Being a kind, too caring, soft hearted man how do you really get over being hurt by women? ( Archived) (53)

I have to agree with you, Ulimaroa. I'm a very strong and dominant woman, and I would walk all over someone like that. I need someone with a bit of an edge...a good man who can be a bad boy.

However, Romeo, you shouldn't try to change who you are...it's almost impossible for most of us to change our base personality. You need to be more careful in choosing those you're in a relationship with and find the rare ones who won't walk all over you, but rather will give you back what you deserve.

Good luck.

hi romeo,being hurt is really hard time for someone but we must think always have tomorrow,u must be brave and strong,dont give up,always there is right person for someone who need the real and faithful love....

When someone has a need to describe themselves as too caring and too nurturing, it always makes me think of the 2nd side of the story and/or the 3rd - objective - side.

I know people do get hurt, Dru.

It's life. That not the part I doubt.


Good morning

Yes Romeo you do eventually get over the hurt. Just stay true to yourself. Believe me they all try to come back when they realized they messed up. You only get stronger from here.

you have to grow some balls and stand up for things that are important to you......you'll never completely satisfy a woman... I don't care how hard you try... all you do is be your own man. benice to them, but don't allow them to walk all over you..

Hey Romeo....being in the same position as you but the other way around,I can only imagine how seriously disheartened you must feel with the other gender.But please believe me not all the women out here are the same.Unfortunately being a kind,caring man for some women is not enough....the draw of the "bad boy" is always so much more appealing.What they dont realise is that the "good guys" are the ones they really want!!!!To be respected,treated with care and consideration is the only way to go!!!PLEASE.....stay just as you are....the one for you just hasn't found you yet!!!Believe me there are not enough "GOOD GUYS"....in the world!!!!x

balls

<---------big ones too baby....

What's this 'bad boy' thing? A guy whose screwed up in his head? No thanks.

i must come to my defense with this posting. i have all the "balls" in the world. this has really nothing to do with my question. i do stand up for the things in myt life that are important to me "once again" has nothing to do with my question. now the part about not letting them walk all over me.....that is a trait of a ""soft hearted" person. it is hard for me to see that i am getting walked on till it is to late. i get blinded by love and over-whelmed with my emotion's. or i care to much to a point i dont wanna see it happening so to say. I can see this in myself but have no clue as to how to change that about me. And as i am seeing with this posting , people say i shouldn't change for no one, well how do i fix this problem without changing myself? If i do try to change this about myself how would i begin too?

Begin with asking your S/O what bothers her in your relationship. And listen.

You might hear all the answers you need. Who knows?

She does not just take kids and walk away. Something prompts her to move on.

My baby mom did not leave me i left her she became physically and mentally abusive to me and my boys. i am getting my boys through courts. i am and have been single over a yr now and am refering to the women i have been talking to since the break up of me and the ex.

Hi there.

You and the rest of the world are not 'too caring' You care. That is important.

I think you have been very honest and upfront, you are not attacking your ex, which I notice and that is refreshing.

It will take time to learn to trust again, but don't see any lady that you get to know as a person who will hurt you as you have been previously.

When you wake up with a smile on your face and that life is looking forward, enjoying each day and you ooze some confidence, you will attract like minded people.

The hurt takes time to fade, but it does, I can assure you of that.

And welcome to CS, have fun and enjoy.

BUT AFTER THEY ALL HAVE HURT ME HOW DO I NOT KEEP IT IN MY HEAD AND HEART THAT IT IS POSSIBLE THAT "THIS ONE" IS GOING TO DO IT TO?

You just move past it, and it is always "possible" that someone can do it again...there are no guarantees. You just have to take that chance, but, not everyone is the same, just get to know the new person as best you can, before any serious committment

dont confuse love with attachment. and dont look for love. Be Love unconditionally. Then, when when free from the illusion of finding love elsewhere and attaching to you illusion, Poof! no more hurt!

bein cold sometimes doesnt mean ur a cold person.
Ur dumped,me too,tough cookie.
move on
NEXT!!!
really rebounds are great and i tried 500 b4 i found a good one.

to be honest i think myself through experience that ,we all have a type we go for, i know i do it u gotta try and break that cycle ,try something different but never give up good luck ...
eventually we got to get it right

I have been divorce 2X and I have know many others who got divorced just as I am sure all of you have. If either or both of my ex-wives were here online and they told there story I am guessing most here would think that SOB... If you heard my story you would think geeh why do the nice guys always get taken advantage of. My point being most of us think we are good people and only or mostly see the faults of our partners as ours are not so bad in our view. Perhaps we focus on the wrong things. I am speaking to both men and women. Do we just get to involve in our day to day struggle... I really dont know. I do think we give up to easily and for some reason feel its easier to walk then work it out. Our courts and society are no help either as it is so acceptable to be divorced. Maybe we need to be run through a training session before marriage rather than through counseling after we are in one.

I really dont presume to know the answer I just know the when I get attached again that I will do it hopefully for the right reasons and so will she cause the DIVORCE alternative sucks...

Let me understand it:

you left your children in hands of an abusive partner because your children are being physically and mentally abused by her? You being too nurturing and too caring for your own good?

And now you are trying to talk to other women for a while but they appear not interested and that's how they ALL hurt you?



I just don't get it. Sorry.

Good luck.