gypseyblue: wouldnt bother me how many they had , mine are grown and out, but most ppl have kids
If you want the relationship to work, then you have to take the whole package.
Few folk do not have Kids,relations and friends that you have to take in to consideration. You cannot ask anyone to change their life to suit the "new" one you may imagine.
So my friend it'S the full package and that is just the way it goes.
I wouldn't take on young none-independent children full time.
From the time I was twenty and had step-children, then having my own and also working as a teacher I feel I've done my time raising and looking after children. For me, it's now time NOT to work out my day around the needs and welfare of children.
Although if the need arose I would happily accept responsibility for my grandchildren.
EagleWoman: I wouldn't take on young none-independent children full time. From the time I was twenty and had step-children, then having my own and also working as a teacher I feel I've done my time raising and looking after children. For me, it's now time NOT to work out my day around the needs and welfare of children.
Although if the need arose I would happily accept responsibility for my grandchildren.
Well, I still have a young teenager, so I wouldn't object to children of a similar age, but I not want to be involved with someone with young kids. But really, I'm looking forward to the time when I am free of child rearing and that day is getting closer. Of course, you are never really finished with your kids, even when they are adults you are there for them....
my last relationship which lasted 7 yrs came with 6 stepkids,the eldest was 26 and the youngest 5..having two teenagers of my own it was decided we would keep both our homes which we shared it worked out well for us and the kids all got on fine..I would certainly welcome any child/teenager/adult into my home and share my life with them..although the relationship is over between us I still have a relationship with his kids...they were a positive in the relationship i love watching them grow up into fine young adults...
Sunnydaze14: Well, I still have a young teenager, so I wouldn't object to children of a similar age, but I not want to be involved with someone with young kids. But really, I'm looking forward to the time when I am free of child rearing and that day is getting closer. Of course, you are never really finished with your kids, even when they are adults you are there for them....
Totally agree!!
I also find that older brothers and sisters are there for one another. Some things they prefer to get support with from an older brother or sister than from a parent.
Taking care of a four year old, over 24 hours, wears me out! Her mama is sick and I step in when needed. The art room works well, she has played in there for hours, with me. If there is a need, yes I would take on another child.
jovisst: When you come to a certain age it's more likely then not that prospective partners has offsprings. What do you feel about that.
It's not how many kids that concerns me. It would be the quality of the kids. I would only like them if they were smart, clean, quiet, well behaved, non-manipulative and non-combative. That sounds like a lot to ask, but that's what most of my little cousins are like. Most kids are not. I don't think I would like teen agers or college kids unless they were really happy to have me around, appreciative of attention, drug free, able to hold conversations with adults, etc.
quiteHandsome1: well, i myself have 2 kids. a boy n a girl, so if a woman that i'm interested has kids of her own than its a package I would have to accept....
The last part of you statment makes it sound like oh if i have too . would you choose too or like to myself bring it on Ihave one 5 and one19 and in colloge so any in between would be a welcome part of a new relationship .just sayen
Quest64Tauranga, Bay of Plenty New Zealand53 posts
patmac: If you want the relationship to work, then you have to take the whole package.
Few folk do not have Kids,relations and friends that you have to take in to consideration. You cannot ask anyone to change their life to suit the "new" one you may imagine.
So my friend it'S the full package and that is just the way it goes.
patmac: If you want the relationship to work, then you have to take the whole package.
Few folk do not have Kids,relations and friends that you have to take in to consideration. You cannot ask anyone to change their life to suit the "new" one you may imagine.
So my friend it'S the full package and that is just the way it goes.
patmac: If you want the relationship to work, then you have to take the whole package.
Few folk do not have Kids,relations and friends that you have to take in to consideration. You cannot ask anyone to change their life to suit the "new" one you may imagine.
So my friend it'S the full package and that is just the way it goes.
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Children, how many would you take under your wings in a new relationship?(Vote Below)
What do you feel about that.