is it true that all men want a big woman but wont admit to it.....? (119)
Lee464: He's full of sh**...and you're buying it...
Sorry but the truth hurts and you must be looking for some hurt to start a thread like this...so I'll comply.
Under all the psychological bullsh** is our instinct...and our instinct tells us to go for the best possible mother to ensure the survival of our children...that's baseline stuff.
Add to this the fact that men are visual creatures and that's a pretty heavy indicator that physical appearance is a major factor in a mans choice of mate.
So any man who claims to not care about physical appearance is either lying to you or has some sort of psychological issues.
And before the womens brigade comes rushing in...you women are exactly the same...although not as visually stimulated as us men your instinct for safety urges you to seek a physically fit male as the father of your children.Anything else is just crap spewed to make ourselves and others feel better...which is kind of stupid really...when the better solution for all involved is to show some self respect and be healthy.Disclaimer...it must be noted that some people do have genetics that determine their size regardless of life style choices...and in those cases it is still possible to be big and healthy.
Sorry but the truth hurts and you must be looking for some hurt to start a thread like this...so I'll comply.
Under all the psychological bullsh** is our instinct...and our instinct tells us to go for the best possible mother to ensure the survival of our children...that's baseline stuff.
Add to this the fact that men are visual creatures and that's a pretty heavy indicator that physical appearance is a major factor in a mans choice of mate.
So any man who claims to not care about physical appearance is either lying to you or has some sort of psychological issues.
And before the womens brigade comes rushing in...you women are exactly the same...although not as visually stimulated as us men your instinct for safety urges you to seek a physically fit male as the father of your children.Anything else is just crap spewed to make ourselves and others feel better...which is kind of stupid really...when the better solution for all involved is to show some self respect and be healthy.Disclaimer...it must be noted that some people do have genetics that determine their size regardless of life style choices...and in those cases it is still possible to be big and healthy.
You are quite right, except I don´t really think that women are less "visually stimulated" than men as you say. However, women do tend to be more accepting.
Additionally, middle aged or older men who have already fathered children are not necessarily seeking out young, capable of child bearing women, despite the biological urges you refer to. They do often desire arm candy though, which is physically acceptable in today´s model thin world.
I have never wished for nor been attracted to a very overweight man, (nor a really skinny man incidentally) so I cannot deride men who say they do not find big women attractive.
There are however men and women who find the larger size appealing, so everyone gets a shot no?
Jan1305: You are quite right, except I don´t really think that women are less "visually stimulated" than men as you say. However, women do tend to be more accepting.
Additionally, middle aged or older men who have already fathered children are not necessarily seeking out young, capable of child bearing women, despite the biological urges you refer to. They do often desire arm candy though, which is physically acceptable in today´s model thin world.
I have never wished for nor been attracted to a very overweight man, (nor a really skinny man incidentally) so I cannot deride men who say they do not find big women attractive.
There are however men and women who find the larger size appealing, so everyone gets a shot no?
Additionally, middle aged or older men who have already fathered children are not necessarily seeking out young, capable of child bearing women, despite the biological urges you refer to. They do often desire arm candy though, which is physically acceptable in today´s model thin world.
I have never wished for nor been attracted to a very overweight man, (nor a really skinny man incidentally) so I cannot deride men who say they do not find big women attractive.
There are however men and women who find the larger size appealing, so everyone gets a shot no?
Fair enough...but as I said earlier...a man who is attracted to an unhealthy woman has emotional issues and women who let themselves go should be aware that they may indeed attract a mate but is it a mate worth attracting?
Really the solution is to maintain a healthy lifestyle and show some love for yourself and that will have you fighting off the suitors.
But the world is chock full of emotionally bankrupt people who find some kind of solace in those who share their misfortune...so who am I to deprive them of their unhappiness??
Lee464: Fair enough...but as I said earlier...a man who is attracted to an unhealthy woman has emotional issues and women who let themselves go should be aware that they may indeed attract a mate but is it a mate worth attracting?
Really the solution is to maintain a healthy lifestyle and show some love for yourself and that will have you fighting off the suitors.
But the world is chock full of emotionally bankrupt people who find some kind of solace in those who share their misfortune...so who am I to deprive them of their unhappiness??
Really the solution is to maintain a healthy lifestyle and show some love for yourself and that will have you fighting off the suitors.
But the world is chock full of emotionally bankrupt people who find some kind of solace in those who share their misfortune...so who am I to deprive them of their unhappiness??
I find overweight men unattractive and i think the same goes for the majority of them , why do women always obsess about their weight if they think men will accept them as they are. Because deep down women know men like curves, but in the right places
Barrellofart: Like how food should be based on flavor, and not whether its made out of snails, or various 'undesirable' organs.
yes
but put that way i would not eat that
i would have to not know whats in it (food analogies creep me out
Jan1305: No they don´t.
I mean, that ALL men don´t want one particular type of woman.
Why do you think ALL men want a big woman?
I mean, that ALL men don´t want one particular type of woman.
Why do you think ALL men want a big woman?
That what was puzzling me to, Jan. But need to give her credit for being so daring with such a statemnt. It is different
Lee464: Fair enough...but as I said earlier...a man who is attracted to an unhealthy woman has emotional issues and women who let themselves go should be aware that they may indeed attract a mate but is it a mate worth attracting?
Really the solution is to maintain a healthy lifestyle and show some love for yourself and that will have you fighting off the suitors.
But the world is chock full of emotionally bankrupt people who find some kind of solace in those who share their misfortune...so who am I to deprive them of their unhappiness??
Really the solution is to maintain a healthy lifestyle and show some love for yourself and that will have you fighting off the suitors.
But the world is chock full of emotionally bankrupt people who find some kind of solace in those who share their misfortune...so who am I to deprive them of their unhappiness??
What a superb post
im short so i have to be able to get that far
I didn't mean that line as in change who you are, but I feel like if you are on the search for a man, you should make yourself appealing to him, and men are visual creatures. I think alot of overweight people use the line that they are happy with themselves also but deep down they are not.
brandycuba: I didn't mean that line as in change who you are, but I feel like if you are on the search for a man, you should make yourself appealing to him, and men are visual creatures. I think alot of overweight people use the line that they are happy with themselves also but deep down they are not.
Gotcha..
yes i am larger than I would like to be too, however some men do prefer a woman with a bit more weight but not all men like that!!We cannot starve ourselves my love! be comfortable with who we are, I was over 11 lb at birth!!!!Struggled to be of some healthy weight ever since!
sarahbera2c: well im a bbw and i just felt i should ask this... so plz answer it
Now some people on this will make a statement about my post but im only stating my opinion so please take no offence to what i write ok.
Personally myself, i have no preference to women as of such, BBW, curvy, skinny etc. however, men do miss out on BBW.
T.v, billboards, magazines and other forms of advertisment 9 times out of 10 you will see a size 8 woman, now them doing so they instantly say to us that a woman looking like that is the perfect woman, but if they had size 16+ women on such levels of fashion, then everyone else will want to have a BBW, its fashion we all look at wether you see it or not.
My answer to your question sarah is that there are men out there to absolutely adore BBW such as yourself and there will be others you wont, and if you are single i hope for you to find a man deserving to have you for speaking your opinion in this forum, not many people i know would make a poll like this.
Odysseus101: I'm terrified by women who are bigger then me...
why we dont bite
sweetvelvet: why we dont bite
unless you like the biting
sarahbera2c: well im a bbw and i just felt i should ask this... so plz answer it
im bbw woman and ive had a few expieriences where i was talking to fellas and then told i wasnt suitable to date cause of my size ..at first it got me down now i say its their loss .i desreve better than men who think like this its whats inside that counts
Well, according to Billy Crystal, men are never just friends with women. Men pretty much wanna f--- them all! hee hee!
Witchaywoman: Well, according to Billy Crystal, men are never just friends with women. Men pretty much wanna f--- them all! hee hee!
hate to admit it but the womans right, we were born with our brains in our mickeys
All women think that they are too big.PERIOD
conjor: All women think that they are too big.PERIOD
Sure you have to remember women are not also the ones who think that, believe it or not but men are just as concious about their weight, they just like to hide it behind their macho side,
personality beats physical appeal any day
I don't think most men want a heavy woman.Usually they want someone who looks model like.
nitemare667: Now some people on this will make a statement about my post but im only stating my opinion so please take no offence to what i write ok.
Personally myself, i have no preference to women as of such, BBW, curvy, skinny etc. however, men do miss out on BBW.
T.v, billboards, magazines and other forms of advertisment 9 times out of 10 you will see a size 8 woman, now them doing so they instantly say to us that a woman looking like that is the perfect woman, but if they had size 16+ women on such levels of fashion, then everyone else will want to have a BBW, its fashion we all look at wether you see it or not.
My answer to your question sarah is that there are men out there to absolutely adore BBW such as yourself and there will be others you wont, and if you are single i hope for you to find a man deserving to have you for speaking your opinion in this forum, not many people i know would make a poll like this.
Personally myself, i have no preference to women as of such, BBW, curvy, skinny etc. however, men do miss out on BBW.
T.v, billboards, magazines and other forms of advertisment 9 times out of 10 you will see a size 8 woman, now them doing so they instantly say to us that a woman looking like that is the perfect woman, but if they had size 16+ women on such levels of fashion, then everyone else will want to have a BBW, its fashion we all look at wether you see it or not.
My answer to your question sarah is that there are men out there to absolutely adore BBW such as yourself and there will be others you wont, and if you are single i hope for you to find a man deserving to have you for speaking your opinion in this forum, not many people i know would make a poll like this.
I would agree that we are conditioned to like what we see, the media and the advertisers see to that ! In times gone by BBW was in vouge. It represented health, wealth and fertility. Thin women were from the poverty class. The paintings and a statues of the masters clearly show how they were honoured and desired.
It is just the wrong era for BBW, stated BMW at this years car of the year show .......
somechick: I don't think most men want a heavy woman.Usually they want someone who looks model like.
Yep you are right, blame the fasion industry or male primiative instincts, you choose
Witchaywoman: Well, according to Billy Crystal, men are never just friends with women. Men pretty much wanna f--- them all! hee hee!
Hey now speak for other men would you? I am not that class of man.I am above that mam..Amazing how everybody wants to generalize what "men" want... everybody is unique and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I do however find there are entirely too many single BBW's and very few of any other kind of single female on online dating sites. But that's just my personal pet-peeve because the BBW thingy isn't my thing and neither is the European ultra-skinny model thingy my thing... can't single women just be nice and fit for a change? Oh, those are all taken I guess. 
I once had a blind date with a woman that I swear looked like a walking skeleton she was so thin... I'm sorry to say, I was freaked out! Looking into her face was like looking at a human skull. Of course, I had far more blind dates that were like really large...
There's gotta be a better way than this I swear.
- Michael
I once had a blind date with a woman that I swear looked like a walking skeleton she was so thin... I'm sorry to say, I was freaked out! Looking into her face was like looking at a human skull. Of course, I had far more blind dates that were like really large...
There's gotta be a better way than this I swear.
- Michael
Konigsberg: I agree,Lee. People with overweight problems will go whole 9 yards to find an excuses, to blame somebody who is thousand miles away, media,friends, lovers for their shortcomings. Even more, I feel they even try to bring themselves being overweight to a status of discrimination.
I do not feel myself comfortable to be among overweight people ... I feel like it is something is wrong with me ... not with them.
I do not feel myself comfortable to be among overweight people ... I feel like it is something is wrong with me ... not with them.
ur feelings are right there is something wrong with u if u cant be among overweight people
that is downright snobbish insultin and degradin
ur the type of person i wud never wanna meet
conjor: All women think that they are too big.PERIOD
Well given that 1 out of every 3 Americans is obese, probably most single women are too big.
So tell me what's wrong with a gal standing about 5'4" or so weighing oh about 130-140lbs or so? Oh, yeah, they're fit and NOT single.
- Michael
scorpiosiren: ur feelings are right there is something wrong with u if u cant be among overweight people
that is downright snobbish insultin and degradin
ur the type of person i wud never wanna meet
that is downright snobbish insultin and degradin
ur the type of person i wud never wanna meet
I completely agree with you 100% on that, who are we to judge or discriminate others on their physical appearance, personality beats physical appeal anyday.
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He's full of sh**...and you're buying it...
Sorry but the truth hurts and you must be looking for some hurt to start a thread like this...so I'll comply.
Under all the psychological bullsh** is our instinct...and our instinct tells us to go for the best possible mother to ensure the survival of our children...that's baseline stuff.
Add to this the fact that men are visual creatures and that's a pretty heavy indicator that physical appearance is a major factor in a mans choice of mate.
So any man who claims to not care about physical appearance is either lying to you or has some sort of psychological issues.
And before the womens brigade comes rushing in...you women are exactly the same...although not as visually stimulated as us men your instinct for safety urges you to seek a physically fit male as the father of your children.
Anything else is just crap spewed to make ourselves and others feel better...which is kind of stupid really...when the better solution for all involved is to show some self respect and be healthy.
Disclaimer...it must be noted that some people do have genetics that determine their size regardless of life style choices...and in those cases it is still possible to be big and healthy.