leonjs49: in some cases this may be true, in my case i had a pic on here a year ago, i met people that did have pics some where who they said they were, others the pic was from high school or something. i also met some fine friends that didnt have a pic, and they were who they said they were and much moer day.re. how many of us judge ones character on looks, i certinly dont. for the record i'm considered a good looking guy, get to know ME' who i am, not just a picture.
Amen! Thank you. Someone may have a picture here that is not even him. We caught someone here the other day. I want to know a person NOT an image.
If someone doesnt want to show their, it absolutely doesnt reflect being serious or unserious. There might be many reasons for it. May be not everyone wants to be on the showcase to be a part of window shopping. Secondly, Have you see n your picture? Looks like from the 70's...lol I doubt that its you.
Last but not the least, your fourth choice "only if income shows 15o,ooo +" tells a lot about you...
Honestly, get a life and try to post some intellectual blog.
Ralphy2407Veliko Tarnovo, Veliko Turnovo Bulgaria142 posts
OK, if the person does not want to get as good results in their advert then don't put a photo. Basically we are all selling ourselves on this site and as with a car advert...the ones with photos sell better...anyone fancy a test drive???
In response to: If someone doesnt want to show their, it absolutely doesnt reflect being serious or unserious. There might be many reasons for it. May be not everyone wants to be on the showcase to be a part of window shopping. Secondly, Have you see n your picture? Looks like from the 70's...lol I doubt that its you.
Last but not the least, your fourth choice "only if income shows 15o,ooo +" tells a lot about you...
Honestly, get a life and try to post some intellectual blog.
Hmm... Nice reply from "pictureless" person lol. And thanks for compliment about my pictures. I like them too
SensualBBWPlease: Or we realize that chemistry is a completely Internal concept, and secondly no one ever has false pics or aged ones where they look nothing like they do now, and thirdly how has this picking by looks worked so far???
Hmmmmmmm people who try the same failing concepts over and over again, there is a word for that, so trying something different.
Its ALL about chemistry baby, But, a picture is worth a thousand words. Are you telling me men dont check out a ladies...assets ? Please! I cant say my love life is "failing" or lacking in any way in fact, Can you? Sooooo hows that working for YOU?? I just think if I have the cojones to put it out there, I would expect the same from men. Trying to take a disembodied head outline seriously is to say the least...disconcerting.
MilanaSw: Just curious to know. For myself I think that if person doesn't want to show face - he/she is not serious.
Frankly, I think that long distance dating is not serious (the grass is always greener on the other side...). Communication/transportation technology is fantastic, but when it prevents to see the good things that are around you to move focus to places/people that are 100km far from you (or more), it's a problem. It's a good thing if it allows you to get to know interesting people from other cultures.
So, why no picture: well I think that to refuse to speak with someone only because he/she didn't put a pic a mark of shallowness, so don't have a pic is a good and easy way to filter them. But of course if someone contacts me and wants to put a face on my name, no problem (in fact, I do it spontaneously if the contact becomes good and the other person doesn't ask).
And no, I've nothing to hide ;-) I'm not pretending I'm handsome or ugly since that's fairly subjective. But there things a picture can't "render": "inside the eyes" (haven't found a proper English translation - "intensité du regard" in French), body movements and the voice — what plays a far more important in the "chemistry" than a static picture (or many) - to me.
So, to answer the question: yep, I read the profile of faceless people. And for people with a picture: if I don't "like" the text (too high expectations for example), I don't answer or send the message even if the picture(s) is(are) pretty.
MilanaSw: Just curious to know. For myself I think that if person doesn't want to show face - he/she is not serious.
I agree, if you are on a dating site, is because you want people to see you and vice versa. I don't read such profiles and I don't reply to any messages coming from them either, something that I make clear on my own profile.
I can't help but think that people who don't want to be seen are hidding something, and are just either scammers or players, married people looking for something on the side. Maybe be a bit extreme to think like that but that is how i see it.
Margarete: I agree, if you are on a dating site, is because you want people to see you and vice versa. I don't read such profiles and I don't reply to any messages coming from them either, something that I make clear on my own profile.
I can't help but think that people who don't want to be seen are hidding something, and are just either scammers or players, married people looking for something on the side. Maybe be a bit extreme to think like that but that is how i see it.
Yep, I agree with you Margarete, my thoughts exactly.... I think however that I once heard someone say that because of the nature of the work he is involved in, it would be detrimental if his employer happened to identify him on a site... never quite sure if that was true or not...
I don't respond (usually) to messages or ims to profiles with not pics cause it is not fair I have 8 pics in my profile, all of them are recent and I change them often and I only expect that the persons that contact me have at least 3 pics, what is the point on getting online on one of these sites if you are not willing to show your pics anyway?
Margarete: I agree, my view on this is very black and white I am afraid, once this guy sent me a message here in CS, no pic, I decided to ask why no pic, and the lame excuse was that every time he tried to upload the pic, he would get an error... . I suggest that he should ask for help with the uploading,and when I politely declined his messages, he went all rude and disrespectful, which proved my point, infortunately.
LonelyMontse08: I don't respond (usually) to messages or ims to profiles with not pics cause it is not fair I have 8 pics in my profile, all of them are recent and I change them often and I only expect that the persons that contact me have at least 3 pics, what is the point on getting online on one of these sites if you are not willing to show your pics anyway?
Margarete: I agree, if you are on a dating site, is because you want people to see you and vice versa. I don't read such profiles and I don't reply to any messages coming from them either, something that I make clear on my own profile.
I can't help but think that people who don't want to be seen are hidding something, and are just either scammers or players, married people looking for something on the side. Maybe be a bit extreme to think like that but that is how i see it.
I am neither a scammer, a player or married. I am beautiful both inside and out. When the man meets me, he gets to see what a real down to earth person I am.
Englishman55Salisbury, Wiltshire, England UK6,405 posts
Margarete: I agree, my view on this is very black and white I am afraid, once this guy sent me a message here in CS, no pic, I decided to ask why no pic, and the lame excuse was that every time he tried to upload the pic, he would get an error... . I suggest that he should ask for help with the uploading,and when I politely declined his messages, he went all rude and disrespectful, which proved my point, infortunately.
Hi Margarete Sorry that happened to you. There is no excuse for rudeness and certainly no excuse for not being able to upload a photo.
CS will upload them for you if you are having problems yourself. All you need to do is E-mail the photos to the site and they will do it....... so his excuse was a lame one, and I hope if someone else tries to use it you are now knowledgeable enough to point this out to them.
Englishman55Salisbury, Wiltshire, England UK6,405 posts
mychelle: I am neither a scammer, a player or married. I am beautiful both inside and out. When the man meets me, he gets to see what a real down to earth person I am.
Don't you think you are limiting yourself though ?
If I were to ask you to send a photo prior to us meeting.... would you, and if not, why not ?
mychelle: I am neither a scammer, a player or married. I am beautiful both inside and out. When the man meets me, he gets to see what a real down to earth person I am.
mychelle: I am neither a scammer, a player or married. I am beautiful both inside and out. When the man meets me, he gets to see what a real down to earth person I am.
Hi Mychelle
I wish you the best of luck, but that is just my opinion and I will stick to my guns on that one.
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