LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS ??? (80)
Prapiroon: When the cat's away the mice may play. Just saying. lol
I always heard it being said 'while the cats away the rats will play'.
Gentlejim: What makes you an authority on the subject? Did you try and fail? I know people who have met there future spouses several thousands of miles away in a foreign country from different cultures and are married and very happy! I think that shoots a hole in your comment!
The poster said it was his opinion, isnt that allowed anymore?
I agree with him as it happens.
Glatlol: The poster said it was his opinion, isnt that allowed anymore?
I agree with him as it happens.
long distance relation ?I agree with him as it happens.
teddybeerke88: Prapiroon, Thats what we call trusting your partner. Local girls can also cheat or play some kind of game. Thats has nothing to do with LDR in specific.
the bitter ones only don't have something both of you have... the values is very important in relationship....local or long distance...
Ccincy: I know I read where you stated you were in 3.I entered into one and we've been living together for almost 7 yrs and still going strong.So see they do work.
Yes LDR can work. It may start as a LDR but does not have to REMAIN as LDR forever.
LDR is what I always wanted.
teddybeerke88: Prapiroon, Thats what we call trusting your partner. Local girls can also cheat or play some kind of game. Thats has nothing to do with LDR in specific.
so true
teddybeerke88: I notice how everyone keeps focusing on the bad sides to a LDR. I'm in one right now and i can tell you a few things.
First of all, yes i do miss my girl at my side.
Their are many things we can't do or share together.
But let me focus on what we do get.
I've been in this relation for about a year now. I've been to her country last july for 3 weeks and i'll be going back for another 2 weeks end of january.
Before that first meeting we've spend about 6 months online. Chatting every day and included cam chatting on weekends.
We have talked so much about all sorts of things, a lot more then i would ever have done with a local girl.
In local relation i and many others get distracted, so busy doing things together, so busy running from friends to family to hobbies.. their is always something that needs to be done.
This takes away so much from the communication. Me and my girl have made time for each other to talk every single day. The foundation that we created is much stronger because of this.
When i actually saw her in person, she was the same person as the one i've chatted to for so long.
The time we've spend together was needed to give more dimension to our relation. You can't keep a relation if its only online. Both need to be willing to be together, that needs to be the goal to reach.
Me and my girl have the desire to get married, as soon as possible.. however legal it would be a lot easier to get all paperworks and such in order if we wait another year. So that is what we are planning to do. In meanwhile we keep chatting every day, and above all we trust eachother. Commitment, loyalty and trust are much needed, as well as patience and understanding. But if both are really commited you can make it work.
First of all, yes i do miss my girl at my side.
Their are many things we can't do or share together.
But let me focus on what we do get.
I've been in this relation for about a year now. I've been to her country last july for 3 weeks and i'll be going back for another 2 weeks end of january.
Before that first meeting we've spend about 6 months online. Chatting every day and included cam chatting on weekends.
We have talked so much about all sorts of things, a lot more then i would ever have done with a local girl.
In local relation i and many others get distracted, so busy doing things together, so busy running from friends to family to hobbies.. their is always something that needs to be done.
This takes away so much from the communication. Me and my girl have made time for each other to talk every single day. The foundation that we created is much stronger because of this.
When i actually saw her in person, she was the same person as the one i've chatted to for so long.
The time we've spend together was needed to give more dimension to our relation. You can't keep a relation if its only online. Both need to be willing to be together, that needs to be the goal to reach.
Me and my girl have the desire to get married, as soon as possible.. however legal it would be a lot easier to get all paperworks and such in order if we wait another year. So that is what we are planning to do. In meanwhile we keep chatting every day, and above all we trust eachother. Commitment, loyalty and trust are much needed, as well as patience and understanding. But if both are really commited you can make it work.
My relationships with locals never worked because of all the reasons highlighted above plus others.
I like LDR for all the other reasons you listed in your piece.
A LDR can work if there is communication, trust, and commitment from both involved. This is also true in "local" relationships too. I was in a committed LDR for two years, was even planning to move eventually. Unfortunately it came to an end 5 years ago when he died.
Anyway, life goes on.
Anyway, life goes on.
init2010: I guess reason for people to tell the bad sides of LDRs is that a great number of them thinks it´s something unreal, only created by immagination, as they never been into. partly they may be right, as soon as you focus on LDRs, you are isolated from your direct surrounding. a long-term effect of such relationships is, that you mostly have your thoughts going around your partner living on the other side of the planet, and people around you don´t understand your daily concerns. I met people online, who had to cut the connection created online after some time, as they missed their close friends, or others - talking about the pen-paling friends, found somebody in their life and didn´t feel comfortable to have obligations towards an online acquaittance beside that. nevertheless, I wish you both good luck for the future.
You speak the truth there Herr Init...
rickyb187: honestly for the right person one would move mountains if one were so inclined
Honesty is the most important moral I want in a partnerali110: long distance relation ?
A long-distance relationship for Ali?
You'll get to see your wife on Easter and Christmas - it would be something to look forward to!
I wouldn't think any of us are looking for a partner, you'll get to meet couple of times of the year (I might be wrong 
). There are so many practical and financial issues to plan for a future in another country. I think a LDR could be easier in younger ages.
I'm not ready to break up for a LDR outside the Scandinavian countries. There are long distances within my own country too!
Good luck to who're willing to give a LDR a try!
). There are so many practical and financial issues to plan for a future in another country. I think a LDR could be easier in younger ages.I'm not ready to break up for a LDR outside the Scandinavian countries. There are long distances within my own country too!
Good luck to who're willing to give a LDR a try!
Prapiroon: Prapiroon, Thats what we call trusting your partner. Local girls can also cheat or play some kind of game. Thats has nothing to do with LDR in specific.”
Unlaoised.
Nevermind auld Pap, he's a bitter woman hater laughOkay let me make myself clear. The reason I dislike you Louise is because you are a hater. It is also because you try to lead people and colour their view and perception of me simply because you have a problem with me. I have a very nasty ex wife who is also like you. She has made it her mission in life to turn everyone against me with her lies. So I see her evil and nasty traits in you and in some others here also. This is my reason for reacting aggressively to evil people who are like this and who feel that they are entitled to turn others against me. I hate pack mentalities and bullies and liars.
It is a control issue. I could see that you are a very controlling person right off. But you have good qualities also. I saw on the (Alone at Christmas thread) where you invited some people who were alone to come to your home for Christmas dinner. This was very nice and very thoughtful of you.
I don't personally like you because of this. But would I try to turn others here against you ? Absolutely not.
Unlaoised.
Nevermind auld Pap, he's a bitter woman hater laughOkay let me make myself clear. The reason I dislike you Louise is because you are a hater. It is also because you try to lead people and colour their view and perception of me simply because you have a problem with me. I have a very nasty ex wife who is also like you. She has made it her mission in life to turn everyone against me with her lies. So I see her evil and nasty traits in you and in some others here also. This is my reason for reacting aggressively to evil people who are like this and who feel that they are entitled to turn others against me. I hate pack mentalities and bullies and liars.
It is a control issue. I could see that you are a very controlling person right off. But you have good qualities also. I saw on the (Alone at Christmas thread) where you invited some people who were alone to come to your home for Christmas dinner. This was very nice and very thoughtful of you.
I don't personally like you because of this. But would I try to turn others here against you ? Absolutely not.
Can I suggest that you learn some internet etiquette. We don't use people's names on open forums. It's a thing called respect but clearly you never learnt it.
You also give me way too much credit for "turning others" against you. Last time I looked, the majority of posters on this forum are adults with minds and strong opinions of their own. Quite insulting to others who took issue with your disgusting anti women ranting, in my view.
You know what, Pap? It's time to move on from that horrible ex wife of yours, the bitterness will eat at you from the inside out and destroy any prospects of future romances. So you had a bad time with one woman?
You don't like me, I don't like you...that's fine. Now stop being a child. My profile has not changed from the first time you viewed it and you keep coming back to it. It's a bit stalkerish, IMO.
unlaoised: Can I suggest that you learn some internet etiquette. We don't use people's names on open forums. It's a thing called respect but clearly you never learnt it.
You also give me way too much credit for "turning others" against you. Last time I looked, the majority of posters on this forum are adults with minds and strong opinions of their own. Quite insulting to others who took issue with your disgusting anti women ranting, in my view.
You know what, Pap? It's time to move on from that horrible ex wife of yours, the bitterness will eat at you from the inside out and destroy any prospects of future romances. So you had a bad time with one woman?
You don't like me, I don't like you...that's fine. Now stop being a child. My profile has not changed from the first time you viewed it and you keep coming back to it. It's a bit stalkerish, IMO.
You also give me way too much credit for "turning others" against you. Last time I looked, the majority of posters on this forum are adults with minds and strong opinions of their own. Quite insulting to others who took issue with your disgusting anti women ranting, in my view.
You know what, Pap? It's time to move on from that horrible ex wife of yours, the bitterness will eat at you from the inside out and destroy any prospects of future romances. So you had a bad time with one woman?
You don't like me, I don't like you...that's fine. Now stop being a child. My profile has not changed from the first time you viewed it and you keep coming back to it. It's a bit stalkerish, IMO.
I'm not interested in your profile or in you. Not in the slightest. As for internet etiquette I have been on numerous forums and in many countries. You like to patronise people and try to talk down to them.You don't like people (men in particular) or anyone who has an opinion that is different to your own. But who actually cares what you think ? Respect ? You need to google this word yourself. lol Your like to put people down IF they are prepared to ALLOW you.
You like guys who suck up to you. Yes L. No L. Three bags full L kind of guys. Wimps who you can control basically. It is none of your business what I say or what my opinion is about anything to be perfectly honest.
So what part of this do you not understand ? You seem to think that this is your forum and that you will decide what people can say. I don't think so.
I'm not bitter. I just don't like you. You can't handle that though can you ? lol
You have AGAIN viewed my profile today ? Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. lol 
Should I be uneasy about this ? Secretly you like me because I am not afraid to stand up to you.
Should I be uneasy about this ? Secretly you like me because I am not afraid to stand up to you.Any distance adds a strain to the other stress points that can harm a relationship (work, financial, health, family issues)
Plus, it creates misunderstandings, as email, Skype and phone are not the same thing as face to face.
So, I would say: no, unless there is a plan to move in together and remove that distance.
Just my two cents for what is worth
Plus, it creates misunderstandings, as email, Skype and phone are not the same thing as face to face.
So, I would say: no, unless there is a plan to move in together and remove that distance.
Just my two cents for what is worth
tinglesensation: Any distance adds a strain to the other stress points that can harm a relationship (work, financial, health, family issues)
Plus, it creates misunderstandings, as email, Skype and phone are not the same thing as face to face.
So, I would say: no, unless there is a plan to move in together and remove that distance.
Just my two cents for what is worth
Plus, it creates misunderstandings, as email, Skype and phone are not the same thing as face to face.
So, I would say: no, unless there is a plan to move in together and remove that distance.
Just my two cents for what is worth
Face to face ,the best option. 
tinglesensation: Any distance adds a strain to the other stress points that can harm a relationship (work, financial, health, family issues)
Plus, it creates misunderstandings, as email, Skype and phone are not the same thing as face to face.
So, I would say: no, unless there is a plan to move in together and remove that distance.
Just my two cents for what is worth
Plus, it creates misunderstandings, as email, Skype and phone are not the same thing as face to face.
So, I would say: no, unless there is a plan to move in together and remove that distance.
Just my two cents for what is worth
of course....without common goals, LDR is a big nonsense....
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Ah, yes. Of course.