pedro27: well folks could u love instantly, as in attraction and desire to the max leading being crazy about your lover,, well well well
If attraction and desire arent there from the first glance them forget it IMO, love though thats a whole different story, takes time to get to know all about somebody and you cant be sure you love them till you do, warts and all.
I didnt vote, no time scale on poll long enough IMO
Glatlol: If attraction and desire arent there from the first glance them forget it IMO, love though thats a whole different story, takes time to get to know all about somebody and you cant be sure you love them till you do, warts and all.
I didnt vote, no time scale on poll long enough IMO
did you ever hear of love at 1st sight, that means your destiny and fate are matching your stars in your partner excistence jmo
This thing called love pedro isn't just about getting your leg over and humping like rabbits. It takes time, the initial feeling people have about starting a new 24/7 wears off after 18mths tops..Thats when this thing love makes or breaks couples (if its not there then you both will go your seperate ways)..
Attraction can be instant, love is a different thing altogether.
For me I could chat to someone for weeks or months but I will know more in the first 30 seconds of meeting them as to whether or not the attraction is actually there.
I havent been in love in a very long time. I have met those that I could have seen myself maybe falling in love with but they never got to that stage.
in my experience for women it can take a few weeks..they fall head over heels like they have lost all sense or something..for men its a good year or a half to really feel something
facetowardsfront: Generally as soon as she sees an impressive bank balance or material signs she believes indicate the presence of substantial finances and assets.
For a man it depends on how stupid, desperate and frustrated you are. Love now, regret later and pay for the rest of your life.
That's all I really have to say.
I have to say for me a man with great wealth is actually a turn off rather than a turn on. I could not be in a relationship with such a imbalance. Tbh I would feel bought.
I shared a night with a man from Dubai 2 yrs ago (he was the friend of a friend) and for the next 18 months he wanted me to move there, to put me up in my own apartment until we had been together long enough for me to want to move in with him. He offered me holidays all over the world, for me to turn up at the airport with my passport and everything else, clothes, spending money, etc would be taken care of. My friends thought I was a fool to not go to Dubai at least once or to have gone with him to Venice after he was here for a conference last summer. But there was no way it would sit well with me at all. It'd be my idea of hell to feel so cheap that money would tempt me.
Mariannette: I have to say for me a man with great wealth is actually a turn off rather than a turn on. I could not be in a relationship with such a imbalance. Tbh I would feel bought.
I shared a night with a man from Dubai 2 yrs ago (he was the friend of a friend) and for the next 18 months he wanted me to move there, to put me up in my own apartment until we had been together long enough for me to want to move in with him. He offered me holidays all over the world, for me to turn up at the airport with my passport and everything else, clothes, spending money, etc would be taken care of. My friends thought I was a fool to not go to Dubai at least once or to have gone with him to Venice after he was here for a conference last summer. But there was no way it would sit well with me at all. It'd be my idea of hell to feel so cheap that money would tempt me.
Yes, I undstand, you would feel cheap and tacky. But as you say your friends all thought you were a fool not to be a hoe for the dough. Unfortunately that's female hypergamy and it is what drives most women. You are the exception that proves the rule.
exception...i dunno i know a lot of women who would do the same..
so i hang with the exceptions then..not the rule..
jesus there is a lot of us exceptions..
same as maria..offered a home both here n in sydney..(here in case i didnt like it there) and the trappings that went along with not having to pay forever more.
thats not a relationship..thats being bought...so i ended it.
fifitheminx: exception...i dunno i know a lot of women who would do the same..
so i hang with the exceptions then..not the rule..
jesus there is a lot of us exceptions..
same as maria..offered a home both here n in sydney..(here in case i didnt like it there) and the trappings that went along with not having to pay forever more.
thats not a relationship..thats being bought...so i ended it.
Has the meaning of that word changed, does it mean majority now? lol
I dont know of anyone who's main focus when they meet someone is money.
I have dated a guy with more money than he knew what to do with also, after only 5 weeks he was declaring he loved me and planning our lives together. I could have stayed with him, neither myself or the children would have wanted for anything again. But money alone isnt enough, once he started the nonsense of love after such a short time I finished with him.
Glatlol: Has the meaning of that word changed, does it mean majority now? lol
I dont know of anyone who's main focus when they meet someone is money.
I have dated a guy with more money than he knew what to do with also, after only 5 weeks he was declaring he loved me and planning our lives together. I could have stayed with him, neither myself or the children would have wanted for anything again. But money alone isnt enough, once he started the nonsense of love after such a short time I finished with him.
exactly what i thought..
think most people i know would run a mile being offered that...takes a long time to trust people..especially emotionally.
if they are so flippant with their lives n bank balance and hearts...i imagine they would be the same with yours..makes u run lol.
love is a dangerous word, living in harmony is so much nicer...sad times for my family , my aunt died yesterday , 59yrs with her husband , 56yys married ..where did commitment and contentment all go wrong for most of our generation ..
the_whistler: love is a dangerous word, living in harmony is so much nicer...sad times for my family , my aunt died yesterday , 59yrs with her husband , 56yys married ..where did commitment and contentment all go wrong for most of our generation ..
My sympathies to you and your family B on your sad loss
If you have 50-50 percent of chemistry and can can make each other laugh and can discuss most things without feeling uneasy with each then that's a great start jmo.
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