When my parents get old and sick, I will...... (25)
LoveIsADecision: What do we do with our parents as they get older and more frail?
Be careful, and be "prepared" for what you commit to. I made that commitment 13 years ago and am now fulfilling it. I will be the first to admit I had absolutely clue as to what I was saying, yet is has been an experience I am grateful to have..
I was NOT emotionally or mentally (or spiritually) prepared for this but it sure has been a great learning experience for me..
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HJFinAZ: Be careful, and be "prepared" for what you commit to. I made that commitment 13 years ago and am now fulfilling it. I will be the first to admit I had absolutely clue as to what I was saying, yet is has been an experience I am grateful to have..
I was NOT emotionally or mentally (or spiritually) prepared for this but it sure has been a great learning experience for me..
I was NOT emotionally or mentally (or spiritually) prepared for this but it sure has been a great learning experience for me..
NO clue..........
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They're dead!
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I care for him to the best of my ability. My occupation seems to have changed to be a "Juggler". My life is on hold. It can be overwhelming at times and yet the most fulfilling thing I've ever done. I will have no regrets.
Not everyone has the "room" to have an elder parent live with them. Not everyone has someone available to look after them when you have to work. There is not always money to hire someone to come in. There are decisions that have to be made; hard, life changing decisions that can leave you twisted with guilt.
Luckily my father has been able to live on his own until the New Year 2009. He's been in and out of hospitals and rehab facilities since then. And hopes to regain the ability to go back to his apt.
What do we do with our parents as they get older and more frail?
We switch roles. The parent becomes the child, and we become the parent figure.
Unless you have been through it, or are going through it, you can't imagine what is involved. We love our parents dearly, that is why we do everything we can....
Not everyone has the "room" to have an elder parent live with them. Not everyone has someone available to look after them when you have to work. There is not always money to hire someone to come in. There are decisions that have to be made; hard, life changing decisions that can leave you twisted with guilt.
Luckily my father has been able to live on his own until the New Year 2009. He's been in and out of hospitals and rehab facilities since then. And hopes to regain the ability to go back to his apt.
What do we do with our parents as they get older and more frail?
We switch roles. The parent becomes the child, and we become the parent figure.
Unless you have been through it, or are going through it, you can't imagine what is involved. We love our parents dearly, that is why we do everything we can....
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LoveIsADecision: What do we do with our parents as they get older and more frail?
Unfortunately my parents have since passed away.
But I do have someone in my life who I've always considered my other mother, she's my former mother-in-law.If she needed me for any reason I would be there for her in a heartbeat.
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"Always be nice to your children because they are the ones who will choose your rest home".
(Ack. Phyllis Diller)
(Ack. Phyllis Diller)
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I need another choice....depends on the situation.
Both of my parents are still alive & kicking (both will be 74 this year). So right now they can take care of each other. But if one of them became sick, I'd probably stop by the house more often.
But also seeing as how there are no brothers or sisters to help me out, I might get some home care to come in if it gets down to only one of them being alive, and if it got to where they needed constant care, then I'd look into a retirement facility with medical staff on site.
Also as an only child, I don't really need to worry about the will, but we have talked about it...more along the lines of should they leave anything for my kids (especially if something happens to me before they, my parents, die).....
I actually don't envision my parents leaving this world anytime soon.
Both of my parents are still alive & kicking (both will be 74 this year). So right now they can take care of each other. But if one of them became sick, I'd probably stop by the house more often.
But also seeing as how there are no brothers or sisters to help me out, I might get some home care to come in if it gets down to only one of them being alive, and if it got to where they needed constant care, then I'd look into a retirement facility with medical staff on site.
Also as an only child, I don't really need to worry about the will, but we have talked about it...more along the lines of should they leave anything for my kids (especially if something happens to me before they, my parents, die).....
I actually don't envision my parents leaving this world anytime soon.
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I cared for my Mother the last year she was alive. Hurricane Katrina destroyed her home. She came to California and lived with me. I was the luckiest man alive to be able to re-enjoy my Mother.
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When it comes to the point of ME becoming old & frail....I'll probably have fallen in my own house & never found....lol
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My mother lived with me the last several years of her life. I would do it again in a heartbeat. My 3 siblings called and spoke to her for 20 minutes once a month. They are now sharing the care of my father.
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Big_John: I cared for my Mother the last year she was alive. Hurricane Katrina destroyed her home. She came to California and lived with me. I was the luckiest man alive to be able to re-enjoy my Mother.
I enjoyed my mother immensely John. She was my best friend and I miss her over and over again every day.
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dcj22: I enjoyed my mother immensely John. She was my best friend and I miss her over and over again every day.
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roseofsharon: "Always be nice to your children because they are the ones who will choose your rest home".
(Ack. Phyllis Diller)
(Ack. Phyllis Diller)
True. My daughter says she's planning to have a little house next door just for me. But she's young yet. I have years left to piss her off.
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DoznEggs: I care for him to the best of my ability. My occupation seems to have changed to be a "Juggler". My life is on hold. It can be overwhelming at times and yet the most fulfilling thing I've ever done. I will have no regrets.
Not everyone has the "room" to have an elder parent live with them. Not everyone has someone available to look after them when you have to work. There is not always money to hire someone to come in. There are decisions that have to be made; hard, life changing decisions that can leave you twisted with guilt.
Luckily my father has been able to live on his own until the New Year 2009. He's been in and out of hospitals and rehab facilities since then. And hopes to regain the ability to go back to his apt.
What do we do with our parents as they get older and more frail?
We switch roles. The parent becomes the child, and we become the parent figure.
Unless you have been through it, or are going through it, you can't imagine what is involved. We love our parents dearly, that is why we do everything we can....
Not everyone has the "room" to have an elder parent live with them. Not everyone has someone available to look after them when you have to work. There is not always money to hire someone to come in. There are decisions that have to be made; hard, life changing decisions that can leave you twisted with guilt.
Luckily my father has been able to live on his own until the New Year 2009. He's been in and out of hospitals and rehab facilities since then. And hopes to regain the ability to go back to his apt.
What do we do with our parents as they get older and more frail?
We switch roles. The parent becomes the child, and we become the parent figure.
Unless you have been through it, or are going through it, you can't imagine what is involved. We love our parents dearly, that is why we do everything we can....
Hang in there, Honey. It's worth it. I wouldn't trade anything I did for my mom. I hope he's well again soon and you'll both be in my thoughts.
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HJFinAZ: Be careful, and be "prepared" for what you commit to. I made that commitment 13 years ago and am now fulfilling it. I will be the first to admit I had absolutely clue as to what I was saying, yet is has been an experience I am grateful to have..
I was NOT emotionally or mentally (or spiritually) prepared for this but it sure has been a great learning experience for me..
I was NOT emotionally or mentally (or spiritually) prepared for this but it sure has been a great learning experience for me..
And your care for your mother, Pat, is one of the things we all love about you.
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Helping parents when they are old can be difficult if their health is failing. I lived with my grandfather for a period of time after my grandmother passed away. It is not easy and is a task better shared between people.
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dcj22: Hang in there, Honey. It's worth it. I wouldn't trade anything I did for my mom. I hope he's well again soon and you'll both be in my thoughts.
Thanks dc! I know it's worth it. Even tho it's hard and frustrating at times, I will rest in peace one day knowing I did my absolute best for him.
I lost my Mom suddenly in 1991 to a brain aneurysm. I never thought she'd die at such a young age. She was my bestest friend too. Not one day has gone by in all these years that I don't think about her. She was just 62... I miss her so.
Thank you for your kind words!
Eggs
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eat them!
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pretzelman: eat them!
Dude you have a warped sense of humor.
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Maverick2695: Dude you have a warped sense of humor.
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i would definitely take care of them to the last minute. when we were young they didn't put us in Orphanage cause they were busy with their carriers.
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There are so many varibles that go into play here. Their health and your current circumstances. My dad wanted to go into a nursing home. He knew he could no longer live alone, so he went into the same nursing home that his wife was in. Now that she has passed, my sister and I are moving him closer. That way we can keep an eye on him and the home. Neither one of us can stay home and care for him, I would if I could.
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GoodHeartforYou: You abide by their wishes - simply put.
If they become senile - that's another thing....was not considered in the poll
If they become senile - that's another thing....was not considered in the poll
That is where my dad is now, dementia and now alzheimers.
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