Should The Youth Of Today Have Some Training In Respect For Elders (42)
Christmas1: Who is to blame for a child's behaviour?
Where to start. From birth...the parents or parent. And of course where did that parent learn their parenting skills? A cycle already, even before day 1 of a newborn. Children imitate your behaviour. If you swear, they will too. But they adapt their behaviour to situations. For each situation a child will push the boundaries to see how far before receiving a negative response. As a parent (the supposed adult) it is our responsibility to educate our children to proper and improper behaviour. A one time, the neighbourhood adults looked out for all the children. That has changed. (why: too many factors to delve into)Teaching respect for others is essential, but there is always outside factors which work against the parent. If a parent has done their best (to their abilities) then the child takes it from there. As a young adult they know right from wrong and are held accountable for their actions.
But who can explain someone like Jeffrey Dahmer. A serial killer. He(Jeffrey) was damaged goods from birth. No one taught him that behaviour, but he knew (from his upbringing) that this was something wrong and to be hidden.
I would have to say it all starts in the home...but the final responsibility belongs to each individual to be their own government.
Where to start. From birth...the parents or parent. And of course where did that parent learn their parenting skills? A cycle already, even before day 1 of a newborn. Children imitate your behaviour. If you swear, they will too. But they adapt their behaviour to situations. For each situation a child will push the boundaries to see how far before receiving a negative response. As a parent (the supposed adult) it is our responsibility to educate our children to proper and improper behaviour. A one time, the neighbourhood adults looked out for all the children. That has changed. (why: too many factors to delve into)Teaching respect for others is essential, but there is always outside factors which work against the parent. If a parent has done their best (to their abilities) then the child takes it from there. As a young adult they know right from wrong and are held accountable for their actions.
But who can explain someone like Jeffrey Dahmer. A serial killer. He(Jeffrey) was damaged goods from birth. No one taught him that behaviour, but he knew (from his upbringing) that this was something wrong and to be hidden.
I would have to say it all starts in the home...but the final responsibility belongs to each individual to be their own government.
I agree, intrinsic ability to self discipline is the best gift a parent can give a child through training and example.
What a lovely post Christmas~so well thought out!
I have been saying for years that schools should have a class for social skills and relationships. Kids need to have respect explained to them because lots of people hardly show them any. They need to be taught how to effectively deal with all sorts of abusers. They also need to learn decent manners. They also need to learn a little something about class division such as: if you reek of cigarettes, dress like a thug, cover your body in tattoos and swear all the time, that may work against you all your life. (DUH.) When I was in high school, my peeve was that most kids seemed too shy pr scared to speak. I would walk up to someone and try to talk to them about the teacher or the class or the weather and just get a blank stare like I was talking to a sheep and frightening it. I thought they were just too stuck up to speak to me. Later on, I figured out that it was probably that they were shy, unsocialized, not armed with a good vocabulary, not really used to being spoken to and devoid of any kind of social skills at all. It was scary to think of people that spaced growing up to take over the work force and vote.
surfer777: Just a social comment on the youth of today ( not all but enough to warrant this poll).
It is hard for elder persons to move quickly out of the way of these not caring youth.
It is hard for elder persons to move quickly out of the way of these not caring youth.
Yes it's called good parenting.
Kids in the u.s. are by far some of the most immature for their age in the world. They are too spoiled and little is expected of them.
Rich kids are over the top spoiled with their parents teaching them that they can do what they want and it's all about them.
I've taught for 10 years and I'm not doing it anymore. I don't blame the kids; I blame the parents.
somechick: I believe the reason for how some of the youth act today is more about who have raised them.Also who they have had for role models.
Ever read the item about 'Children Learn What They Live?'
Ever read the item about 'Children Learn What They Live?'
surfer777: Just a social comment on the youth of today ( not all but enough to warrant this poll).
It is hard for elder persons to move quickly out of the way of these not caring youth.
It is hard for elder persons to move quickly out of the way of these not caring youth.
Well maybe some should, but I think the irony here is that the result of the poll says more about the older generation than it is does about the younger.
surfer777: Just a social comment on the youth of today ( not all but enough to warrant this poll).
It is hard for elder persons to move quickly out of the way of these not caring youth.
It is hard for elder persons to move quickly out of the way of these not caring youth.
respect has now gone, we are a lazy race!
why people call the poles and other people that come here to do jobs that we dont want is beyond me. we were great britain. miss the great out my friend!
didn't Socrates say pretty much the same in his day.....some things never chage I guess....
At the risk of sounding like me Dear Ole Mom, I agree they should!
I think the main problem today is that the parents were the generation who had it all, lived through the Credit Boom and the Good Times, and bought everything on the Never Never. That kind of "I want it, so I will Get It, Even Though I havent Worked for It" mentality spills through into general life views.
What REALLY gets me going is when the kids want to be "Respected as Adults" and treated like Adults, but run home to Momma at the slightest little hitch, and expect to be compensated, both emotionally and financially. Get a grip, kids! Either you want to be adults, or you dont.
I think the main problem today is that the parents were the generation who had it all, lived through the Credit Boom and the Good Times, and bought everything on the Never Never. That kind of "I want it, so I will Get It, Even Though I havent Worked for It" mentality spills through into general life views.
What REALLY gets me going is when the kids want to be "Respected as Adults" and treated like Adults, but run home to Momma at the slightest little hitch, and expect to be compensated, both emotionally and financially. Get a grip, kids! Either you want to be adults, or you dont.
Unfortunately most of todays youth are shown no respect from their elders. they are all 'tarred with the same brush'. The world is a very different place now than what it used to be even ten years ago and they have many different things to deal with. Perhaps if children were shown a little more respect they would be more respectful themselves?
exetershyguy: Unfortunately most of todays youth are shown no respect from their elders. they are all 'tarred with the same brush'. The world is a very different place now than what it used to be even ten years ago and they have many different things to deal with. Perhaps if children were shown a little more respect they would be more respectful themselves?
Is it? How???
What different things??
Is there a generation that didn't criticize youths for their irreverence? Maybe beating a dead horse is theraputic?
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Where to start. From birth...the parents or parent. And of course where did that parent learn their parenting skills? A cycle already, even before day 1 of a newborn. Children imitate your behaviour. If you swear, they will too. But they adapt their behaviour to situations. For each situation a child will push the boundaries to see how far before receiving a negative response. As a parent (the supposed adult) it is our responsibility to educate our children to proper and improper behaviour. A one time, the neighbourhood adults looked out for all the children. That has changed. (why: too many factors to delve into)Teaching respect for others is essential, but there is always outside factors which work against the parent. If a parent has done their best (to their abilities) then the child takes it from there. As a young adult they know right from wrong and are held accountable for their actions.
But who can explain someone like Jeffrey Dahmer. A serial killer. He(Jeffrey) was damaged goods from birth. No one taught him that behaviour, but he knew (from his upbringing) that this was something wrong and to be hidden.
I would have to say it all starts in the home...but the final responsibility belongs to each individual to be their own government.