Is singlehood good or bad ? (72)
ashleyn2011Des Moines, Iowa USA1 Postsi think it's healthy at times. that way u don't have to worry about any one doing u wrong. some people need alone time, and that is okay.
GreenBoots: People say it's not healthy to be single forever... what do u think ?
i am not in a relationship and i'm healthy living in the moment choosing to live each day as an adventure of a life time.
HuggerMan4U: Singlehood is neither good nor bad. It is what it is. Some prefer singlehood, and some, like me, prefer to be married.
Interesting, though, that in Genesis in the Bible, God said, "It is not good for man to be alone." I guess that means marriage, which I am incredibly in favor of. Let the marriages begin.
Interesting, though, that in Genesis in the Bible, God said, "It is not good for man to be alone." I guess that means marriage, which I am incredibly in favor of. Let the marriages begin.
Well, if one reads the bible, it says just about anything anyone wants it to say. Paul said that it is better to be single than married. He raved on about it. So what does it matter. If one believes what is written in the bible, then we don't live in a world that we were meant to, and as such nothing is what it should be. does it ever get fixed, no. Is everyone corrupted, yes. So where does this leave us? In a real soup. Many find a lasting mate and someone they get on with. Many also do not. I think it is like lotto. You have to be in it to win it, but ultimately everything is a risk.
Every status in life has good and bad. Married, single, divorced, widowed, physically disabled, mentally disabled. All stations of life have good and bad in them. It just depends on how you look at it, and everyone can look at the same car crash and see something different.
Being single is okay for a little while, but staying single is not good for people. People who find a long term, healthy relationship actually live longer. It is better for people to find a relationship that works.
In response to: People say it's not healthy to be single forever... what do u think ?
Marriage is the biggest risk - emotionally & financially - most people will ever take in their life. When I hear Men dissing getting Married I just think "coward", such risk-aversion is just unmanly.
Being single is good as long as you are at peace with it, as long as you find your balance and you have other things to fill your life and compensate. For how long... it depends from one to another, from one situation to another.
yes and no 
Single hood is good if your not ready to settle down and commit yourself to one women.
Halv0: How sad.... So this is the view you have as well. Well, in my marriage, I actually did the ironing, the taxing of my daughter - actually, I raised her giving up my career so that my wife could persue hers.
So I hope that this biased and sad experience you and you mother had may change in time. I have met many an unhappy single woman, who have become very happy when they married.
In my own case, my wife suffered mental illness that led her to all sorts of irrational false dilusions. I was very unhappy in my marriage, but this does not mean that happiness will not be found in another. I believe in the good in people. And the happiness and fulfillment that one can find in a marriage is sometimes worth this risk for many. But maybe not you. And this is okay.
So I hope that this biased and sad experience you and you mother had may change in time. I have met many an unhappy single woman, who have become very happy when they married.
In my own case, my wife suffered mental illness that led her to all sorts of irrational false dilusions. I was very unhappy in my marriage, but this does not mean that happiness will not be found in another. I believe in the good in people. And the happiness and fulfillment that one can find in a marriage is sometimes worth this risk for many. But maybe not you. And this is okay.
I don't think my view is sad and it is certainly not biased. My view is based on experience and observation. If you think it is sad, then that's okay, but biased, it is not.
You see, in today's society and social order, women can no longer count on such things as "lifetime alimony". Speak to a judge in the family law division and let him/her tell you what happens when a husband dumps a woman after 30 years of marriage/childrearing and she hasn't a career/skills to support herself. That is real life!
Bless you for believing in the good of people. In my experience, good people are the exception, not the norm, when it comes to payments or support for a spouse and children.
So women are in a difficult situation. In order to be able to support themselves in this job market, they must work continuously. There is also no longer the guarantee that the husband will remain employed for 20 years until the kids are grown.
At the same time, many men simply don't take care of the children in the house. There are far more dead-beat dads than dead-beat mothers. That can easily be verified by looking at the DMV statistics. I don't make this up; these are the facts.
So women today must work harder than ever before if she wants children.
If she finds a good man who pulls his weight equally, then by all means, that's a brilliant situation.
I would also never tell someone not to marry. I'm a mother, I have a son and sooner or later, he, too will marry and have children. That's great.
You know, I think living together without the contract specifying the division of property is a far better solution than a marriage. I really do not see what advantages one would have at this age by being married; and that goes for both parties.
So is my view really biased? or sad?
Because it not bad being single but as you get older, i would like to have that special someone there to share my life with...
I remained single until my later 30's then I got married and raised a family.Then I became single again and didn't like being alone.
Now I'm involved with a loving and caring man with whom I'm living with and enjoying every moment I've been with him.I wouldn't give all this up to enter into singlehood again.
Now I'm involved with a loving and caring man with whom I'm living with and enjoying every moment I've been with him.I wouldn't give all this up to enter into singlehood again.
Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder, being single works much the same way. Studies show that being in a relationship helps you live longer. This may be true, but how about those of us who wind up in bad relationships? I have had two nightmarish marriages that nearly killed me. Being single gives me freedom, I can be myself and live healthy. ALthough I am not counting out how a good relationship can enhance your life. I just attract the wrong men, but I don't become attached to anyone making it easy to step back. 
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