Yes you are right that most of the women have had at least several such momments! As about a relationship, I have found out which men's types make me act like a drama queen and which one makes me calm and happy enough and doesn t bring the drama person out of me. For I am a quite emotional person and love plays a big role in my life, I need a very stable and confident man who would love me unconditionally and wouldn t pay too much attention to my drama moments. Since my drama moments are usually "drama for nothing", the too big attention to them would make me think that there is a real reason for my worry. In such moments, some humor helps a lot, it grounds me and make me see how absurd my overreaction is. So I love men with good sense of humor.
Dear Richard, your comments are always more than welcome! I couldn t say anything else but Amen! to what you say! As always, hope to see you more often here!
Hi Frank Very interesting that some drama people use every situation to take advantage over the other. I guess some of them remember every detail from the past and use it as a weapon out of the blue.
We talk generally about them but I guess there are different types of drams people. Some just can t overcome it, they really have psychological issues, and others just deliberately use this as a tactic to gain power.
Gordon, I am glad you see it from the funny side I guess some drama people are hard to handle especially when you hezitate whether they are victims or manipulators. And if you love them I guess it makes things even tougher.
Red, I like the funny and witty way you explain tough topics
Yes the topic about drama kings comes from CS. I guess there are more drama queens here too, than in reality, since most of the people here are hurt and lonely. One more reason to try to understand it.
Now, I think you dream of an easy-going relationship, when the monarchy is suspended and the proletariat rules
Yes I like too this meaning of the easy-going thing. When you know each other well enough not to be afraid to open yourself fully. When you communicate almost by telepathy
I agree Cyn and I am very sorry for your friend! It means a desperate try to escape from reality... Broken communication with themselves and the others. I hope you or others can help...
Thank you for your comment Cyn! It s interesting that you relate drama people to the ability of being easily manipulated. Since my first thought about them would be that it s them who are the manipulators. So it would be interesting if you elaborate why the are easy to be manipulated.
Mysst, I guess you mean regarding feelings, communicating, and relationships. It s well known that there are different types of intelligence and men and women are not statistically equal in them.
I have really seen women who play with men ('s feelings) in a masterly way. Many men like it, though. They accept is as a sigh of femininity. Or a sign of attention and love.
On the other hand, many women are utterly naive in love. They cause their own love troubles...
Ru probably you are right! That s why I try to find out how we women and men see each other and to define the terms and definitions we use! If we speak the same language, it s a step towards full happiness, eternal love, and perfect nirvana!
Mysst, I get your point :) I ve been told I was high maintenance regarding feelings and that man meant that I wanted/needed too much love (whatever it means ;). So it was equal to "needy" or too expecting, I guess...
I still think that many men don t know what actually women want from them and it really terrifies them. So they want to make it clear what would be expected from them so everyone is nice and happy ;) The uknown scares...
Does the drama behavior imply feminine features? Maybe only if it goes too far. Being sensitive for a man is not bad at all... probably only if it doesn t turn against him.
And finally, is an easy-going person a mouse? Whose presence is pleasant but not exciting, not challenging? That s what I am trying to understand :)
Cherrie you nailed it Well, a bit of drama in a love relationship can be fueling and inspirational for some people and saving from the routine. But I would never use it if I am not sure that it would only turn the man on
Mysst, I try Actually I try to find out it from a women's point of view so your contribution is appreciated
Now, what is low maintenance? I have heard it from men when I said I didn t smoke nor drink. On the other hand, I have been told I am high maintenance regarding feelings (that I need whole lotta love)
Very true, CuddlingSoul, and thank you for commenting! alas, we very often are tempted to open our mouth when it s not appropriate and then there is no way back... That s why we should try to be responsible for every word we say.
RE: my son's painting ?
He looks like a great guy, and very talented! Thank you for sharing and good luck to both of you!