New Year's Eve is very hard, because of all the hype out there that you have to be with your love to toast the New Year with. I'm sick of all the hype about that and it's lonely on that night for me. And I don't watch the ball drop in NY because that hyped-up program makes me sick with all the phoniness! I just try and meditate and get through it by doing nice things for myself which by the way DO NOT include getting drunk and stuffing my face. My sympathies go out to all of you who don't have someone to share the holidays with. Please on those holidays do something nice for yourselves that involves healing and joy and discover the beautiful people that you all are naturally! My blessings to you all!
For me it is Christmas hands down. My kids are all grown and have families of their own. I go on Christmas Eve and watch my grand kids open presents. And I have chosen to work the last 9 years on Christmas Day to be with my other family...my co-workers. It gives the younger ladies time with their family and children.
I think Christmas and New Years are the hardest days for me. If you live in a foreign country ....all your friends go back to their families and you are left all alone...bah..humbug
amelie13Sydney, New South Wales Australia327 posts
BlainX: Some day's of the Year I do Dread to be alone...
Although I've been single on a lot of these days, I haven't felt alone. I've had plenty of family and friends to spend time with. Valentine's Day as a single person has never bothered me - I've had some lovely romantic valentine's days when I wasn't single & I'm sure I will again.
To be honest, the only times I really hate being single is when I get invited to a wedding. You end up at the table at the back of the room with 4 other couples & maybe one other person who is single, making conversation with people who couldn't be bothered. Singles tables at wedding used to be so much fun, but there just don't seem to be that many single people at weddings anymore.
jeepersCowpet Bay, Saint Thomas Virgin Islands (USA)10,968 posts
Thanksgiving in America always falls on Thursday. I am always off on Thursdays. I would prefer to be at work that day. Fortunately I have my dog and we go on a walkabout.
It has nothing to do with day so much as mood. At times I hit depressive moments but it is not loneliness so much as not being able to complete my path. I feel like a failure and that depresses me and I just want to go back home (to Spirit).
I guess what I didnt mention was why. See, I was a Christmas Bride and it reminds me that I am alone. I know that may sound sappy, but it's how I feel.
envyu: being single n alone is already bad enough so dont think there's any need to specify a specific day
I agree with you. However, if you`re at work, you don`t think about it. Really sad it`s, if you are at home alone, especially Christmas and New Year, etc.
Weimarlady: I too don't really dread being on my own for public holidays, it's just a day, and if I don't have any invitations from friends or can't be with my family, I'll try to do something productive. Maybe it comes from having worked night shifts including Xmas etc etc, but it's really only a day, no difference. Of course if I started chanting "woe is me", I'm sure the feeling of dread and misery would be knocking on my door before long.
And, single doesn't automatically mean alone, thankfully...
morgan5: One good thing about living abroad, nowhere near as commercialized they celebrate Christmas Day then Kings day in Jan, but thats it it's not rammed down your throat at every opportunity.
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