amelie13Sydney, New South Wales Australia327 posts
osi_m: Let's share our opinions about the difficulties in finding some-one...
I don't think it's difficult to find a partner. I think it's sometimes difficult to find the right partner. :-)
In fairness, true love wouldn't mean much to many people if it were very easy to find. It's human nature to want & highly value what you don't have.
There's lots of things you can do to make finding a partner easier. I know several girls who met Mr Right by agreeing they would say yes to all social invitations they received for a year. Other people ask their friends to set them up on blind dates. Being social probably makes a big difference - dating is a bit of a numbers game & the more people you meet, the better your chances are.
Mainly though, I think people are attracted to happy people who are looking for someone to enhance their life, not transform it. That's why, IMO, many people meet Mr or Ms Right when they are so happily busy they momentarily stopped looking.
The search for our mate should be difficult. It should drives us nuts. Something so important and so valued should be hard to find and keep. Enjoy the journey and fight hard to find the 'right one'.
amelie13: I don't think it's difficult to find a partner. I think it's sometimes difficult to find the right partner. :-)
In fairness, true love wouldn't mean much to many people if it were very easy to find. It's human nature to want & highly value what you don't have.
There's lots of things you can do to make finding a partner easier. I know several girls who met Mr Right by agreeing they would say yes to all social invitations they received for a year. Other people ask their friends to set them up on blind dates. Being social probably makes a big difference - dating is a bit of a numbers game & the more people you meet, the better your chances are.
Mainly though, I think people are attracted to happy people who are looking for someone to enhance their life, not transform it. That's why, IMO, many people meet Mr or Ms Right when they are so happily busy they momentarily stopped looking.
Finding the right partner off course, finding the wrong is a piece of cake LOL although, I always found nice people but never had a long relation...
osi_m: Finding the right partner off course, finding the wrong is a piece of cake LOL although, I always found nice people but never had a long relation...
but feel something is turning... thx to CS (hopefully)
It´s more difficult to find a partner online, in fact virtually impossible in my opinion, for a whole host of reasons which I don´t need to explain to anyone.
I met my partner in real life, and though real life relationships don´t come with guarantees either, they are much easier to find for many people if, and only if, they can maintain a life outside this weird virtual world as I always have.
osi_m: Let's share our opinions about the difficulties in finding some-one...
Now a days finding right partner is difficult because most of the young men looking for love and romance but most of the same age young girls looking for rich partner and they don't care to be with older man and older men are looking for brainless young beauties, and older women are looking for love and romance! Sometimes I feel like I am from different planet because I am too emotional for this world. Good luck to everybody!
"Don't use your eyes to look for love for it's your heart that knows it. Let yourself make mistakes and do learn from this. It is from this that you will accumulate your knowledge as to whether the person met is the one or not."
venere08: Because of this, I may remain on my own the rest of my life.
If so, life remains good. I am grateful for all I have in life.
I to would rather remain on my own if the right person does not enter my life and know what it is to truly care about the one that is your soulmate, friend, lover and confident.
It's only Difficult if you set rules. You undergo difficulties if your rules are not obeyed. It takes time before you'll realise that you are in love. Let time and nature decide for your choice. For the meantime, simlpy enjoy your life.
Nov 2, 2009 1:00 AM CST Why is it difficult to find a partner?
Searching1982Nassau, New Providence Bahamas1 Posts
Searching1982Nassau, New Providence Bahamas1 posts
I feel it is difficult because most people are selfish. Most of us want what we want when we want it. And usually that means that the expense of others. We tend to become overally aggressive and jealous or simple matters. We don't deal with arguments properly and most of us feel we are always right,but usually we are not.
Before we can find partners that we want in our lives for the rest of our lives, we have to sit back and analyze our own lives and determine exactly what it is that drives us and what it is that we are expecting to gain from finding partners.
I also feel that for most, the control factor plays a very big part. Everyone wants to be in control of their own lives. But we allow controlling our own lives to develop in the control of other lives. Maybe if we all think along the lines of being complete before we find partners, then we would not feel like we sometimes do. We will feel more like the person is complimenting us instead of completing us.
Because before we meet the person, we are already whole, so why should be allow people or ourselves to feel like they or we are the best darn thing that has ever happen to each other.
osi_m: Let's share our opinions about the difficulties in finding some-one...
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