I'm Fine! (48)
RainComeShine: How often do we say that we're fine when clearly we are not? We may say it because we know that others are far worse off than ourselves or because we don't like confrontation.
We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.
We may say it because we're proud.
Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.
We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.
We may say it because we're proud.
Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.
Generally, when people say hi how are you, they don't really want to know, it's just a turn of phrase but it can be more annoying when you're actually fine and they won't believe you, some actually look at you as if the say the cheek of you to be fine!
Conrad73: seems CS or my Computer just Burped!
Connie..
You might be a little wrong but you're Fine! F-ed up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional..
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The song title is an acronym for "Fúcked Up, Insecure, Neurotic, and Emotional", as stated in the album's liner notes.
minnieme2: Generally, when people say hi how are you, they don't really want to know, it's just a turn of phrase but it can be more annoying when you're actually fine and they won't believe you, some actually look at you as if the say the cheek of you to be fine!
Hi minniI think you have it in a nutshell
Dragos
great track and my point exactly.
great track and my point exactly.
NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: F ucked
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So you're fine too I take it?
Lolette: You can say you're fine to people whom you judged could do nothing to sort you out,, but to real friends who knows you well, you can be true and honest, it could be a temporary relief.
A problem shared is a problem halved!
RainComeShine: Hi Ocee
I find that men are more cagey than women and get more upset about people knowing their business. It is a sort of pride don't you think?
I find that men are more cagey than women and get more upset about people knowing their business. It is a sort of pride don't you think?
It's not pride, for me.
Outside my intimate relationships, very little good comes of telling others when I'm struggling. I've never been offered a job, or a promotion because I'm feeling overwhelmed, or insecure, or sad.
It's much the same with women. Once they're emotionally invested in me, there's an upside to letting them in, but before that? I might as well just shoot myself in the foot.
It's different in relationships, but expressing vulnerability still carries the very real risk of loss of value to our partners.
RainComeShine: How often do we say that we're fine when clearly we are not? We may say it because we know that others are far worse off than ourselves or because we don't like confrontation.
We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.
We may say it because we're proud.
Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.
We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.
We may say it because we're proud.
Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.
There are people I can tell if I'm not fine. They're the important ones who care and will be there for me.
I don't see much good in discussing this with others or at work though.
I think if your distress is causing you to hurt others then it's good to at least reveal that there's a problem even if you don't disclose what the problem is.
This poll has been a learning curve for me. Quite enlightening.
Thanks to all who participated.
This poll has been a learning curve for me. Quite enlightening.
Thanks to all who participated.
RainComeShine: How often do we say that we're fine when clearly we are not? We may say it because we know that others are far worse off than ourselves or because we don't like confrontation.
We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.
We may say it because we're proud.
Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.
We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.
We may say it because we're proud.
Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.
If I'm going to lie then I'll lie well. I've been having chest pains recently and I'd not told any of the women around me because they'll worry too much. I found out it was a ligament strain and then told the girls, but before then I could only tell men.
If I pretend to be ok it's usually to be protective, and I feel more protective over women I care about than men I care about. I also know men will take worrying news better and be less of a burden on my conscience.
Obstinance_Works: If I'm going to lie then I'll lie well. I've been having chest pains recently and I'd not told any of the women around me because they'll worry too much. I found out it was a ligament strain and then told the girls, but before then I could only tell men.
If I pretend to be ok it's usually to be protective, and I feel more protective over women I care about than men I care about. I also know men will take worrying news better and be less of a burden on my conscience.
If I pretend to be ok it's usually to be protective, and I feel more protective over women I care about than men I care about. I also know men will take worrying news better and be less of a burden on my conscience.
This is contrast to the woman's "I'm fine" which is a poor lie that isn't supposed to be believed and is actually anything but protective and is instead a manipulative act of tacit aggression.
Well, I generally feel fine...Usually I am the one that asks this question, due to my work, which includes therapeutic procedures.
The best thing is to have someone you can share anything with. Just a meaningless funny conversation could work miracles.
If I feel a bit down I usually answer "Nothing to complain about..."
The best thing is to have someone you can share anything with. Just a meaningless funny conversation could work miracles.
If I feel a bit down I usually answer "Nothing to complain about..."
Obstinance_Works: This is contrast to the woman's "I'm fine" which is a poor lie that isn't supposed to be believed and is actually anything but protective and is instead a manipulative act of tacit aggression.
Your assessment of 'I'm fine' seems fairly astute..
What are your thoughts when a woman says 'you're fine'..
I'm not sure that I agree with that in my case although, of course, you know your people well.
I've always found the men to be the worriers and the women to be more practical with constructive advice. I think you touched on that.
I think you like to protect your women from worry or are you actually worried that if you share it with them and it turns out not to be serious that they may think you wimpish.
I'm not suggesting that you are but I do feel that men are often too proud to tell women.
In my experience both genders can be caring or selfish in their reaction to bad news of this kind.
A bit of support can be helpful or a hindrance and will depend on who is the recipient of the news.
I've always found the men to be the worriers and the women to be more practical with constructive advice. I think you touched on that.
I think you like to protect your women from worry or are you actually worried that if you share it with them and it turns out not to be serious that they may think you wimpish.
I'm not suggesting that you are but I do feel that men are often too proud to tell women.
In my experience both genders can be caring or selfish in their reaction to bad news of this kind.
A bit of support can be helpful or a hindrance and will depend on who is the recipient of the news.
women always say that, but they never mean it.
The 'I'm fine' is the equivalent of 'move out'
The 'I'm fine' is the equivalent of 'move out'
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The way I see things is that if they are a really good friend they would encourage that person to do so.