How jealous are you? (57)

I've felt envy but never jealousy that I remember.

I've a former SIL who admitted that she was jealous of me cause I could have children and she couldn't.That the marriage to her brother was happier than hers.Jealous people come up with do some strange things.

yep also on siblings and parents! my sisters and my mother would say oo now ur fathers u favourite today

"Jealousy lives upon doubts, it becomes madness or ceases entirely as soon as we pass from doubt to certainty."

François Duc de La Rochefoucauld

She was unique.

Pretty cool subject if you ask me....The following are the common types of jealously..........

Sibling rivalry – Sibling rivalry is a common form of family jealousy. Family jealousy can affect all ages and different members of any family. This jealousy can arise from lack of attention from a specific member in the family. More attention towards another member of the family can cause this emotion or the emotion can be seen through comparison to another member in the family. This type of jealousy is once again in result of losing some sort of attention or services that someone once had or that they believe that they had.
Workplace jealousy – Jealousy in the work place is not uncommon. People can experience jealousy of one another in practically any setting that one person feels like they are losing services from something or someone else. This type of jealousy is often seen between colleagues in similar job positions. If one worker receives positive feedback from the boss while the other employee feels like they deserved that, positive feedback jealousy can arise. Jealousy between colleagues can also arise if the employees are working for a raise or trying to outdo each other for similar job positions. Once again, the attention received towards one employee and not the other may cause intense emotions of jealousy to develop.
Romantic jealousy – Romantic jealousy can be experienced in long-term or short-term relationships. One partner can feel the emotion of jealousy arise if the other partner is paying more attention or time with someone else. To lose services from one partner and have their attention directed towards someone else does not have to be in a romantic way. One partner could be spending more time with a friend that no romantic feelings could ever develop.
Platonic jealousy – Platonic jealousy is a form of jealousy that is seen in friendships. Platonic jealousy is similar to romantic jealousy in the way that this type of relationship can lead to jealousy in result of fear of being replaced, having competition or being compared to a third party. For example, the intense emotion of jealousy can arise if two friends that are females decide that they like the same man and both want to possibly start a romantic relationship with him. Comparison and competition will more often than not lead to the two females experiencing the emotion of jealousy.


I actually see some form of these played out in the forums every day.

Any time you feel envy you feel jealousy.It may not be the type of extreme jealously where you want to knock the person to the ground and tear out their hair.You may not wish that person you are envious of any ill will,but it's still jealousy.When someone you know and love wins $10,000 you will be happy for them,while at the same time in the back of your head you are saying "wish that was me".You don't wish they didn't win the money,you just wish that you won it as well.


A "small" amout of jealousy in romantic relationships is healthy and normal.It's only damaging when it goes to extremes.If some man was crawling all over me and chasing me all over trying to win me out from under my fiancee,and he had not one bit of a reaction,I would have to wonder at that.


Sometimes in romantic relationships a wee bit of jealousy can give you a kick in the pants.People get into ruts(not always purposely),and don't always appreciate each other as they should.When someone comes along who wants our partner it "sometime" will wake us up out of our stupor.We see that maybe we should give ourselves a shake and appreciate what we have.


No emotion is all bad.Even anger when placed where it should go and when kept controlled is a good thing.

My wife of over 42 years {she passed in 2005}was a pretty smart gal.We were having a rough patch at about the 25 year point when one day she recieved a dozen red roses.I of course asked who sent them and she was coy and said {a seceret admirer I guess}
Well....I started paying a lot more attention to her needs.She let me suffer thinking she had "a seceret admirer" for the longest time.Turns out she sent them to herself.What a gal.

And on the new picture the caption is....
"My psychoanalyst"

Thank you, everyone for contributing. Interesting to read your comments.

I do agree with whomever posted that envy and jealousy are not the same. I am on the receiving end of envy from a family member and it is not pretty. It's like trying to navigate a snake pit, but that's another topic.

Re jealousy. I have a girlfriend who lives in the US. She's married to a Brit who lives in England. Paperwork problems. His prior divorce papers have been moved to some vault in London, he cannot remember the day, they don't have the money for the fees, bla bla bla.

She knows he hangs out on various dating sites, found his profile and he does not say he is married. So she checks up on him all the time, posts fake profiles herself, cracked his email account, contacted his ex and lord knows what else. Of course she cannot tell him that she does these things, but he gets an ear full every now and then esp. when he is not on time to talk with her, etc.

So she is jealous, he feeds the fire and in my opinion, what they do is beyond normal. Then again, their situation is also not exactly normal. Still, it seems her checking up on him has become obsessive.

Ive felt jealousy several times in my life..now that im older and wiser i wouldnt let it interfere in my life for longer than 10 minutes a day..i like myself more today that i did yesterday..

I believe it is innate & there are not many relationships without some form of jealousy. I think it is normal to have(shows you care) but within reason of course not to let get out of hand for it can eat you up inside & you become possessive which in turn pushes the significant other further away. JMHO

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Very well said

TY Scotty Lass!