denying myself anything by deciding that I am not in a position to commit to a steady relationship. I had that for over 20 years, and it was for the most part very happy.
It's also not about being unable to share or compromise. I do that every day with my friends, family, colleagues and students. In fact I'm the most sharing person I know!
My life is full, I compromise daily, and I welcome change and variety, hence my occasional decisions to travel and work in far flung places, despite Spain being my adopted home, as it will also be.
There just isn't room at the moment for a significant other. I'm also not convinced many men would be willing to compromise and accept my lifestyle as it is now, or even a watered down version!
The few men I've met since my divorce have all been very different, but they all had one thing in common at the end of the day, which surfaced at different times during the relationships. An inability to understand that I need to see my friends regularly, travel occasionally with my work, and to have time alone.
Basically, it boiled down to an inability to trust.
smoky: Very good insightful post Rodolpho.
Maybe its only denied when one doesn`t have it?
Having ones personal space diminished can only be possible if there is a domineering aspect to the relationship, which is not "love".
We compromise, yes. Others compromise too. We appreciate the compromises, and give more, and visa versa, I think?
We are not designed to be "islands" - if we were then the propogation of the species would not be so spectacular, would it?
......................
as an aside ...... SO nice to see Roberto and Lagoony are back to normal again! Those two would make an excellent Duo on stage ... a Two Man Stand-Up Show - they`d have the audience rolling in the aisles! Tis not often a couple of guys make such a wonderful pair - the last ones were, I think, Laurel and Hardy?..................
Maybe its only denied when one doesn`t have it?
Having ones personal space diminished can only be possible if there is a domineering aspect to the relationship, which is not "love".
We compromise, yes. Others compromise too. We appreciate the compromises, and give more, and visa versa, I think?
We are not designed to be "islands" - if we were then the propogation of the species would not be so spectacular, would it?
......................
as an aside ...... SO nice to see Roberto and Lagoony are back to normal again! Those two would make an excellent Duo on stage ... a Two Man Stand-Up Show - they`d have the audience rolling in the aisles! Tis not often a couple of guys make such a wonderful pair - the last ones were, I think, Laurel and Hardy?..................
Good innit...
Anyways, I think this is a wonderful thread...
as it will always be.
Jan1305: Deinition - A sudden manifestation of the essence or meaning of something.
In simple terms, I don't think I can share my life with a significant other, or at least in the romantic and committed sense.
And I am perfectly happy with that at this moment in time.
In simple terms, I don't think I can share my life with a significant other, or at least in the romantic and committed sense.
And I am perfectly happy with that at this moment in time.
"And calm settled over the plains of Serengeti."
I did too, with a different outcome - I knew where my person belonged and was happy to be welcome home.
In essence the same - the spirit feels so much lighter.
Jan1305: I think you misunderstand me Rodolpho.
I don't believe I am denying myself anything by deciding that I am not in a position to commit to a steady relationship. I had that for over 20 years, and it was for the most part very happy.
It's also not about being unable to share or compromise. I do that every day with my friends, family, colleagues and students. In fact I'm the most sharing person I know!
My life is full, I compromise daily, and I welcome change and variety, hence my occasional decisions to travel and work in far flung places, despite Spain being my adopted home, as it will also be.
There just isn't room at the moment for a significant other. I'm also not convinced many men would be willing to compromise and accept my lifestyle as it is now, or even a watered down version!
The few men I've met since my divorce have all been very different, but they all had one thing in common at the end of the day, which surfaced at different times during the relationships. An inability to understand that I need to see my friends regularly, travel occasionally with my work, and to have time alone.
Basically, it boiled down to an inability to trust.
I don't believe I am denying myself anything by deciding that I am not in a position to commit to a steady relationship. I had that for over 20 years, and it was for the most part very happy.
It's also not about being unable to share or compromise. I do that every day with my friends, family, colleagues and students. In fact I'm the most sharing person I know!
My life is full, I compromise daily, and I welcome change and variety, hence my occasional decisions to travel and work in far flung places, despite Spain being my adopted home, as it will also be.
There just isn't room at the moment for a significant other. I'm also not convinced many men would be willing to compromise and accept my lifestyle as it is now, or even a watered down version!
The few men I've met since my divorce have all been very different, but they all had one thing in common at the end of the day, which surfaced at different times during the relationships. An inability to understand that I need to see my friends regularly, travel occasionally with my work, and to have time alone.
Basically, it boiled down to an inability to trust.
Interesting Jan.
I don't think any person is denying themselves anything either, least of all you.
To trust you? These few men?
I used to think I would not find room, honestly Jan, but somehow you do.
So am not saying that you should have a person, but we find room, a full heart for the best part, has plenty of room for love...
I don't think any person is denying themselves anything either, least of all you.
To trust you? These few men?
I used to think I would not find room, honestly Jan, but somehow you do.
So am not saying that you should have a person, but we find room, a full heart for the best part, has plenty of room for love...
smoky: Very good insightful post Rodolpho.
Maybe its only denied when one doesn`t have it?
Having ones personal space diminished can only be possible if there is a domineering aspect to the relationship, which is not "love".
We compromise, yes. Others compromise too. We appreciate the compromises, and give more, and visa versa, I think?
We are not designed to be "islands" - if we were then the propogation of the species would not be so spectacular, would it?
......................
as an aside ...... SO nice to see Roberto and Lagoony are back to normal again! Those two would make an excellent Duo on stage ... a Two Man Stand-Up Show - they`d have the audience rolling in the aisles! Tis not often a couple of guys make such a wonderful pair - the last ones were, I think, Laurel and Hardy?..................
Maybe its only denied when one doesn`t have it?
Having ones personal space diminished can only be possible if there is a domineering aspect to the relationship, which is not "love".
We compromise, yes. Others compromise too. We appreciate the compromises, and give more, and visa versa, I think?
We are not designed to be "islands" - if we were then the propogation of the species would not be so spectacular, would it?
......................
as an aside ...... SO nice to see Roberto and Lagoony are back to normal again! Those two would make an excellent Duo on stage ... a Two Man Stand-Up Show - they`d have the audience rolling in the aisles! Tis not often a couple of guys make such a wonderful pair - the last ones were, I think, Laurel and Hardy?..................
Too much testosterone, me thinks
Hmmm...interesting Jan...yes, I can imagine that many men want more than what you have to give at the moment, time-wise at least. Both parties really have to agree upfront what type of relationship is possible, or desireable...if one party wants a full-time relationship and the other a part-time, or weekend thing, then obviously, you are not going to be happy. It's easy to fall for someone, it's much harder to bring two mature lifestyles together by trial, error and compromise...
Jan1305: I think you misunderstand me Rodolpho.
The few men I've met since my divorce have all been very different, but they all had one thing in common at the end of the day, which surfaced at different times during the relationships. An inability to understand that I need to see my friends regularly, travel occasionally with my work, and to have time alone.
Basically, it boiled down to an inability to trust.
The few men I've met since my divorce have all been very different, but they all had one thing in common at the end of the day, which surfaced at different times during the relationships. An inability to understand that I need to see my friends regularly, travel occasionally with my work, and to have time alone.
Basically, it boiled down to an inability to trust.
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In simple terms, I don't think I can share my life with a significant other, or at least in the romantic and committed sense.
And I am perfectly happy with that at this moment in time.
I suspect there are a few more here who are like-minded.