Hope the experience made you wise,and you have adhered to the ancient Greek saying "Doing the same mistake twice,certainly you aren't wise."".Are you???
chris27292729: Hope the experience made you wise,and you have adhered to the ancient Greek saying "Doing the same mistake twice,certainly you aren't wise."".Are you???
I tried being wise without much success so now I'm just gonna be single for awhile.
Alone or alone forever; while simply being alone can be by choice; alone forever hints at another concept, one not conducive to being happy in any way without necessarily meaning 'alone forever'. Frankly, I would not recommend either for anyone. As long as I have my cats, I won't be 'alone'. As for the latter, hey, nothing is better than daily being with someone that you'd rather not be around...we all get what and/or whom we deserve...even if it is no one.
felixis99: as has been alluded to, being alone is preferrable to settling
I'd rather be alone than settle for someone who is not totally in love with me & vice versa
But isnt love the result of a life experience realized, something beyond physical attraction and fuzzy feelings? so, how long then does it take for you and someone else to know you each are totally in love with the other?
galrads: But isnt love the result of a life experience realized, something beyond physical attraction and fuzzy feelings? so, how long then does it take for you and someone else to know you each are totally in love with the other?
I will know when I know
and in the meantime I would prefer not to be in a committed relationship - I am interpreting "alone" here to mean - being single and not living with a spouse or romantic partner
and in the meantime I would prefer not to be in a committed relationship - I am interpreting "alone" here to mean - being single and not living with a spouse or romantic partner
not necessarily meaning to exclude social contact
and no, for me the physical attraction is very much a part of being in love, and no it does not require a shared lifetime
galrads: Oh, ok. then it must be somewhat how i feel that i love my new BMW convertible when I just look at it.
no not at all - my car doesn't make me feel less alone even tho it's tres cool
- physical attraction is an important part but not the only thing. and it's interesting - a very good looking man who is physically attractive but mean no longer is perceived as attractive
I have had that happen recently where an attractive man behaved like a total jerk the other day, and when I look at him now I no longer perceive him as attractive - just as kinda .... pathetic
so there is a lot of room for interpretation on what constitutes love and attraction
I was answering the OP regarding being alone...I prefer it to "settling" and that has been my stance for quite some time!
JeeepersCowpet Bay, Saint Thomas Virgin Islands (USA)6,482 posts
felixis99: no not at all - my car doesn't make me feel less alone even tho it's tres cool
- physical attraction is an important part but not the only thing. and it's interesting - a very good looking man who is physically attractive but mean no longer is perceived as attractive
I have had that happen recently where an attractive man behaved like a total jerk the other day, and when I look at him now I no longer perceive him as attractive - just as kinda .... pathetic
so there is a lot of room for interpretation on what constitutes love and attraction
I was answering the OP regarding being alone...I prefer it to "settling" and that has been my stance for quite some time!
Being "forever alone" is for sure a personal choice. I have taken that path and have no problem with it for now. To each his own.
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