A challenge for honesty, read post then vote, please. (15)
Voted: Combinations of the above.
What truly keeps me from contacting people are a few things.
1) Their profile descriptions. Poorly written or ( u rite lik dis -
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2) Their posted requirements (ie. never smoked, income level, etc - I smoke and am not stopping + I'm a poor S.O.B.
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3) Their lack of a profile image (why are you afraid of being seen?)
4) Sometimes a single comment made in a forum posting that simply red flags the person in my mind.
5) Their profile picture(s) show me something I would prefer not to have as a partner. (yup looks matter, sorry but true for me)
6) I simply do not feel I should approach them and they have never approached me. (silly I know, but I trust my gut)
Those are the top six reasons that I do not contact some folks that seemingly I would be a good match for or would be a good match for me based on the interactions I have had with them on the forums...
Anyone else care to share?
Just was something I was thinking about today.
me
What truly keeps me from contacting people are a few things.
1) Their profile descriptions. Poorly written or ( u rite lik dis -
) 2) Their posted requirements (ie. never smoked, income level, etc - I smoke and am not stopping + I'm a poor S.O.B.
)3) Their lack of a profile image (why are you afraid of being seen?)
4) Sometimes a single comment made in a forum posting that simply red flags the person in my mind.
5) Their profile picture(s) show me something I would prefer not to have as a partner. (yup looks matter, sorry but true for me)
6) I simply do not feel I should approach them and they have never approached me. (silly I know, but I trust my gut)
Those are the top six reasons that I do not contact some folks that seemingly I would be a good match for or would be a good match for me based on the interactions I have had with them on the forums...
Anyone else care to share?
Just was something I was thinking about today.
me
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Damn good question. I've often thought the same thing. For me, just not ready to take the plundge. I found someone that I was intrested in. After spending time talking and getting to know her, red flags started popping up. There were too many issues to deal with at one time. I just don't have the energy or time in my life right now to manage a relationship. Career wise I'm imbarking on a new path. For awhile I'll be working two full time jobs, plus my baseball umpiring. I'm here for the forums and friends I have made.
But you are right, people are here to hook up, but few do. What is up with that?
But you are right, people are here to hook up, but few do. What is up with that?
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I've seen plenty ... problem is the long distance.
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buzzy: Damn good question. I've often thought the same thing. For me, just not ready to take the plundge. I found someone that I was intrested in. After spending time talking and getting to know her, red flags started popping up. There were too many issues to deal with at one time. I just don't have the energy or time in my life right now to manage a relationship. Career wise I'm imbarking on a new path. For awhile I'll be working two full time jobs, plus my baseball umpiring. I'm here for the forums and friends I have made.
But you are right, people are here to hook up, but few do. What is up with that?
But you are right, people are here to hook up, but few do. What is up with that?
I am sorry to hear that news Buzzy.....I did think you and her were an item......maybe next time eh.....
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stefonline: I am sorry to hear that news Buzzy.....I did think you and her were an item......maybe next time eh.....
Just not the right time. For her either. Maybe down the road.
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For me it's usually distance...I never get to meet anyone in person.
And age...I'm not the typical 59 year old woman, but the guys I like are too young for me and the older ones are not interested in someone my age.
And age...I'm not the typical 59 year old woman, but the guys I like are too young for me and the older ones are not interested in someone my age.
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Shedman01: So here we all are on the forums. How many times have you read a posting (from someone you might date) about this or that and completely agreed with them? How many times have you described them to be exactly what your looking for? How many times have they described you to be exactly what they are looking for? And how many times have they describe their perfect match and you feel it fits you to perfection and vise versa?
I am not looking for posted answers to the above questions, but if you said once to any of them, why are you not dating that person? Why have you not contacted them and said 'here I am?" that is what this poll is about.
So after you have considered all those times when you have posted a complete agreement with what someone is looking for and what you are looking for matches it, answer the poll with why you did not contact them or why you haven't etc. Perhaps it can help us all to find better ways of presenting ourselves or to begin to see that maybe, just maybe, most people simply can not find someone on the internet because the chemistry just doesnt travel through the wires for some...
If you go through the forum postings about mates and partners and significant others etc it is a bloody miracle we are not all dating each other because we all define our desires almost the exact same way. So something MUST be out of place, or missing...
So if you have the guts maybe you will post a specific thing that has kept you from contacting others who 'seemingly' are exactly what your looking for, otherwise maybe just building up a poll response will help shed some light on why we aren't all hot for each other. I'll post my response in a minute.
Poll question: "Why have you not contacted or experienced feelings for someone who fits what you have described, and what they have described, as a good partner?"
I am not looking for posted answers to the above questions, but if you said once to any of them, why are you not dating that person? Why have you not contacted them and said 'here I am?" that is what this poll is about.
So after you have considered all those times when you have posted a complete agreement with what someone is looking for and what you are looking for matches it, answer the poll with why you did not contact them or why you haven't etc. Perhaps it can help us all to find better ways of presenting ourselves or to begin to see that maybe, just maybe, most people simply can not find someone on the internet because the chemistry just doesnt travel through the wires for some...
If you go through the forum postings about mates and partners and significant others etc it is a bloody miracle we are not all dating each other because we all define our desires almost the exact same way. So something MUST be out of place, or missing...
So if you have the guts maybe you will post a specific thing that has kept you from contacting others who 'seemingly' are exactly what your looking for, otherwise maybe just building up a poll response will help shed some light on why we aren't all hot for each other. I'll post my response in a minute.
Poll question: "Why have you not contacted or experienced feelings for someone who fits what you have described, and what they have described, as a good partner?"
My vote is "Other - please specify in a post."
Very simple - the key word is 'Seemingly'.
There is no words in this world one can put into their profile to make it exactly what another person is looking for.
If I see the proper use of language and no corny clichés in a profile, acceptable age range and a date-able distance,
it's good enough for me to start a conversation.
For chemistry to start traveling through the wires, there should be a hell lot of communicating via emails and forum posts. Phone can speed things up a little.
But until both are willing to meet in RL and do make it happen, there is a big fat nothing.
And will remain this way.
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buzzy: Just not the right time. For her either. Maybe down the road.
Agreed...not the right time right now for either of us. Maybe in the future when things have settled for both of us. If it's meant to be, it will be.
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The only time that I contact anyone, it is to compliment them on their profile if it is super good, nothing more.
If someone wants me, they have to contact me. The ones my age who have contacted me soon find that I'm not typical for my age therefore lose interest because they had that 'old guy' mindset. The young ones usually have their brains in their pants.
However, I've met a few, some good and some bad, some old and some young so I can't complain. Keeps me from becoming bored.
But, it would really be nice to find "the one".
If someone wants me, they have to contact me. The ones my age who have contacted me soon find that I'm not typical for my age therefore lose interest because they had that 'old guy' mindset. The young ones usually have their brains in their pants.
However, I've met a few, some good and some bad, some old and some young so I can't complain. Keeps me from becoming bored.
But, it would really be nice to find "the one".
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I picked a combination, because, there are some where I have clicked with and would love to have tried something, but DISTANCE was an issue, and there are sometimes when I chat with someone where I have the confidence issue of whether they'd truely be attracted to myself.
I don't chalk it down as a confidence issue, but you can sometimes get the general feel for what someone else really wants out of a relationship regardless of what they type down here in the forums. Call it a sixth sense or whatever, but sometimes, that feeling of "well we get along together, but something just isn't right" creeps into mind and that can sometimes be enough.
Yeah you never know until you try, but, sometimes you're first instinct is the one to go with in the first place.
-JMO-
I don't chalk it down as a confidence issue, but you can sometimes get the general feel for what someone else really wants out of a relationship regardless of what they type down here in the forums. Call it a sixth sense or whatever, but sometimes, that feeling of "well we get along together, but something just isn't right" creeps into mind and that can sometimes be enough.
Yeah you never know until you try, but, sometimes you're first instinct is the one to go with in the first place.
-JMO-
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Distance has a lot to do with things on my part. I am not
close to most. There was one guy, as soon as I showed an
interest in him, he disappeared, so does make me rather
leary. However I do have friends that have given me their
e-mail addresses and I try to keep in touch with them and
those I mail right here.
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Crumbs, one of the best polls in eons and I am stumped.
But then I did contact him.
But then I did contact him.
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Number 1 reason: Distance
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Wish I had more time to respond, but must get off to work in a few minutes.
My number one reason -- one that is almost 100% of the problem -- is distance. My location is not very conducive to reaching out to most of the people here, unfortunately.
My number one reason -- one that is almost 100% of the problem -- is distance. My location is not very conducive to reaching out to most of the people here, unfortunately.
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This has truly been fascinating to read. I can not thank everyone enough for their responses given and honesty expressed. Very much appreciated. Very much.
- for the fella's
- for the ladies
Thanks much all,
me
- for the fella's - for the ladiesThanks much all,
me
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A challenge for honesty, read post then vote, please.(Vote Below)
I am not looking for posted answers to the above questions, but if you said once to any of them, why are you not dating that person? Why have you not contacted them and said 'here I am?" that is what this poll is about.
So after you have considered all those times when you have posted a complete agreement with what someone is looking for and what you are looking for matches it, answer the poll with why you did not contact them or why you haven't etc. Perhaps it can help us all to find better ways of presenting ourselves or to begin to see that maybe, just maybe, most people simply can not find someone on the internet because the chemistry just doesnt travel through the wires for some...
If you go through the forum postings about mates and partners and significant others etc it is a bloody miracle we are not all dating each other because we all define our desires almost the exact same way. So something MUST be out of place, or missing...
So if you have the guts maybe you will post a specific thing that has kept you from contacting others who 'seemingly' are exactly what your looking for, otherwise maybe just building up a poll response will help shed some light on why we aren't all hot for each other. I'll post my response in a minute.
Poll question: "Why have you not contacted or experienced feelings for someone who fits what you have described, and what they have described, as a good partner?"