Time To Talk, Time To Be Silent

You dont have to tell me Twice!!

Parti, I will keep nagging to test you

I act on Subtle Hints!!!

Parti, what are the subtle ways that trigger you best

Good advice but strong assertive types find it difficult to remain silent, when those who they deem lesser than themselves act in a way where admonishment is due and justified.
I'll not keep silent simply to keep the peace.

Ariel..I was a little noisier than usual today because the logs were so tempting!!!

logs?? I must think I'm a White Ant??.... Blogs..

Gordon, same here. I try to discipline myself in this area Meaning to know whether the situation/person deserves your words or silence.

Parti, I was just about to check "log" in the dictionary for some unknown for me meaning I prefer you noisy

When just meeting someone I suppose it depends on how comfortable you are with that person. There are times I've talked with a complete stranger and it's all small talk...but then when we reach a certain topic that catches, that topic gets sidetracked, then next thing you know you're talking about things you didn't even think you'd be discussing...which I would think how a conversation starts. But then you start to thnk to yourself, gee have I said too much? Even so...if the person decides they would like to talk to you again, obviously the conversation went well...if you don't hear back from them then lesson learned..either they weren't someone who would be right for you for friendship or otherwise or it just wasn't meant to be. Then you move on.

But then you also have to think...did that person discuss with you things that you really didn't want to know that early on? Or are you glad they've said what they've said so you can base your decision on whether this is someone you really want to be involved with.

In a relationship, if he's had a long day maybe there's things he wants to get off his chest too...I would let him speak...rant about how his day went and offer comfort or advice for any issues and then once he has spoke his mind, I'd ask if I could talk to him about something that was bothering me and continue from there...it should be a 50/50 conversation, otherwise there is lack of communication and relationships shouldn't be onesided, if they are then it will eventually causes problems in the longrun in that relationship.

And well this comment is starting to feel onesided as I'm writing a book lol Sorry for my extensive explanation on the topic

Ariel..Mum used to say that!! At least I know where you are!!

Red.. that was Good!!

Ty...hello parti

....that awkward moment when the battery on the laptop is about to die ...would love to continue but I gotta run. Left it off the charger overnight lol...hope the comment helps. I'll be around after work. Ariel

HMMM!! When nothing is said.Nothing is Done!!

Talk about Contradictions!! Actions speak louder than Words??

The Pen is mightier than the Sword?? Last time I took a Biro out onto the Front Line the Seargent Kicked me in the Azz!!

Jana,

Ever since I could think for myself (while sober) I had a rule that I applied to my mouth, and that is when my turn comes around to say something about the person being discussed I would rather say NOTHING if I had nothing GOOD to say about said person. Only if I can say positive words about him/her then I'd elaborate. Most times my trap stays shut. Of course one gets the exception of the 'taunter'. Life has over enough obstacles that any 'sane' person has to overcome and does not need my contribution to their downfall. My Mom always used to say that it takes hours or sometimes minutes to flush ones name down the toilet and will take years and years to repair. Good to see you Jana.

Thank you for your insightful comment Serenity and I agree with your points! In the klong run we know that we have to communicate, share etc, but sometimes in the specific moment we may hesitate and then it s gone. Or to postpone it forever because we are not ready for the answer.
I think that basically, the upfront way is the best one but the communication is an art too...

Parti, that was very wise of your mom Keep the noise going

No worries Serenity, have a great day and looking forward to you coming back

Nonsmoker, absolutely true The more you talk the bigger the risk (the less you say)

Mysst, now you can talk

I have learned to be silent when I should most of the time;-)

Great to see you too Balke Yes I have heard this rule many times but... sometimes you just have to say something negative or you ll burst Well some situations/people just beg for it
But you are right that we should avoid the bad when possible and not contribute to it

Goldie I have brakes when I have to talk and they are out of work when I have to be silent But generally they don t work too well

I usually talk until i have nothing more to say, until the next time i have something else to say

Sometimes i drink alone or with other people

Keep your words Sweet!! You never know when you may have to Eat them!!

Mysst, you are a mysterious man

A lot of times though I have something to tell, I just keep silent. Sometimes it helps, sometimes not. But then again, its my discretion not to say anything. Other times I ought to overreact and say things I should have not said in the first place.

There are just things that needs to be said ,and some things better to remained unspoken.

Jana.

@ Shay,,,I second you on that one. Similar here.

Hi dear Robert and thank you so much :) You keep blogging too!!!

It s good you are speechless... so we can do some action

You have a great Friday too

Shay and Balke (as you agree with Shay), most of the times when I have been silent, later I found out it was a right choice. On the other hand, being usually outspoken, I find it hard to share something important "just out of the blue". I refrain, refrain from saying it then the pressure gets so hard that I unleash it and it really seems like out of the blue

I think that 'pressure' you talk about is either anger or just typical womans reaction... A man knows when to duck so as not to be hit with verbal and/or flying objects